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jyothi

@pjyo

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

#51

with gauri what can jagya be other than adjusting😉 ,if he shouts at gauri she will shout back louder😵,if he gets angry she throws bigger temper tantrums,chup chap ghar kaa khaana yaad karte karte sANdwich khaa lethaa hai varna woh bhi naseeb nahi hoga😆...

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#52

@vasuja

J hid everything from G because he doesn't want G to get angry at him or create trouble in his relationship, NOT because he thinks G unworthy to learn about his life.

You can call J dishonest and coward that he can't even tell the truth to G for the fear of her reaction, but the fact remains he does everything to keep his relationship ummm, what shall I say, "stable" and does not want want any quarrel or bitterness in their relationship

But in case of A, he did not hid facts because he was concerned about A's pain - he was inflicting enough pain on her by his attitude ; he hid it from her because of the family.

So there is a vast difference in the way J treated A and G. Of course, he should not have done that - but it shows the importance J gives to A or G in his life.

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vasuja

@vasuja

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#53

Originally posted by: doyelpakhi
@vasuja

J hid everything from G because he doesn't want G to get angry at him or create trouble in his relationship, NOT because he thinks G unworthy to learn about his life.

You can call J dishonest and coward that he can't even tell the truth to G for the fear of her reaction, but the fact remains he does everything to keep his relationship ummm, what shall I say, "stable" and does not want want any quarrel or bitterness in their relationship

But in case of A, he did not hid facts because he was concerned about A's pain - he was inflicting enough pain on her by his attitude ; he hid it from her because of the family.

So there is a vast difference in the way J treated A and G. Of course, he should not have done that - but it shows the importance J gives to A or G in his life.

i agree with u doyel. To hide the things and do inspite of knowing she will dislike it will not be a right thing to say. Many men hide illegal activities and extra marital affair from their wife: can it be said they do it to save the relationship. When one does a thing that is disliked to the core by their partner then it is called disrespect to their partner's love and trust... But i can agree it is not a big deal becoz Gauri is ok with it. Looks like till Jaggu stays by her side, share household responsibilty and do not have any contact with Anandi to her knowledge she is ok with him in hiding things...She can accept all jaggu deceit in name of love...I do agree J gives importance to G and that is by taking her tantrums and hiding things to balance the relationship, but is he truthfula and respects her feelings? I doubt it...J gives importance to G, but is it sacha pyaar i am not sure...Sacha pyaar basis is trust and sharing everything according to me. But standards of true love does vary from person to person. So may be J does have sacha pyaar for G, the same way he had for A and later fell out of love.

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Suchi-

@Suchi-

Sparkler

+ 3

Posted: 14 years ago

#54

Originally posted by: doyelpakhi
@vasuja

J hid everything from G because he doesn't want G to get angry at him or create trouble in his relationship, NOT because he thinks G unworthy to learn about his life.

You can call J dishonest and coward that he can't even tell the truth to G for the fear of her reaction, but the fact remains he does everything to keep his relationship ummm, what shall I say, "stable" and does not want want any quarrel or bitterness in their relationship

But in case of A, he did not hid facts because he was concerned about A's pain - he was inflicting enough pain on her by his attitude ; he hid it from her because of the family.

So there is a vast difference in the way J treated A and G. Of course, he should not have done that - but it shows the importance J gives to A or G in his life.

Thats because as he himself said when gauri and j found out about their legal status from Bhairav, g asked j to get out and he said where will I go. He has landed in a mess , he has no choice but to stay with her unless the family opens arms again

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jyothi

@pjyo

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

#55

Originally posted by: doyelpakhi
@vasuja

J hid everything from G because he doesn't want G to get angry at him or create trouble in his relationship, NOT because he thinks G unworthy to learn about his life.

You can call J dishonest and coward that he can't even tell the truth to G for the fear of her reaction, but the fact remains he does everything to keep his relationship ummm, what shall I say, "stable" and does not want want any quarrel or bitterness in their relationship

But in case of A, he did not hid facts because he was concerned about A's pain - he was inflicting enough pain on her by his attitude ; he hid it from her because of the family.

So there is a vast difference in the way J treated A and G. Of course, he should not have done that - but it shows the importance J gives to A or G in his life.

If he really cared to make his relationship stable he would have got divorce from anandi,if he can beg for her for money why not beg divorce from anandi too...-just for gauri to feel completly secure and to prove to her "even legally iam not connected to anandi any more" ..

And he wasnt concerned about anandi's pain AT ALL- Infact he gave a damn what happened to her..he himself said to sumitra,"i have thrown anandi out of my life,you too throw her out"-.😲... this isnt how you behave if you are bothered about someone's pain..

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Khusi

@khusi_*

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 14 years ago

#56

Originally posted by: pjyo
If he really cared to make his relationship stable he would have got divorce from anandi,if he can beg for her for money why not beg divorce from anandi too...-just for gauri to feel completly secure and to prove to her "even legally iam not connected to anandi any more" ..
And he wasnt concerned about anandi's pain AT ALL- Infact he gave a damn what happened to her..he himself said to sumitra,"i have thrown anandi out of my life,you too throw her out"-.😲... this isnt how you behave if you are bothered about someone's pain..

exactly...u dont care fine...but the ppl(sumi,bhairon) who r also somehow responsible(conducting child marrige) for A's prob can take care of her...who r u...say them..throw her out😡 phew...i cant even find a single +ve point in J.

and money matter...

if in near future...j will get finanacial help from any other source...i am sure..he can go to any extent to destroy her life!!...calling her mentally not stable or even characterless!

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jyothi

@pjyo

Rocker

Posted: 14 years ago

#57

Originally posted by: khusi_*
exactly...u dont care fine...but the ppl(sumi,bhairon) who r also somehow responsible(conducting child marrige) for A's prob can take care of her...who r u...say them..throw her out😡 phew...i cant even find a single +ve point in J.

and money matter...

if in near future...j will get finanacial help from any other source...i am sure..he can go to any extent to destroy her life!!...calling her mentally not stable or even characterless!

wohi toh ,his extent of selfishness shocks me-how could he ask anandi to be thrown out,the same girl who saved his life...is he soo emotionally dead.🤔.people are more caring even towards a pet-feel sad when they have to let go here he has lived 16 years with anandi and wants her thrown out ..horrible..😳..

and selfishness toh dekho ,when he neded money he has no qualms begging in front of her..--Its like he has only changed the dynamics of their relationship -not romantic anymore but expects everything else to be just the same🤔-.hamara rishta badal gayaa but bapusa se meri recommendation karr do for money..as sumitra said jagya will always need anandi...🤔

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#58

And he wasnt concerned about anandi's pain AT ALL-

That's exactly I say! He was not concerned about A at all.

As far as the divorce case is concerned - I agree with you pjyo

At the same time the lawyers have frightened him by saying that he will go to jail because as he not only has committed infidelity but he has fooled the court by his fake registry marriage.

So even if A files case, if the fake marriage comes out before court, there is high chance that court will punish him for fooling the court.

If J really needs to get divorce without being in jail, not only A but her lawyers have to discreet about JG relationship too ;)

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#59

Originally posted by: vasuja

i agree with u doyel. To hide the things and do inspite of knowing she will dislike it will not be a right thing to say. Many men hide illegal activities and extra marital affair from their wife: can it be said they do it to save the relationship. When one does a thing that is disliked to the core by their partner then it is called disrespect to their partner's love and trust... But i can agree it is not a big deal becoz Gauri is ok with it. Looks like till Jaggu stays by her side, share household responsibilty and do not have any contact with Anandi to her knowledge she is ok with him in hiding things...She can accept all jaggu deceit in name of love...I do agree J gives importance to G and that is by taking her tantrums and hiding things to balance the relationship, but is he truthfula and respects her feelings? I doubt it...J gives importance to G, but is it sacha pyaar i am not sure...Sacha pyaar basis is trust and sharing everything according to me. But standards of true love does vary from person to person. So may be J does have sacha pyaar for G, the same way he had for A and later fell out of love.

very true! J's running after A's car or midnight conversation with A were all done keeping G in dark - at least J thought he has kept her in dark - but the main point is - were those really necessary? 😉 specially when he knew that G will hate it!

Still - J has shown much more concern or importance to G than A. He has only shown importance to A when she has fulfilled his requirements!

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#60

kya anmol sa ! sirf like karke chor dia ye post! no support for jaggu dada ! 😃

since I have become the :"devil's advocate" in this post - I would like to state a few more points in favor of the devil ie. our Jaggu dada!

Even if we see it from the legal point of view, then government of India has allowed people to file for divorce withing two years of attaining adulthood. So by 20, one has to decide whether one wants to stay with childhood bride/ groom. Why is government of India giving two years time? Why not it's saying that one has to decide first whether to continue the marriage or not at 18? I am not any legal expert, but what as a layperson I can understand is that government is giving time to the couples to make the decision after knowing each other. After being legally adult, there is no problem if a couple stays together. So two years is enough to decide whether they can live together or not.

On the other hand, if we look at practically, couples, bound in child marriage, start staying together since the age of 14-15 which means that even if one wants to nullify the child marriage, both parties get the time to know each other for some years.

By that logic, Jaggu dada has started staying with A at 18 and by 20 our Jaggu dada had decided that G is his choice. Even if we say that J has accepted the marriage done in childhood truth is A and J did not really know each other - J has changed a lot in his mentality which is very natural.

A has accpeted him as she could not even think of abandoning J but is it necessary that J has to accept her too even though there there is so little compatibility?

When the government is giving time to the couples to know each other before deciding, then what's the problem if J decided to terminate his relationship with A after having a relationship with her???

Personally, I think someone's real character comes out when he /she comes out of the shelter of parents and start dealing with the world on their own. It was then we become practical and know what we really want in life, what we can really do in life. That's why J, when started living in Mumbai independently, he became clear about his wishes and ambitions which again is very natural.

Edited by doyelpakhi - 14 years ago

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