A hearty welcome Sinistera!
Encouraged by your flying visits here Im going to deduce that you, like the rest of us here would like to see BP back on air too. At the risk of sounding too forward, may i please request you to join us in our many ventures in whatever capacity you deem fit. Even a little help will go a long way.
As for the topic under discussion.....
I do agree with you for the most part. She was nothing but the object of his desire to start with. Fueled by her constant rejection it turns into a frenzied hankering....
As to when it turns to love....i think it was even later than Chandana's wedding.
The realization or 'revelation' of being in love hits him as she walks out of her biological mother's house clad in white. He aches for her, understanding her pain, he find a tear in his eye...a new emotion, sensation....thus begins the painful process of change.
Atleast I'd like to think so :)