What is wrong with gauri's POV? - Page 4

Originally posted by: surabhi01

tinoo gauri banglore isliye nahi jaana chahth kyonki woh sng hospital mein kaam karne ka mauka nahi chodna chahti hai aur doosra tum gauri supporters ke logic mere samajh ke bahaar hai jub jagya ne 5 saal tuk dhokha diya tub to yeh kabhi nahi kaha gaya ki gauri ko jagya ko chod dena chahiye ab usne gas ke liye kya bol diya to gauri ko chodne ki baat ho rahi hai teesra gauri ne kul kya tha jagat hospital ki condition mut dekho pur jub jagya ko kisi acche hospital mein kaam mila woh bhi shehar bahaar jagya ko ms karne ko kehne lagi .

Originally posted by: tinoo

I see so many brickbats on the forum that gauri keeps telling j that she is bringing home the money and that he doesnt do anything. And people keep saying that she is trying to make him feel inferior.

I honestly dont see anything wrong in gauri's language.

It would be one thing if gauri was the one earning, and jagat had been incapicitated by an accident or a paralytic stroke ... then yes, her comments about her being the one bringing home the salary would be in bad taste because he was UNABLE TO WORK.

In the current situation he is fully capable and able-bodied -- and she wouldnt have any issues if he sat at home and studied. But he doesnt study either. He wont take up any job anywhere even as a bridge to a future career. Nobody said he needs to work in those hospitals on a lifelong basis... even as a bridge he wont take it up?

Anyway, she is not forcing him to work either ... all she wants is that he should have some goal in mind, and be disciplined enough to use this time wisely... but he does nothing except take naps in front of the tv, creating a filthy mess and then he yells that he is busy ... busy doing what I ask you? busy doing nothing?

So why is she wrong in reminding him that she is bringing the salary? She wants to ensure that he understands that he is not welcome in her life as a lifelong parasite who makes no contribution.

I genuinely wish to understand so will appreciate all replies.

Originally posted by: akvats01

It is true . but this is a hard truth. Gauri as a wife , should understand the ego of her man. A man's ego needs to be pampered always, and that is the key, how most of the man achieve high Goals.

With in 6 years she could not understand that J 's ego is higher then the normal man. Relation ship does not run with logics or truth. At some time truth takes a back seat. If some one is hurted , there is no Value of truth. S/he wont be able to understand. So no use of showing yourself as truth lover or expecting that other person would understand your logic..

As logics varies situation to situation and person to person..

I am sure , if it would have been Aanandi inplace of Gauri, she would have encouraged him to come out of all sudden scenarios which can upset any one in life.

In completion of MS, a charge on him that he is not sincere, though he has been a good doctor through out the acedemics, His divorce, Suddenly a shock that A was cheating on him, ( though it was not true, but Gauri and her mother has proved the same thing infront of J) His demand for money which he put infront because of string persuation of Gauri.

Gauri's parents behavior, in feriority complexin front of college mates, and at gauri's work place...

Though we do not J for what he has doen, But for Gauri to be his life partner, isnt it required for her to support him and help in coming out of all this phase of life. But instead she always teach him Saach ka Path..

while her Truth is also biased. She never speak that truth, which put her position down, like rality of funds for her study.. etc..

Some time it is Only love, which make sense, No truth. A depressed person may not be brought back by truth, but only by love and space to him.

I am sure, Anadi would have raised confidence in him , then lecturing him truth or un truth.

Originally posted by: tinoo

this is not really about gauri supporter or non supporter.

I am genuinely trying to understand. I am putting myself in that situation and even I would remind my husband that i am the one earning if he was simply sitting at home for no good reason.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

omg teesra counter thread pur koi baat nahi aankh band kur pataa lagaaya jaa sakta hai ki gauri supporter aur gauri non supporter ka kya reply hoga