AnSh have mutual feelings for each other now?

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Khusi

@khusi_*

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Posted: 13 years ago

#31

lovely one tinoo...so what u think..we can expect...the word "mutual"..in the relationship of AnSh??

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Ritushree

@Ritushree_Nadal

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Posted: 13 years ago

#32

khusi i really dnt think that anandi has already fallen in love with shiv bt as u said she definitely bears some strong feelings for shiv.now whether it is love or something else that realisation might not come soon for anandi i think.CVs ll take time to show that.bt definitely hv mutual feelings for each other which r strong enough to turn into love some day

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bhoomi.s

@bhoomi.s

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Posted: 13 years ago

#33

Feelings? I'm not sure actually... Shiv is mighty impressed with Anandi and it shows, but I don't think he's realized where he's heading 😉 And Anandi? She's just relieved that someone actually thinks she, as a person, is worth something. It is a terrible feeling to always have to prove yourself, to have to live up to people's expectations and to believe that you deserve whatever raw deal you're getting. That, unfortunately, is what Anandi has been reduced to, thanks to Mr. Jagya. I think she just couldn't believe that someone actually thought she's great as she is. She's probably going to see Shiv as a confidante now, but I don't think she has feelings for him. It's much too early for that...

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dixie123

@dixie123

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Posted: 13 years ago

#34

Originally posted by: bhoomi.s
Feelings? I'm not sure actually... Shiv is mighty impressed with Anandi and it shows, but I don't think he's realized where he's heading 😉 And Anandi? She's just relieved that someone actually thinks she, as a person, is worth something. It is a terrible feeling to always have to prove yourself, to have to live up to people's expectations and to believe that you deserve whatever raw deal you're getting. That, unfortunately, is what Anandi has been reduced to, thanks to Mr. Jagya. I think she just couldn't believe that someone actually thought she's great as she is. She's probably going to see Shiv as a confidante now, but I don't think she has feelings for him. It's much too early for that...

Very well put Bhoomi 👏

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sreevask

@sreevask

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#35

So far, Anandi had bn conditioned by her family n society to give away...
For the first time,she learnt that she can receive...a much needed emotional support...
Now the blossom of her heart starts blooming till she identifies the forgotten the love left dormant...
Anxious 2 see the development of their emotional support into mutual understanding to share life...& I name this as love...

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: khusi_*
lovely one tinoo...so what u think..we can expect...the word "mutual"..in the relationship of AnSh??

Ahem -- since you ask my opinion (thank you for giving me so much importance 😆)...

I feel yes, we can expect the word mutual in the relationship of ansh.

But it worries me from anandi's perspective.

I think there are two aspects in a relationship --

1. the emotional attraction which comes about because of shared values, shared hobbies, shared viewpoints

2. the physical/sexual attraction between a man and a woman.

From the emotional attraction point of view it is already mutual -- they are already friends even if they have not yet put a name to it.

But there is a huge imbalance in the physical/sexual attraction point of view and I dont feel good about it.

I mean that shiv is confident and secure in his masculinity.

He is hot and he knows it.

He looks good and he knows it.

He is hunky and he knows it.

He is muscular and he knows it.

Shiv is complete

Anandi on the other hand, is very depressed about her femininity.

She feels ugly, rejected, unhappy and undesirable. Thanks to slimebag Jagya 🤢🤢

What I dont want happening is anandi falling for shiv not because of him, but because he gives her the validation that she so badly craves.

Often times, battered/abused women go with the first man who comes across their path who just even smiles at them or says a few good things ... just because they've never experienced that sort of admiration before ... and they think that just a man saying hello and smiling at them is love.

It's sort of like a sunflower -- even if you put in all sorts of stakes in the flower path and try to make it grow in the other direction -- it will still keep growing in the direction of the sun because the sun is nourishing it -- it will always try to move its face in the direction of the sun because the sun showers it with warmth.

So shiv is complete and going into a relationship to give his love to anandi. He does not want her validation as a man.

Anandi too should be complete and going into a relationship to give her love to shiv... not receive something from shiv.

If she goes into it because she receives love and admiration from him, and she is craving these for her validation as a woman then she will go into a co-dependent relationship ... which leaves the danger that if one day shiv withdraws his love for any reason, she will be back to square one.

My hope for anandi is that she becomes secure in her femininity in some other way BEFORE she hooks up with shiv ... so that she too is complete and full by herself... and not looking to shiv for her completion.

Edited by tinoo - 13 years ago

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bluerobin

@bluerobin

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Posted: 13 years ago

#37

@ tinoo - I felt I am reading a book " what is love " ... Never knew its as complicated as you described

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sreevask

@sreevask

Voyager

Posted: 13 years ago

#38

I don't think Shiv needs anything more from Anandi as he had already identified his priorities in her...now it's Anandi to identify this fact...then only it becomes two-way/mutual..
Shiv/Jagya never commented on her physical appearance nor had Anandi gone depressed of...

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tinoo

@tinoo

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Posted: 13 years ago

#39

Originally posted by: sreevask

I don't think Shiv needs anything more from Anandi as he had already identified his priorities in her...now it's Anandi to identify this fact...then only it becomes two-way/mutual..
Shiv/Jagya never commented on her physical appearance nor had Anandi gone depressed of...

I am not talking about her physical appearance. I am talking about her femininity -- it is her emotional setpoint as a woman that I am refering to.

I am also not talking about shiv's physical appearnace. I am talking about his masculinity - it is his emotional set point that i am refering to.

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AnjanaYYZ

@AnjanaYYZ

Stunner

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Posted: 13 years ago

#40

Tinoo - Not sure we are talking about the same thing. The thing I feel is that while Anandi has gained professional confidence, she is still lacking it on a personal level. Or maybe I am projecting🤔

Her own self worth is lacking and that was apparent in her conversation with Shiv and her dreams today. She is seeking validation. One should not enter any relationship with a "need" for validation. Validation must ideally come from self not external sources. One remains vulnerable so long as we continue to seek external validation. Shiv has no need for validation, which makes him complete within himself.

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Part of this personal self worth may have to do with her femininity, but not all of it. Jagat destroyed her self confidence on every level...including her intelligence, social skill set, etc. not just her femininity

Edited by AnjanaYYZ - 13 years ago

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