Originally posted by: Neha_K
just one thing to ask........... one question for all girls out here....... whether they r DIL or not......... [/quote]
cant say of every one, but yes, i know what that role means. and happily so.
n how abt u?? 😊
[quote] the woman who has the locker keys for the family's izzat!
don't u all realize this statement is true........if yes, then y it has been denoted as lecture n no1 has replied....... favouring the right is not wrong, but if things r turning wrong n harming ur family's or ur in-laws' reputation in society........... will u still just think about urself, will u just be nothing but selfish? [/quote]
well.. i believe its truth, but not the whole truth... in a family thats bound together with relations, its as much the duty of each member to keep those lockers safe as is of the DIL... doesnt make sense to me when only the DIL or MIL has to do it or anything of the sort... every person - man or woman has their part to do... it cant be like the family goes strong and u are proud of it, it doesnt go strong and the DIL is to blame (like sumitra says "apni parivaar ko mein baandh ke nahin rakh paayi") and again, each one needs some personal space... may be not in soaps, but in real life, they do... no choices - just in the name of khandaan ke izzat - doesnt sound so appealing to me
[quote] it's woman/girl is the one who always suffers in such cases......... whether she says yes or she says no!!!
yes.... they r only one who can make or break a family!! i didn't found anything wrong if gehna bowed down after maasa for sake of wellness of other ladies in the house!
somethings need to be seriously discussed! [/quote]
u didnt find anything wrong? nor did i 😉 thats all part of nibhaoing a relationship (be it at home, at work, in the neighborhood or elsewhere - man as a social being need to compromise)... but i'd have appreciated it if dadisa, whoz equally at fault (in the series of incidents that lead to the so called act against the khandans izzat) apologized too. nothing wrong in an elderly person thinking levelheadedly and apologizing if they made a mistake. same goes with basant - he too owed an apology to the family. but after all, its just a daily drama, so chaltha hein, for entertainment sake. sab log ek doosre se maafi maang li toh drama kaise chalega 😉 they will have to wind it up as "and they lived happily ever after" 😃
[quote] i m really disappointed with those who r making fun of relationship here, whether it's about husband or MIL!! ppl r favouring n encouraging one curse (bigamy) just to get rid of orthodox thoughts....! [/quote]
didnt quite get u there... so cant comment 😊
[quote] guys... BV is a fiction more or less....... but helpless, dependency in case of woman/girls doesn't exist only in rural section of our country......... it really need guts to go beyond ur limits n break all the rules...... u need to face obligations n many other problems...... success is not an easy achievement, n for everyone!! human suffering from such situations looses their real n self if they really need to survive in it! [/quote]
agreed 100% needs lotttttttttsss of guts.. when going gets tough, perhaps the tough gets going... and thats why we see many woman wishing to live by their own in our family courts today... loved gehnas dialogue yesterday... that anandi, in her drive to become the perfect DIL lost her bubbly and bright self some where... guess tht should be the point one should stand up n say enough is enough - when u start feeling u are loosing the individual in u...
but thank god there are the new gen MILs and DILs who are better friends than the typical portrayal they show in these serials. dont know much about the life in rural india... but we can atleast be happy that there are MILS who are very happy giving some personal space to there DILs and DILs who can get along with their MILs without interfering int their personal life. and though slow paced, tht kind of a healthy relationship is definitely catching up
you - as any such and such relationship (dil, wife, mother, sister, whatever)- matters... but you as an individual matters too!
[quote] yes......... we need a change......... but who r making fun........ sorry i don't expect that change atleast from their side!
i know we r attached with the show n actors/characters..... if anything is wrong, show ur aggression, but plz don't make fun of it......! [/quote]
areyyyyy....take fun as fun yaar...i dont think any one here is keen to offend any one else.
[quote] now talking about janam janam ka rishta, it's not only in serials, drama or films....... if u've grown up in INDIA, u really mean it!! no1 can't get rid of relationship so easily....... if it's maasa who recites 'outta my house', if she really don't have believed in janam janam ka rishta... n CVs have really shown that........ na gehna wapas aati aur na hi anandi! aur might be.... sumitra bhi wapas ja chuki hoti.....! [/quote]
hmm... cant be so sure of that... i grew up in india, and got married in india too - but neither my MIL nor my husband or any one else for that matter - ever imposed this janam janam ka saath rule on me. i am really thankful to my extended family for that. i dont say every one here lives in such undemanding backgrounds. cant generalize my case, and cant generalize the 7 janmon ke saath theroy either. a relationship becomes binding when you feel it from within... and very often, living within the indian culture, we do start feeling that.. but without that i dont think this 7 janam ke kahani makes sense to me... well, my feelings! thats it.
[quote] no offense, just made my POV like others!
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