self made gauri - Page 11

Originally posted by: tinoo

From a psychological perspective, I really love this insight. Thank you AshBendre!!

It explains why a lot of people are driven towards narcissism or ego driven behaviour.

From the outside it appears that they are bragging and self centered... but on the inside it is really a deep desire to know that somebody finds you valuable and an asset to their life ... and if that is not possible then they start appreciating themselves.

And this was triggered off yet again when jagat told her in essence that she is just a big burden who sucked everything away from him -- his village, his family etc. etc. Once more she is made to feel that she is a burden in someone's life and not an asset.

Brilliant!

Originally posted by: EkSapnoKiPari

agreed brilliant thought!👏👏

very rare ppl are tht understand the inside of the story and try to see the other perspective rather then judge on wht we see. i know what you are saying...i do understand thats why wasnt fi...but soem time it is imposible to make person see...and thats what is hapening...braging and shouting and giving apprcitoin is not going to make the mater resolve...it needs talking...people have choices evry time..v.raer in v.rare life dosnt give choice and one has to acept the things as been served on plater...but when given the chance and you chooses to go in wrong dirction then its not other person fault...now braging and shouting or anger or self aprectoin what so eva wont help you,,it will detroit yu more..only solution is talk...nothing less nothin more

an individual is shaped by the nuture and gauri longs for tht attentions from others shows that she doesnt need ppl she is self made, because of tht she is failing to appriciate wht others have done because she doesnt think ppl out thr in the world are gud, she finds then selfish therefore she arrogant

well thats my thinking anyway

Originally posted by: EkSapnoKiPari

@Payalibm: well if its destroying Gauri then thats her fate, change isnt easy and takes effort.

if gauri is not understanding n others r not understanding her then better stop trying n both parties do whteva they feel right and not go the way where there is no way. no point making each other understand something when both of them wont understand better stop and just accept reality. no one likes to keep getting hurt everyone has a different nature, expecting them to act and behave like us then its completely wrong.

not saying gauri isnt correct but she cannot be fully blamed too. in some way she is self made and in some ways she is not its all about the perspective