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Megha

@universe_megha

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Posted: 17 years ago

#31

Why is that you all are talking of correct ways of living in sasuraal for Anandi only????? Therez no responsibility of her in-laws... why cant she be accepted as a member of their family?? A bahu has to live like an outsider all through her life... but wat about a boy.. uski to badi-se-badi galti chalti hai... the prank he played on Anandi with that whitener was enuf reason for Jagdish to be punished.. but he was spared by dadisaa... clearly coz he is their son.. but Anandi.. she is forced, literally forced to change her lifestyle, her nature each and every moment of her life.. itz not only her age that we shoudl consider.. but the fact that she is a "bahu" is also to be given some thought!! Good Lord!! there are so many stereotypes for "daughter-in-laws" in particular and for women in general in India!!! 😡

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Preeti

@-Preeti-

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Posted: 17 years ago

#32

Originally posted by: flute

but still not only i but most of viewers [on looking anandi's grief in these recent episodes ] confess that Bhago has really done a great fault.

she proved to be an unsuccessful teacher to explain anandi abt rules n ways of living in sasuraal.

in a class of 50 students if a syudent fail
will u blame the teacher for not being a good teacher
i don't think anandi's mom is at all responsible

common jitna bhi maa sikhaaye its on the child if they take it or not.
Anandi was'nt aware of her being going to her husband's house.

And abt anandi's sasural
i don't think that they are that good too
though her in laws are good and adjustive but her grand mom is'nt.
The way she behaves is so very unfair
she acually wants anandi to live the way she lived, which is not possible. U always can't expect ppl around u to behave they way u are or like u want

So anandi's case
i blame the customs of child marriage, ppl promoting it

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Surendra

@flute

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Posted: 17 years ago

#33

Originally posted by: CINDRELLA

in a class of 50 students if a syudent fail
will u blame the teacher for not being a good teacher
i don't think anandi's mom is at all responsible

common jitna bhi maa sikhaaye its on the child if they take it or not.
Anandi was'nt aware of her being going to her husband's house.

And abt anandi's sasural
i don't think that they are that good too
though her in laws are good and adjustive but her grand mom is'nt.
The way she behaves is so very unfair
she acually wants anandi to live the way she lived, which is not possible. U always can't expect ppl around u to behave they way u are or like u want

So anandi's case
i blame the customs of child marriage, ppl promoting it

ok but tell me was is a right step taken by Bhago to do anandi's gauna so early in this little age????????????😊😊😊

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smriti

@FollowYourHeart

Stunner

Posted: 17 years ago

#34

yes i agree that her mom did a huge misake in getting her dotty wedded off at such a tender age but but but which mom would have wanted her dotty to suffer so much? would she hav eevr dreamt ki her dadi saas would be this cruel and won't even spare Anandi her inocence?

You have to understand WHY bhaggu was compelled to take that step in that era if ur husband died u would become a widow for life and no one else would eevr marry u again what if jaggu had died even before anandi;s gonna happened then anadi would have never ever gone to her sasural and that would have been a stigma with which anadi would have to live for the rest of her life she would be called manhoos and what not her lif would become living hell and just t prevent that from happening just to make sure her daughter gets the happyness the joy of being a suhaagan she did that why else would she deliberatly push her dotty in fire? when we saw how much anandi's parents adored her it was obviosu she wasn't a burdon for them and insted was the apple of their eyes its only becoz of the stupid society who blames girls for the death of their husband and labels them as inauspicious chudail husband ko kahne wali manhoons or whatever crap they say that mothers like bhaggo get hell scared and wed them off but not once did she expect her lado to face so much tortures

and i think the hwole fault is of dadi sa she has some problem with the whole girl caste only i mean the way she treats woman oh my god its so demenaing is it fair for her to love her grandson so damemd much and totally ignore her grand doaughter is it fair for her to wed her fifty yrs old widowe son to a kuwanri very young girl?? is it fair for her o actually ask a small little bacchi to coock the hwole family's food and prevent her form playing or even laughing ?? i mean u tlaking of rules of living in sasurala what sasurala prevents u from laughing yaar who the hell has the right to impose bandhish on your laughter and finalyl dadisa did succeed na she managed to remove anandi's innocent smile forever

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Preeti

@-Preeti-

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Posted: 17 years ago

#35

Originally posted by: flute

ok but tell me was is a right step taken by Bhago to do anandi's gauna so early in this little age????????????😊😊😊

firstly Smriti^^^
well said dear
agree to most of u'r points

now step taken by bhagi is right or wrong
no mother or father would ever like to send thier daughter away from them.
am sure if given a chance to bhago, she would have never send anandi away from her that to in such a tender age
as seen in the show it still shows women to b secondary except for the dadisaas. At Jaggiya's house to Sumitra's opinions are not given importance by the family members, though her husband supprts her but he does give more importance to his mother's words than his wife's thoughts.
So do u think that bhago's decision to not get her daughter married would have saved anandi from getting married. Even if she had gone against it, ppl would have got anandi married or may have even boycotted the family.

I actually wish she had done that ...... may b it would b an initiative to stop child marriage

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purvi

@coolpurvi

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Posted: 17 years ago

#36

Originally posted by: flute

ok but tell me was is a right step taken by Bhago to do anandi's gauna so early in this little age????????????😊😊😊

Dont blame Aanandi's mother. We shud blame this custom of child marriage which robs childhood. This show aims to show the disadvantages of the child marriage. It doesn't aim to glorify child marriage. Firstly this custom n then dadisa is wrong

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Surendra

@flute

Voyager

Posted: 17 years ago

#37

now members how do u feel??

anandi is performing well in her sasuraal.
she has got to learn the rules of wife.

all creadit goes to Masa who is really a great teacher.
she has a lot of experience of how to mould a child's mind.

if sumitra wud have contined her as bachchi hai bachchi hai then in that love how wud she able to learn all that??

so i really appreciate masa for training anandi.
haan i know that the subject matter of this education is not good.

but technique of teaching shud be adopted like masa.
punishments and exams r good for children.

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Preeti

@-Preeti-

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Posted: 17 years ago

#38

Originally posted by: flute
now members how do u feel??

anandi is performing well in her sasuraal.
she has got to learn the rules of wife.

all creadit goes to Masa who is really a great teacher.
she has a lot of experience of how to mould a child's mind.

if sumitra wud have contined her as bachchi hai bachchi hai then in that love how wud she able to learn all that??

so i really appreciate masa for training anandi.
haan i know that the subject matter of this education is not good.

but technique of teaching shud be adopted like masa.
punishments and exams r good for children.

here let me correct u
sorry to say, but its not masa for whom she's doing this
rather shes doing this so that her mother and father can live a good and happy life
and also anandi is not doing things on her own will, she's doing it so that ppl at here accept her and her parents need not get tensed for her

if u remember anandi's mom said that if she does'nt return back to her in laws house then even they have to face the same circumstance that the teacher had faced and to save her mom n dad she agreed to return back.

i agree punishment and exams are good for children
but they should have limits, and u should never punish the child so much, that the child actually forgets him/her self, that u actually destroy the child's self-esteem

so i still don't agree to b her as a good teacher
abt rules of being a good wife
i don't think there's any rule to b a good wife
it develops within, and if the husband and the in-laws are good then the grl automatically does b'come a good wife and daughter-in-law

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doyel

@doyelpakhi

Voyager

Posted: 17 years ago

#39

Hmm...Great post and great discussion!

@Flute! I can understand your point.

For Anandi's condition, her parents are mainly to blame.But what can they do? Their society is so backward that if they want to live there they have to follow those sick, stupid rules! 🤬

It is because of the social rules t😡that Bhaggo was so eager to send Anandi to sasural becoz if Anandi becomes widow before gauna, it would be hell for her. Noone would have married her again and after her parent's death, she would be alone in the world. That's why Bhaggo was so worried and sent her to sasural so that even if Anandi becomes widow or anything happens to Anandi's parents, her sasural would take care of her.

As for examination and punishment, I agree with Cindrella.
@ Cindrella, very well said. Indeed, "punishment and exams are good for children
but they should have limits, and u should never punish the child so much, that the child actually forgets him/her self, that u actually destroy the child's self-esteem"

As far Dadisa is concerned, I don't think her to be the vamp of this serial. She is a very real character and in our household we see people who are orthodox, hot tempered and biased towards male child.

Remember, Dadisa has suffered also as she herself told that her in-law made her to stand all day under the burning sun when she was a child as an act of punishment. She has been taught to believe that men should be given all importance and she is exactly behaving the same. At the same time, Dadisa has a soft heart as she has mellowed down after her younger son and the maid made her realize that soft words always do miracles.

Aree, if Anandi's parents did not have guts to stand against the social rules, then why blame Dadisa only? Jagdis' parents can understand the evil rules of child marriage etc, but still they didn't have the guts and made their son marry at 14.
( remember on 26 sep episode Anandi's mother getting perturbed when she heard that Anandi helped Jagga in homework). Even younger generation people like Anandi's mother believes that girls should not do so much reading and writing.

Of course, I know that Dadisa's went overboard by keeping Anandi locked inside the dark room. She is wrong. She treated Anandi in wrong way for wrong reason. Even if Anandi did anything like stealing or quarreling, she should have been punished but Not in this way.

Actually we should remember the aim of this serial. They have tried to show how this social evils kill children's innocence and make people forget what is right and wrong.
Even if Dadisa mellows down and everyone is very caring abt Anandi, it does not answer the main problem- child marriage. It is not a question of how in-laws should treat bahus, the main point is NO girl below 18-20 years should be bahu of any household.

Edited by doyelpakhi - 17 years ago

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Surendra

@flute

Voyager

Posted: 17 years ago

#40

Originally posted by: doyelpakhi
Hmm...Great post and great discussion!

@Flute! I can understand your point.

For Anandi's condition, her parents are mainly to blame.But what can they do? Their society is so backward that if they want to live there they have to follow those sick, stupid rules! 🤬

ok then why many of the members agreed to the same stupid idea----😡

Hey man plzz try n remember we are in 20th century not in 16th one.

Women get equal repo here. How can u say that chup rehne main hi uski bhalai hai. After all ek chingari hi poore jangal ko jalaane ke liye kaafi hoti hai. U r being soooooooooooo narrow minded here.

-JiNiShA

just check on previous pages.

why cud her parents not behaved liked that chingaari to save her daughter???????

😡😡😡very stupid statement said n all agreed to it.😡😡😡
just u tell me is this idea applicable i any way for her parents condition??????????😡😡😡
arre ye baat to serial dekhkar sochani hi nahi chahiye thi...
very stupid statementttttttttttttttttttttttt😡😡😡

just look n analyse the pattern of the serial.
no any can create that chingari .for example teacherji cud not save anandi then alone how can bhago can bring out revolution!!!!!!!!!!!😕

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