Why didn't Anandi go with her parents?

Felt really sorry for her parents yesterday. They were so heart broken 😭 - especially so when their own daughter made them paraya. Unfortunately that is the social conditioning of girls 🤔


No matter what - now that Anandi herself says that Gauri is the DIL of the haveli, she has no business staying there. She was anyway all set to leave before dadisa's heart attack.
Sure her in laws are nice - but she can't continue staying there on that basis. Only if she leaves can the family now move on and pave the path for Jag-Gauri's acceptance - because this is what Anandi claims she wants them to do!

i feel anandi is of those women who believe once maried they wil live til death at that place yes that time she wanted to leave haveli may she thought her goin out wud solve the problem bt inner belief is to remain there only.i feel one needs to change some belief as per situation in life bt its feels sad to hear it from her.

Yesterday she said...uss parivaar ko kaise chod doon jisne ek parayi ladki ke liye apne bete ko paraya ker diya(How can I leave tht family who disowned their son for Daughter in law)

This line answers the question...she feels indebted by the love her inlaws have given her...She was leaving house wen jagya came with Gauri Bhairov stopped her frm going and disowned Jagya...What singh family has done is rare usually u wont see many indian families supporting DILs instead of sons...even if they do 2nd marriage they finally accept the son and 1st DIL can go to hell...I have seen real life examples.

Originally posted by: niharika_n

Yesterday she said...uss parivaar ko kaise chod doon jisne ek parayi ladki ke liye apne bete ko paraya ker diya(How can I leave tht family who disowned their son for Daughter in law)

This line answers the question...she feels indebted by the love her inlaws have given her...

Agree with you - that makes sense. But probably she could have just stuck to this point instead of saying that her parents are paraya and their home is no longer hers That was not a right message to be sending out that girls are no longer part of their parental homes after marriage.

Exactly my thoughts ! Infact, I made a too long post regarding A's dialogues! 😛

A should have emphasized how Singh family has supported her in her life; how they have banished their son from their life for her; she should have made the focus on the fact that - relationships are not only dictated by blood relations and social norms, but there can be what we call dil ka rishta which becomes more strong and important than any other relation.


Instead A went on harping about the teachings that her mother taught her to be a good beendni. She even said "ek ki galti ki saja, dusro ke kyun mile"?

Come on, is she staying because she thinks she has to fulfill her duty as "beendni" ?? Or is she staying because her relationship with Bhairon, Sumitra and others are too strong and has nothing to do whether she is the beendni of the house or not. . She did say that she will leave the house as "beti" but it was not properly highlighted.

@niharika

G will see fault in A this time too. By leaving the haveli, A could have shown that she wants to move away from the family but for her decission G will think that she is not ready to give up the status of "beendni" of the house, specially after hearing the justifications given by A yesterday.

After all, in society, A will be considered as the "beendni" and everyone will think that A is there because she is the actual beendni of the house. A's moving out will send one clear message that she no longer consider herself as the beendni of the house. It's another matter whether Singh family would accept G or not, but G cannot accuse A for putting hurdles on her path.

@doyelpakhi dear no matter what Anandi does gauri will take it negatively...She is blinded by jealousy tht any action action will seem negative to her. So its better tht Anandi stop caring abt Gauri's emotions and do whatever she feels like...in a way I liked her staying back...It was a slap to Gauri tht I am not going to run away frm my family just beacuse u came here.

@niharika

Aahhh! I got your argument, but A did not explain herself very well yesterday I fear.

Though I still feel that A, for some time could have gone with her parents. Going away with parents did not mean that you have to severe the ties. They could be in regular touch, A. could come and stay in Jetsar whenever she feels like. In the meantime, Bhago and Khajan would have understood how much the Singh family loves their daughter.

Also, the Singh family would never have accepted JG relationship so JG does not come into the picture. But A would have come clean before every one that she did not try to put hurdle in anyone's path.

Anandi is clean like kristal clear water. She hs proved herself and she dosnt need to prove anyone. If anyone need to prove it G. She need to prove her very existence in tht haweli, her status. 😆 😆

Originally posted by: doyelpakhi

@niharika

Aahhh! I got your argument, but A did not explain herself very well yesterday I fear.

Though I still feel that A, for some time could have gone with her parents. Going away with parents did not mean that you have to severe the ties. They could be in regular touch, A. could come and stay in Jetsar whenever she feels like. In the meantime, Bhago and Khajan would have understood how much the Singh family loves their daughter.

Also, the Singh family would never have accepted JG relationship so JG does not come into the picture. But A would have come clean before every one that she did not try to put hurdle in anyone's path.

I dont think she has severed ties with her family and wld visit them like any normal person would...and I am sure she wld have visited them also frm time to time..its just tht they r not covering them in the show...

Originally posted by: ankit111

Anandi is clean like kristal clear water. She hs proved herself and she dosnt need to prove anyone. If anyone need to prove it G. She need to prove her very existence in tht haweli, her status. 😆 😆

We know that Anandi is like crystal clear but does the characters in the serial know 😕 😉

There is a saying that one has to prove oneself by own actions not by words. Since A herself has declared that she doesn't want to force J to be in marriage and G is the DIL of the house, so why doesn't she do everything to make it happen? In a way, she is giving G an option to point fingers at her.

Let's forget about G - as she finds fault in everything A will do.

what about the reactions of the villagers? For them A's stay in haveli will mean that haveli ppl has accepted her as the beendni and A is doing the right thing by asserting her rights as beendni. Noone will understand the real reason for A's stay.

It's not wrong to assert one's right but Anandi is not ready to do that and let J do whatever he wants because one can't force anyone to stay in relationship.

So, what's the point in carrying on the title "haveli ki beendni" when the marriage has become a sham? As long as she stays in the haveli, she will be the beendni of the haveli (abandoned by husband) for the villagers. She will never be just Anandi for them. Does a self respecting woman like A would be really happy about it?

By going away with her parents, she does not hurt her parents, does not give G a chance to point fingers at her, have her own identity and at the same time she can keep contact with her sasra and be on their side in their problems.

@ niharika - in my post i meant - anandi's departure with her parents do not mean severing ties with her in laws. She can keep in touch with Jetsar ppl and can visit them whenever she pleases.