I like the 50 year old something romance - Page 2

Originally posted by: Bodhianveshika

Ofcourse there can be romance at any age. Infact there should be and there will be.

There are many many such vintage romances celebrated on screen.

The Baghban song that is butchered to no end ont he show is a classic example, take any of the senior actors on screen.

The issue is not depiction of romance of middle aged people. The issue is in it's treatment.

The issue is then, that what is "age appropriatebehaviour" that we expect.

Secondly, whatever Anuj-Anupama are doing is cheating, no two ways of looking at it.

Especially coming out of the lead who is a self-provlaimed righteous woman and a victim if infidelity.

This audacity to cheat under the disguise of children, to give false assurances and the history that led to their present is what makes it cringe. Why don't the much-in-love couple who are forced apart or forced into a relationship have the gall to speak the truth, break the forced relationship the moment they realised their feelings?

I don't think anything they are doing isn't age appropriate. Anuj has only loved Anupama all his life. He has so much to give, yet life has always come in the way. They didn't live a full happy life before the differences crept in. They are stuck in the first phase, where their love was brittle, yet deep. Deep from the devotion Anuj had towards Anu, and brittle from the tests of time.

On cheating, I can see how some may call it cheating. From what I remember, Anuj has always asked for time from Shruti to get over his past. He is stuck, and perhaps can't come out ever. It must be heartbreaking for Shruti, but relationships are complex. What may seem cheating to you, might be Anuj and Anupama's helplessness to someone else.

Relationships are only between two people, Adhya and for that matter, any of their children shouldn't have any say in who their parents choose to be with. It is Anuj's helplessness because of her daughter's mental health and Shruti's recent loss of parents (and possibly her being part of gun violence) that he can't break these shackles.

For Anupama, I think it is just insecurities. She doesn't feel she is good enough for anyone.

Life is not all black and white. It is grey for most parts.

Originally posted by: SmithaRam

People may be romantic all their lives. However, the way of expressing it gradually becomes subtle as we age. Our actions, reactions, expressions and choice words too keep refining over time, so does romance. That is natural progression.

What is depicted on this show comes across as immature & down right gross given that they are cheating right under the nose of their children. This is coupled with each of their circumstances(ex: romance soon after a major mishap/incident) makes it puke worthy.

That said, some people like the romance shown between MaAn, while others find it cringe. To each his/her own.

Agree, to each his/her own.

Don't agree with subtleties that you are referring to that come with age. They may come as the relationship graduates from the initial butterflies in stomach phase to stability and so on. Alas! They never got their time together to live through each phase.

My grandparents used to sing to each other, cuddle and hug in front of the entire family. It always felt right and pure. 💗

Originally posted by: Harish111

Haan but romance kiske saath? Which 50+ romance are you talking about.

Anupama and vanraj ki nokh jhok, emotional cheating, him lusting after her, she leading him on, lots of hugging kissing and private moments she hides from her husband, while she is married to Anuj? Both are 50+

Anuj simping and running behind her while being engaged to someone else, both of them cheating, ignoring their daughter while she leads him on? Both are 50+.

Yash deep simping and running behind her while she leads him on while pretending she doesn't understand and takes advantage of him? Both are 50+.

Which romance are you talking about, please clarify. Personally I find the first one most romantic and empowering for middle aged people.

Truth is, this show is nothing about 50+ romance. It's about 50+ sayambar where multiple guys are after lead who shamelessly romances with all.

This show is not 50+ romance, it's the 50+ shades of grey.

This was funny.

But if you are actually curious, I was only referring to Anuj and Anupama's romance. The one from the books, which the writers have ruined, but I still hope that it can be redeemed.

Originally posted by: zohakhan7

Emotional cheating is still applicable even if u don't love your partner...Love or no love Anuj is definitely doing Emotional affair with upma which makes him such a pathetic man..

I am only saying that he is not pretending to love Shruti. He is also not doing anything with Anupama that he won't do on front of Shruti.

Moreover, I am pointing at the complexity of the situation, and moving away from the way we always want to see the world as only black or white.

Originally posted by: par-par

In my personal opinion, I feel that Anupama-Anuj romance looks so cringe, because they don't act their age. As we get older, our hormonal drives reduce, unlike teenagers and young people and it's natural for us to behave our ages. But here, Anuj literally acts like a jobless, road Romeo teenager who has lost all meaning of reason and honesty. And Maa ke baare mein tho kya hi kahein - wo tho itni young act karti hair, koodna, kelna aur NY city mein hamesa idhar- udhar bhaagna that usse koi bhi dekle, uska pataphat deewana ho jaaye!

To be honest, RG's pairing with Gaurav does not look so good anymore because of the acting and bad character graphs in the show. In the beginning, we all rooted for RG because she was playing the realistic character of a middle-aged house wife so beautifully. Anupama, the character, dealt with the situation of her husband's cheating and walking out of the maariage with her head held high, fighting so gracefully and obtaining a divorce through the odds of her MIL against it and her children's depression (Paaki). And then with the entry of Gaurav, I was actually skeptical of their pairing as he looked a lot younger than her and was thinking that maybe makers should have signed up an older male lead like Mr. Bajaj from Kasauti, but RG and Gaurav did manage to pull it off and in fact looked very good as a couple owing to the fact that the strength of both their characters supported the romance in a nice way. But over time, it started becoming so cringe due to the unrealistic and nonsensical story line.

P.S: Maa's flying hair strands (as her age progresses) are so adorable that she is setting new trend of NOT combing hair. Dumpy and now Devilka too are following this trend!! Maa used to brush her hair before and be presentable 8 years back, but now tho, her loose zulfe around her face are so stunning, no wonder, men never notice beautiful and well-groomed girls like Shruthi or Kavya around them and everyone has eyes only for Maa. I won't be surprised if the story line introduces 2 or 3 more die-hard romeos running around her.

Haha!

I fell in love with Anuj-Anupama's pairing gradually, and despite the flaws in the storyline, I can't seem to love them any less.

Agree that Rupali can groom herself and act a bit more naturally. She is no longer the helpless woman she started out as. She can project more confidence, even in the way she looks.

Originally posted by: InsaneDivine

I think their relationship now lacks depth. It's the couple that managed to garner insane popularity both online and with respect to TRPs so it's not that "society" did not accept the middle age romance. I liked them when they were unmarried. However, now like their characters, their equation also lacks depth.

Do they ever talk? Since this was Anupamaa's second chance her equation with Anuj, their relationship should have been very different than the previous one. There should be more transparency, discussion, and cooperation as partners who respect each other and see each other as equals. Instead, the story is stuck where it was, Anupamaa's character is stuck where it was and Anuj's character has deteriorated badly. There is so much wrong with this couple that it has overshadowed their "love" if there was any to begin with.

In light of this when one sees their scenes as a viewer, their romance looks very physical, with no emotions or understanding at all and yes since with time sexual urges subside, what should have remained strong is their heartfelt connection.

Forget 50+, the moment I can't connect with the emotions of a couple in a love story, even if their are young, mere romance becomes very fickle, hormonally driven. There are shows I have seen, where a mere dialogue without any touching will feel so good, while here the only saving grace is that once upon a time Kumar Sanu and Anuradha Paudwal sang a beautiful song.. Dil hai ki manta nahi....

That reminds me even here I remember a dialogue once said by Anupamaa to Anuj ki achi kitabon ko padhne mein samay lagta hai .. Those were the times I did have some expectations that Anupamaa and MaAn will go places. But then they kept on going down...

I don't think their relationship and equation are hormonally driven at all. Of course there is longing, but the ability to sacrifice one's desires for what you see as the greater good, is nothing short of remarkable.

There are flaws in portrayal, but if you come to think of it, she left Anuj and Choti, because she was convinced that they won't be happy with her. She was overcome by her insecurities.

For Anuj, he loves Anupama but for the sake of his daughter, he can't confess his love or act in any impulses. He is limited by his love for Adhya.

Having said this, the writers have indeed done a bad job of putting the narrative together. As viewers, given the holes in the plot, we will fill in the blanks and choose what we want to believe in.

My idea is not to convince anyone. But I do find solace in comments if I see some like-minded people who are looking at things the way I am. 🤗