One woman's true story - Page 2

Thanks all for such wonderful replies and suggestions...for taking out time to understand a woman's conditions..and to read her story and empathize with her...
I'll convey to her your encouragement, concern, suggestions and good wishes. 😊...

yes please do convey : )...

Wow!! I am so impressed with this story. I too went through a milder version of this. My in-laws family took me for granted and said a lot of hurtful things to me for years. My parents turned a blind eye to that. My husband was busy trying to keep peace and most of the times convinced me to not react. After 16 years - I finally mustered up the courage to put my foot down and stopped talking to them completely.

@lastmin : ) I am glad that you have mustered up the courage and now finally regained the strength , the inner peace :)

i wud say every dog has his day... had God gives everyone opportunities in life.. instead of succumbing to desire of suicide she accepted the scars and built a new life.. its gud but its sad.. too.. she is now changed.. and i dont know for good or for bad..

Bravo Rashmi...Hats off to her..your friend is the true inspiration...but i think she should forgive her husband & start the new life..i know its very difficult & i am not feeling pity for her husband but i think she has the right to be happy..if she decided not to divorce him then she should give her marriage a second chance...else she cant be happy in this situation...life is very beautiful dear..so live it to the fullest..good luck to her..

Originally posted by: lastmin

All I can say is that once you find that inner strength - people respect you more and dn't take you for granted. I am raising my daughter to believe in this strength and rely on it from now itself!!

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Originally posted by: annika20

Admire your friend for moving on and rebuilding her life...It must have been really painful and difficult for her...

In Indian society it is even more difficult to move on. Also, even women themselves are wary of being actually gutsy and assertive. They are made to feel almost guilty if they're assertive! They expect women to be gentle and docile even if she's a CEO!

Indian serials can never be expected to show such battered women, ultimately becoming independent and assertive. On the contrary, they show them forgiving the man and even accepting him back in life because after all, a woman needs a man for her life to be ''complete''! Indians still think home is a woman's right place and jobs or professional success is not what a woman needs. Women need to stand on their own feet only if there is no one else to provide for them! Till date, even in urban areas people primarily educate their girls so that they can get her a good groom! 🤢

Gone are the days of a Shanti or an Udaan on Indian television...😔

[If they show Anandi accepting Jagya back in her life as Gehna accepted Basant, I'd quit watching this show forever! 🤢 I had first stopped watching it last year when it seemed they had after all, justified child marriage since all was going well in everyone's lives! Anandi may forgive him, but she should never let him even come in the vicinity of her neigbourhood!]

Thanks again everyone for their inputs...
I just wanted to add a bit more of detail. Her parents never deserted her in her time of trouble...there was a string of events involving her parents, too long to put details here..but they did take very hard stands too. The only thing they were not able to support her on...was that they didn't have a heart to go ahead and file a divorce case in the court...somehow they didn't gather the emotional courage for taking this bold stand.

However when they got to know about her decision to study further...they were very happy and wanted to provide financial support for her studies. But by then, she had her own savings from her job...and she didn't want anyone's financial support because she believed she could manage her life herself---and she just needed their blessings...

...infact they really insisted to help her out... but she was pretty firm-that after struggling so much...she has gathered the courage to stand on her own feet...and taking help would affect her strength. So she herself refused their help, and has requested her parents to help out women, who need support. And they were happy and proud to promise her that.

Also they spoke to Sachin for divorce (like 3 years after Sachin-Rashmi marriage...by then he already loved her)--and clearly told him, whatever he has done-its better that the two separate...but Sachin seemed very determined and confident that divorce will not be needed ..and he will do whatever it takes to rebuild their marriage...

So her parents did try earlier in terms of talking----but by the time, line in 2-3 years,when they decided that now should take some concrete step,...both Rashmi and Sachin, had made up their minds about what they wanted to do--and were pretty firm on staying on their own chosen course of action.---Rashmi didn't want help for her life any more...and Sachin seemed too determined to make their marriage work...