Arjun Episode 34: The MMS Murders - Page 2

Originally posted by: sashashyam

My dear Tina,

Yes, I am afraid my analyses ARE long, but if one goes into detail, it cannot be short, can it? Plus I hope I help lengthen the attention span of you kids!😉Just think of the trouble I go to when I type all this out with a left wrist in a support (which is one reason why I send in such posts only once in a while), and compare it with the effort made to read it!😉

I did not go into the aspect of Anjali's entirely unacceptable behaviour towards Bala when he offers her that rose so as not to make the post even longer, but I am glad you made it, and I agree with you 100%. There are any number of firm but kind ways to refusing a proposal (we were all taught those when we were young). and she could have let him down gently, without hurting him or his sense of self.

Anjali is arrogant and unnecessarily nasty, and while Bala's reaction is out of all proportion to her fault (plus he does not confine his blackmailing to her, remember?), I do not agree with Arjun that she was blameless. Young girls, especially of they are pretty and popular, at times lose their heads and behave like this, without any idea of how the opposite side is affected and what the consequences can be for themselves.

I had also noted, as you have here, that Anjali's MMS was quite tame, and as she was anyway at loggerheads with her parents over Raj, what would it have mattered anyway? And she is ready to kill Bala over this!

I am very pleased that you see my point about the need for young people, especially young girls, not to cross a limit in such matters. It is not even just a tarnished reputation; it is the self-loathing that she will feel when it gets back to her that, as often happens, the boy himself boasts to his friends about his affair with her and labels her a cheap girl.

Take care, Tina.

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: Sinner.gurl

Great analysis aunty(i hope you don't mind me calling you that 😕)! : D

It is thus prudent to draw one's lines and stay within them, even if the other person seems to be the love of your life!

I absolutely second that!

Whenever I hear the word "MMS" or receive one (the greetings on festivals) I literally shiver.

I always get these strange "bad vibes" and can feel a creep factor rising in me when anyone talks about it.

Agreed on the fact that it was not convincing on bala's part to sell MMSes knowing the risk involved.

But regarding, Bala studying in a commoner college, he did mention that his father want him to live like a middle-class student.

Agreed on the remaining points! : )

-Disha

Originally posted by: sashashyam

My dear Disha (that is a pretty name!),

You are right, Bala did say that about his father wanting him to livelike a middle class person. It somehow slipped my mind, and it is good that you pointed that out. However, I think that he would have been better off in an IIT among his intellectual peers.

This obscene MMS thing is really scary, and I get the creeps, as you do, every time I read one more such story in the papers. If I had a daughter growing up today, I would be perennially on edge. Luckily, I have only one son and he is 28!

Shyamala Aunty

Originally posted by: haruhi26

left wrist in a support?you got hurt Aunty?

and well i've been brought up in a very conservative way. i mean i dont have any problems with relations before marriage, because i think people are big and intelligent and mature enough to live their life, but though i can accept other people doing, i myself can't do it cause i believe in love and marriage's vows a lot.

and yep i have greatly seen boys flaunting themselves after getting a girl, and the way that girl is treated afterwards.

Not only cheap aunty, all boys think that they can have a try also, and their comments are so degrading...

That's why i think, a girl has the full right to love someone, but she should know when she's stepping out of her limits, cause for a girl, once she stepped out of it, there's no returning back...

Originally posted by: haruhi26

But aunty ab MMS ladko par bi bante hein😆ok jokes apart

yep a few years back, some MMS were being exchanged about a young girl, not yet 18 years old.

it was really degrading, specially when everyone even knew her name...

Just think she was below 18,and the things in the MMS,while i wasin University and the boys in my class were watching it

N finally they knew about her college, her name, her family... it even made the newspapers

i also shudder when i think that now nothing can ever be private, what's scarier is that noone can even be trusted now😭

Originally posted by: sashashyam

No, Tina, I now have what is called the carpal tunnel syndrome in my left wrist. The tendon in the wrist, in the line of the little finger, gets inflamed when there is too much strain on it, and it gets very sore and painful. I want to avoid an operation if I can, so I used a wrist support - a wrap around bandage that can be tightened at will - whenever I type, and that helps, provided I do not do too much at a time.

I am of an older generation, and I would definitely have objections to any daughter of mine getting into such affairs before or after marriage. Apart from the morals angle, it is also plain stupid, for all the risk is for the girl. It is very good that you have your head screwed on right where such things are concerned. It gladdens my heart!

Shyamala Aunty