Arjun Episode 34: The MMS Murders - Page 4

Originally posted by: shrutisweety

aunty whenever
u will analisys send me pm😊

Originally posted by: sashashyam

Thank you so much,my dear. I will get out my piece on the Fake Banknote Plates one in a day, and I will PM you.I would be much interested in your reaction to that one.

Shyamala B.Cowsik

Originally posted by: sashashyam

I agree completely with what you have said @blue, Tina, though in the beginning it is for the parents to teach their kids what is right and what is wrong.

Thereafter, it is very important for a parent to be not just a wrathful rule-enforcer, but someone the daughter (or son) can talk to freely about her/his problems, and can be guided firmly but with empathy and kindness. If not, the parents will wake up one fine day and realise that they did not know their kid at all, and that it is now too late to mend matters.

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: haruhi26

yes totally agree Aunty, the parents are the first teachers for a child... but like you said they also need to be the best friends of their children

Because Aunty nowadays peer pressure means a lot, and can turn children to demons andegoisticpersons

Yes.. very true. I said in my review in Forum32 that vigilance is the key. It applies to both the kids and the parents. Peer pressure is indeed very high these days. The strength to overcome that peer pressure would only come if the child is open and friendly with his parents. That will give him the confidence to say 'no', because he knows he/she has his/her parents' support and will not harbour any sort of guilt.
At the same time the parents must understand their child's psyche and the environment he/she is growing up in or accustomed to and react accordingly. We spend more time in our colleges and with friends than we do with our parents. This time is cut down even more if the parents are working. Hence it is very important that time is taken out and allocated specially for parent-child interaction on a daily basis to develop a mutual understanding and trust, which is very much essential!!!

Originally posted by: vidya.anand

Brilliant analysis!!

You have pointed out all the things we had ignored...a complete analysis...kudos for that...typing so much despite ur wrist pain is really tough...Great indeed!

As i said, the morals and values still hold an important part no matter what age we live in...they hold good forever and cant be changed or altered with time!

the intimacy or getting physical in a relationship without even knowing the future of the relationship is really disturbing!...Only when the girl and the boy know each other, trust and understand each other, should they even think about taking the relation to the next step...but now, its quite the opposite, i see a lot of lovers taking the last step first!

i may sound conservative or whatever but i guess, such morals do have their place even now...only when someone (be it girl or boy) crosses limits and tries to break morals or values, do such crimes occur...So u cant just rubbish them off as things of the past or hindrances of the new age!!

Originally posted by: sashashyam

No, Vidya, we are not just conservative, you and I and the others who think like us (though I must be a full generation before yours). We are sensible, alert to the dangers that our children cannot see, and above all we do not want to see them get badly hurt.

It is the same with most of the does and don'ts in our way of life - taking off your shoes before entering anyone's house, washing your hands before a meal, and many others - which all have a logic to them, in these cases of hygiene and good health. It is the same with morals and the so-called 'proper' behaviour.

But I do agree with what Tina and Rose have noted about peer pressure. It is insidious and very powerful, and it takes a lot of self-belief and strength of mind to stand up to it, even when it is patently wrong. That is what parents should try to instil in their children, but even if they manage to do it, it is always an ongoing struggle, like King Canute and the waves, or even better, Sisyphus and his rock!

Shyamala B.Cowsik