Why anuj berated for choosing CA over anupama?

I hear many ppl in SM saying anuj is bad for choosing CA over anupama

Imagine any one mother leaves them and their father and goes away without any reason suddenly, will a father abandon a 9 year old small kid and run after 49 year old mother

A 49 year old woman can live alone in world and survive but a 9 year old child cannot survive okkk

Every father knows this and world is very cruel to a girl child and danger if shes alone especially patriarchal india. So forget anuj every father will choose to be with their daughter than a wife whose 49 years old

Even if CA was 16 or 20 anuj would choose CA over anupama, not only anuj every father will choose his daughter over his wife if they have to choose between both any day. And its because world is danger for young girls

That too when he knows that anupama has a very big ex mayka with vanraj, baa, hasmukh, her 3 kids, 2 bahus, grand kid etc while CA has only him in world no one else so which father will leave a child and run after his wife in such circumstances

If every girl onj this forum ak their father daddy will you choose me or mom if mom leaves us some day every father will say i will choose you although they may love wife also equally.

Same way you ask your mom will you choose daughter or husband every mom in world will choose 9 year old daughter than run after husband because its first duty to take care of child not adult

Specially when anupama left although she was at fault and anuj questioned all her behaviour over 3 years of marriage why shes neglecting him and CA and his house and kapadiyas over vanraj and shahs?

One day at 14-15 years old i went out and fell on road and my leg turned blueish my mom and grand mom had gone with me, not their fault stone fell away while walking in footpath. But my grand pa and dad blasted my mom and grand mom that what you both do going with her, shes your both duty to take care. Why you never held her hand so that when stone fell she do not fall too blah blah blah etc. Thats how a father or men at home are, a father, grand father love their daughter, grand daughter a lot more than wife or mother always and they are protective =. My father never disrespect his mom but that day he blasted his own mom because its fear of losing daughter. Whether anyone likes or not i have realized every father loves his daughter more than his wife or mother or sister always. So whether we like it or not a wife should be ready to accept hubby will love daughter over wife. Same way a mother or wife will love son more than her daughter or hubby too unless son disrespects hubby.

I have pets dogs and cats from childhood but to be honest i love the girl cat pets most. Its not that i love my male pets less but the girl cat comes 20 mins late back home from regular trips i worry where it is what happen did some cat or dog attack it in neighbour hood. dd it fall in ditch or did it climb tree and get struck etc. I love male pets same way but i do not worry even if they are 60 minutes late back home. Same with my husband or father. Let them be 2 to 3 hours late they are busy at work or friends etc i will not bother to call or check but yes if its my cousin girls i do call them to check they are ok bec i love them and want them safe always. But cousin brothers or father and uncle ok who cares let them be late by 2 or 3 hours no tension.

And its not only india in USA i see fathers worried who is their daughter Boy friend and are worried will they take advantage of his baby daughter although shes 23 or 27 years and US society is quiet liberal on man woman relationships bef marriage. Yet US fathers too are more worried about daughters only over their wife or sons. The girl may stay 3000 miles away but fathers will be like now is college start now college end time has she reached her hostel or home etc but they never say openly like indian fathers. I have realized whether its a white US father or indian or asian father they are all same. Only indian fathers over react much more emotionally US fathers keep in heart and do not over react but they too obsess over their daughters grand daughters same as any asian father. Just that US culture do not encourage expressing emotions openly like indian or asian culture. But a daughter is a daughter and gets much more worry by daddy over anyone else mom, wife, sister, son or father. That is guarantee whether anyone likes it or not its universal truth.

So anuj ran to maya in mumbai because hes worried his baby daughter is with maya, he would run antartica too. Every dad would do same run after stranger woman if they take away his adopted daughter.

And anyday every dad would choose 9 year old daughter over 40 plus wife or 30 plus wife if situation arises

I wonder what happened to kapadias especially ankush ,mukku and gk kaka ?? They are only the one who knows Anuj since childhood and understand him .

Makers removed them just to put Anuj in bad light

Surprisingly, the same people (rightfully) blame Malati Devi for choosing career over her child.

At that time, the markers are, how can the mother leave the child?

But when Anupama leaves Choti Anu, Anuj stays back for his daughter, arrey biwi se badhkar hogayi bachchi👏🏻.

It is a no brainer. The child (a young child who is dependent o the parents) will always outweigh the spouse and rightfully so.

Otherwise, why are there custody battles in a divorce?

I mean daughters always have their fathers' heart. But more than I think it's ridiculous to say fathers love their children any less than mothers do.

My dad has always made time for me. He taught me how to ride a cycle, he taught me swimming and badminton and would rush to get me to college and tuitions when we could not afford for me to have my own vehicle.

Then he saved up money and bought me a vehicle so I could come and go without having to wait in line for buses or autos. He ensured I had the best education and taught me many many life lessons that have helped me immensely.

I had a mother, but he did all of this because he loved me. Because fathers love their children as much as mothers do. Sometimes even more.

I don't even understand what was Anuj supposed to do? Anupama left, was he supposed to drop Aadhya back at the orphanage and say oh sorry, actually I cannot be your father?

Wouldn't that actually make him the heartless, selfish jerk of a person that these stans think he is.

I don't think he chose wrong. Choosing your child can never be wrong. The adults separated because they were incompatible. The mother wanted to leave everything (including said child) behind. It's not the child's fault.

Why should Aadhya go through the trauma of essentially becoming an orphan again for this 50 saal ki dholki who couldn't say no to her abusers?

Vanraj almost killed Anuj in the cliffhanger, why?

He was jealous of Anuj and was feeling threatened by his presence in his "kids'" life. He feared losing them. He even confessed to the crime. But that's the sign of Achche Pita.

When Maaya took away Choti Anu from Kapadias due to a bet (He was not even consulted about) and as a result of manipulation (He was unaware of), he should forgotten the child and should have played Holi with Shahs, some logic, I must say.

What should he have done? AfterALL Maaya is the birth mother, so what if you legally fostered the child and did not bother verifying parentage, so what if Anupama treated her as a pawn and bet against her, gave in to manipulation, she was a foster child can never be equal to your own child even though she was the only child he ever had.

It is the way makers are presenting on screen. They want to show Anupama as victim so obviously Anuj has to be wrong on choosing CA. Look at the way they show CA being rude to Anupama just to make audience hate CA.

We can see through the strategy but not the innocent trp audience.

Originally posted by: --Ruchi--

It is the way makers are presenting on screen. They want to show Anupama as victim so obviously Anuj has to be wrong on choosing CA. Look at the way they show CA being rude to Anupama just to make audience hate CA.

We can see through the strategy but not the innocent trp audience.

Hmm they spoiled every good character on show to make anupama and shahs mahaan

Like malvika had ema with vanraj, devika is muphat and divorce so bad, rakhi is bold and speaks lot so bad, ankush had barkha as wife so bad, adhik is wife beater so bad, malati and barkha is instigating CA although what shes saying is right so bad, CA in traumatized and trying to protect her dad from shahs and anu again so bad all are bad only saints are anupama and shahs

In future if anupama marries yashdeep beej and yash will be criminal ppl too. Whoever is not anupama and shahs are all bad only as per serial

In reality anupama comes out worst than maya, rakhi, devika, malvika,kavy all vamps on show

and shahs are more worst than all kapadiyas and anuj

after seeing this serial i understood not all who act bechari and dhukiyari and poor are good humans. Thanks in future i will be careful of those tear shedding and bechari in real life too who knows their back story or how they treat those who help them in life?

That is only good outcome of serial that before we think all who cry are in trouble have to be helped are becahri or bechara etc now i have realized after seeing anupama my thinking was completely wrong. This is one life lesson i learned watching anupama and shahs how they act so bechara and good ppl in front but are dangerous behind in their intentions and methods

All hate toshu and pakhi but atleast those two all know are bad can do any kaand any time so all are careful of them (only anuj is fool to trust toshu and give him job, real life any anuj will not give job to toshu)