How could Gauri have verified the truth? - Page 2

I dnt think by goin to haveli she wud find what jagya feels about anandi.she would get same replies as she is geting.n may be ds would have emotionaly blackmailed jagya .see even today jagya stood firm regarding love for gauri.what jagya feels for gauri would be something which cud nt be find out by asking villagers.I dnt think she ruined any one s life.the moment jagya fel in love with her same day anandi s life ruined.after that JAAN relation wud only continue on compromise.N i agree tinoo n hina

Originally posted by: KyunkiImafan

Tinoo its not about finding out how "intimate" your bf was to his first wife. Its about finding out why would his family disowned him. As I explained in my post...she could have easily talked with random ppl in village...no need to disclose her identity. She can find out by saying, Aapke gav mei koi daacter nahi hai? they would have said badi haveli ka ladesaar is studying in Mumbai for mbbs. then from there on conversation can be started and she can know lot of things! No need to confront anyone or disclose anything or meet Haveli ppl. And at least after knowing all of these info she could have waited for some time to marry J no need to marry overnight! Forget about intimacy or love, she would have understood that Anandi has always been there for J so at least she could have not ruined an innocent's life overnight...wait kar leti thodi jasoosi kar leti!

Gauri could have found out the truth in several ways:

1. Asking Lal Singh about Jagya's past and the reasons why he was upset with Jagya. Asking Lal Singh about Anandi too, as well as Jagya's family.

2. Letting the elders involve in the marriage. She should have confided in bade papa. He being a mature, sensible man would have done his own enquiries and sensed the kind of person Jagya is. His one interview with Jagya made him suspicious, if he had grilled Jagya properly, he would have understood many things about the guy that Gauri missed. Gauri should have recalled Bade papa was the first one to sense something was wrong with Jagya, his sense of assessing people is great

3. Letting her parents go to the haveli and resolve certain issues before marriage. If her parents would have met the Singh family, informing them about Gauri's potential marriage with Jagya, a lot of truths would have come out. True, there would have been clashes, insults and bitternesses, but it would have saved their daughter of all the torture she went through later. The truths that Gauri is learning now would have been out much before. Also, Gauri would have had a clearer picture of her own position in the haveli and she would have never tried to go back to the haveli.
Since G's mother is so insistent on rasms, she should have fulfilled the first rasm of a marriage, that is talking to the guy's parents before the marriage.

It's a fact that a marriage is often a matter of luck, even if people make proper enquiries and investigations, there's no guarantee that the guy would be good. But the point here is Gauri didn't even try------------she walked into the fire blindly and is still burning in it but in ignorance

Originally posted by: chulbuli7

Well, I see people pointing out that it would have been difficult for Gauri to go to the village/Haveli alone and try to find truth about Jagya. Ok Agreed.

But didn't she know that this guy has been cheating her for the last 5 years?? And that he was married to Anandi??

Before coming to any conclusions about Jagya's feelings for anyone (Herself or Anandi), she should have (and I think any sensible person in this situation would) talked to Anandi.

She had already met her in Mumbai (as a relative of J). So Anandi is not a complete stranger. She could have had a one-on-one conversation with her, and tried to know Anandi's version of the story. Definitely Anandi wouldn't have told her about their physical intimacy, but she would have told her about their Love, which last the ups and downs of the past 16 years.

This could have opened Gauri's eyes, that Jagya was just physically attracted towards Gauri's modern educated outlook, and nothing more than that. And the day Anandi would become equally educated, there would be very high chances for this attraction to die down.

where there is a will there's a way...she cld have asked lal singh...or his wife..I am sure being frm same village she wld be having some info maybe not intimate details..she could have discussed it with bade papa he could have helped her in tht...what was the hurry to get married ?? she waited for 5 years couldnt she wait till her MS was complete...tht wld have given her ample time find out more info...blind trust is a bad thing tht too wen the guy had already lied for 5 years.

Originally posted by: tanvismile

I dnt think by goin to haveli she wud find what jagya feels about anandi.she would get same replies as she is geting.n may be ds would have emotionaly blackmailed jagya .see even today jagya stood firm regarding love for gauri.what jagya feels for gauri would be something which cud nt be find out by asking villagers.I dnt think she ruined any one s life.the moment jagya fel in love with her same day anandi s life ruined.after that JAAN relation wud only continue on compromise.N i agree tinoo n hina

exactly tanvi , kyaa kar leti investigation karke, jagya actions proved that he loves her, she already knew family has disowned him

Gauri could have asked bade papa what he thought about her marrying Jagat. Bade papa had sensed something fishy about Jagat. Bade papa would have done the back ground check for her and would have given advise accordingly.
She could have asked Jagat himself why was it so urgent to marry without completing the studies? What was the need? It was not something like you would get tax break by filing jointly ( given the fact that they don't earn :-) )...

Originally posted by: woman11

Gauri could have found out the truth in several ways:

1. Asking Lal Singh about Jagya's past and the reasons why he was upset with Jagya. Asking Lal Singh about Anandi too, as well as Jagya's family.

2. Letting the elders involve in the marriage. She should have confided in bade papa. He being a mature, sensible man would have done his own enquiries and sensed the kind of person Jagya is. His one interview with Jagya made him suspicious, if he had grilled Jagya properly, he would have understood many things about the guy that Gauri missed. Gauri should have recalled Bade papa was the first one to sense something was wrong with Jagya, his sense of assessing people is great

3. Letting her parents go to the haveli and resolve certain issues before marriage. If her parents would have met the Singh family, informing them about Gauri's potential marriage with Jagya, a lot of truths would have come out. True, there would have been clashes, insults and bitternesses, but it would have saved their daughter of all the torture she went through later. The truths that Gauri is learning now would have been out much before. Also, Gauri would have had a clearer picture of her own position in the haveli and she would have never tried to go back to the haveli.

It's a fact that a marriage is often a matter of luck, even if people make proper enquiries and investigations, there's no guarantee that the guy would be good. But the point here is Gauri didn't even try------------she walked into the fire blindly and is still burning in it but in ignorance

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Originally posted by: tanvismile

I dnt think by goin to haveli she wud find what jagya feels about anandi.she would get same replies as she is geting.n may be ds would have emotionaly blackmailed jagya .see even today jagya stood firm regarding love for gauri.what jagya feels for gauri would be something which cud nt be find out by asking villagers.I dnt think she ruined any one s life.the moment jagya fel in love with her same day anandi s life ruined.after that JAAN relation wud only continue on compromise.N i agree tinoo n hina