Why didn't Anandi go with her parents?

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ankit111

@ankit111

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Posted: 14 years ago

#11

Very good whn Anandi do anything, she is criticized for being mahan, whn she dosnt do she is questioned why she is not doing. And its only Anandi proved her cleanness by her act and G want to prove by word
As concern to serial character they all know how clean she is and Thts wht they all lobe her which make madam G psycho, the only person who dosnt want to accept her cleanness and there is no need to prove her. But she is roaming everywhere with her KYUN KYUN 😆 😆 😆

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

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Posted: 14 years ago

#12

Aree bhai Ankit .. why are you even comparing G with A?😛

Does G's wrong action justify A's wrong's action? Ok - A has not done anything wrong but suppose she does anything wrong.

As far as A's mahanta is concerned, most people in the forum were criticizing her attitude because she was not thinking about her future and her own identity; she did not question J; she thought Jagya and Jagat are two different persons and she can only wait for Jagya even though there is no hope. Even on J's SR night with G, Anandi was roaming in the house thinking about J and height case - after J's SR, A and J came face to face, A stood still and looked at J and it was J who did not look at her while it was A who should have ignored J.

The same question remains now - what identity will A have in front of society? Will she be happy to be known the beendni of the haveli (abandoned by husband) asserting her rights??? Will she be happy if she finds that people think that she is asserting her right as beendni even if it's not true?

By moving out - A shows her mahanta as well as takes a step forward to make her own

Edited by doyelpakhi - 14 years ago

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woman11

@woman11

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+ 2

Posted: 14 years ago

#13

Though I would have loved Anandi to move out of the haveli, I can see three reasons why she didn't:

1. Anandi has been brainwashed and socially conditioned to believe in certain things. She steadfastly believes in her duties towards her in laws, she believes in the impossibility to leaving one's husband or sasural, she believes that a woman can never leave her marital home till death. To go against these beliefs is blasphemy for her and she will find it almost impossible to assert anything different. It's pathetic to see her asserting these beliefs but given that she has been brought up since her childhood to believe in these ideas, given that she did not have exposure to progressive ideas, given that she stays in a rural environment where these beliefs are the strongest, I can see why she behaves the way she does.

I have repeatedly mentioned in my posts that lets not compare Anandi with ourselves. Most of us here have never been brought up or even seen an environment like Anandi. Most of us are educated, privileged girls who have been exposed to progressive ideas like women's rights, independence and gender equality. Our parents are not like Anandi and they have not married us off in our childhood, nor have they taught us to blindly follow the patriarchal norms. There's a hell lot of a difference between Anandi and us. We will never behave like Anandi, nor can we expect Anandi to behave like us. And yet, whenever we assess Anandi we apply our own models of judgment to her--------why is she so submissive? why doesn't she leave her husband? why doesn't she have self respect? why does she take so much BS? We ask all these questions precisely because we think Anandi is a girl like us and should therefore behave like us !!!! May be the CVs should subvert Anandi to send out a message to the audience, but on the other hand they are doing a commendable job in portraying a truly unexposed, regressive rural woman. Do one experiment about audience reaction. If you are in India and have a maid at home, just let your maid watch this serial and ask for her opinion. I can guarantee you that you will be surprised how different her response is to the same serial------unless of course she is like one of the maids we once had, the member of a zonal nari shakti group 😆

2. The other reason why I think Anandi is not leaving the haveli has to do with her own emotions. In this she is not being mahaan, but rather looking into her own happiness finally. She is emotionally attached to the Singh family more than her own parents, precisely because she has spent more time with them than her parents. Even when she stayed away from her saasra for 5 years, she used to miss the Singh family a lot and was indeed ecstatic to go back. The very thought of staying away from them is painful to her and she can't handle that pain any more. Losing Jagya has been a major blow to her emotions, now she is desperately trying to be close to the people she loves the most after Jagya. I don't see her being mahaan in this, rather she is being a little selfish in going for what makes her most happy. She is emotionally too shaken to take another pain of separation from the loved ones. I don't see why she should pain herself again, only to prove a point to Gauri and the villagers.

3. The third reason is obviously, the feeling of indebtedness. She feels indebted to the love the family has given to her, even at the cost of their son.

Edited by woman11 - 14 years ago

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

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Posted: 14 years ago

#14

Loved your post Anthara woman 11! 👏

If the CVs would have portrayed it clearly that because of no 2 and no. 3 A is staying in haveli, there would not have been too much problem and would not have sent any wrong message.

But the way A emphasized the role of good beendni etc, it seemed, it's because of no. 1 reason she is staying there. Though it might be realistic, but since she is the protagonist, CVs should subvert her character to send a strong message.

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redapple1

@redapple1

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Posted: 14 years ago

#15

I see your point Antara. I remember our house maid's daughter who grew up with us. No matter how much my mom tried to educate her she refused saying she will get married soon and there is no point in studying. Later after she was married she worked in the fields to bring home the money to give it to her drunkard husband. That chap would get drunk and then hit her. I would get so angry why she stayed with that idiot, but that girl thought that was her life and wouldn't listen to any of us.

Today as I was reading cnn I was kind of shocked to read Cameroon news where the mom's take hot iron to flat young girl's breast so that they are less attractive to boys. What is this???? Why not teach boys that girls are not sex objects but actual human beings. Being a woman how you can torture your own daughter is beyond my comprehension…If you brainwash your girls that they are sex objects and need to look less attractive, how will they even develop any kind of self confidence as they grow up? 😡😡

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vivacious_priya

@vivacious_priya

Voyager

Posted: 14 years ago

#16

Originally posted by: muktha_cute
she wont leave them
she only trys to behave like she is mahan but she is not
she just cant leave them coz she cant leave all theproperty and that luxorious life and go backto poor life

what is the most funniest thing is she want jg tobe together but always comes in their middle
neither she gives j divoce but want jg to have married life
and she thinks someday j will return to her

extreme level of shamelessness she is educated bt dnt have selfrespect
she is ntng except a dongi maan mein kuch aur baharkuch aur

lolsss
ohh common dont repeat Gauri's dialogues!!!
😆
i can understand dat why she says all dis to anandi as she z in extreme level of insecurity.. but dear why u?????? lolsss..
on d topic i would say yes i also wanted dat anandi should go wid her parents!!!
but i think she z being living in dat haveli from childhood only n has spent more yrs in haveli rather dan home.. so she must be attached to her home!!!
watever it z i think cvs will show Anandi rise up on her own wid dis fall n she will be a big politician.. n move in laal batti!!😆

Edited by vivacious_priya - 14 years ago

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Purva

@-Purva-

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Posted: 14 years ago

#17

Everytime Anandi went back home, Bhago forced her to go back to the Saasra. In fact Anandi's gauna took place because Bhago wanted the girl to go to the Saasra. When Anandi ran away from home as a child, Bhago scolded her and told her to go back. When Anandi was shot, Bhago said that the Singhs are better able to take care of her. When Dadisa got Jagya married to Gudiya, Bhago said that she wanted Anandi to win this battle on her own. When Bhairon sent Anandi to her village Bhago still objected saying that she had more faith in Bhairon being able to take of the matter than herself. So now it is kind of funny when Bhago sheds tears that Anandi is not going back home.

She abandoned her daughter in the time of her need everytime, so how can Anandi trust her parents. On the other hand Bhairon and Sumitra have always supported her and loved her, so why should she not trust them now?

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woman11

@woman11

Voyager

+ 2

Posted: 14 years ago

#18

Originally posted by: vivacious_priya

lolsss
ohh common dont repeat Gauri's dialogues!!!
😆

Lol priya, looks exactly like Gauri herself has visited the forum🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

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mamathamukundan

@mamathamukundan

Beginner

Posted: 14 years ago

#19

I think Anandis decision 2 stay bk in haveli is rite.if she went 2 hr parents place she wil hve 2 face many humiliations 4rm neighbours nd also frm society.Then hr parents wil defenitly try 2 remarry hr nd she wil bcme smeones illegal wife just like phoole.That wil only create an insecurity in hr life nd her future wil b in dark.so it wil b better 4 hr 2 stay in haveli nd concentrate on hr studies.once she bcme capable 2 stnd on hr feet,she can seek 4 a divorce nd can legally marry sme eductd nd wel settld man.Aftr al singh family 2 hve responsiblty 2wards hr.she hd servd them fr 15 years nd dey r equaly responsible 4 hr presnt conditn.so nw its their turn 2 reciprocte wot Anandi had dne 4 dem nd 2 mke hr future bright.

Edited by mamathamukundan - 14 years ago