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Did anupama fulfill her duties as wife as u are questioning anuj dint fulfill his duties.

Looking after Vanraj is fine as he is father to her kids , kya baat hai Jai Ho , why even anupama divorced vanraj she should have never divorce him after all it her duties to look after Vanraj that 2 after divorce.

Why even she married anuj if she has responsibilities towards Vanraj , no doubt vanraj is so jealous of anuj from day one , he has even taunted anupama many times of having relationship with anuj even after marriage with anuj

Which bond u r talking about jisme vanraj full insult anupama even after marriage with anuj .

For ur kind information as anuj is wrong in letting maaya sit in place of his wife , so is anupama for letting vanraj sit in anuj place doing yagya & giving ahutis

In Hindu Agni is considered auspicious so only husband wife can do together Pooja as unka Ghar bandhan bhi Kiya jata hai .

Matlab kuch bhi...

Anupamaa has no duties towards Vanraj, did I say she does? Sitting for their son’s wedding together as parents is a done thing. I was at a wedding this last weekend where the mother divorced and re-married sat with her first husband for kanyadhaan. Her current husband was there as well. Duties towards your children come foremost whether you remain married or divorced. Anuj and Maya sitting together makes no sense and is illogical. So yes, I stand by what I wrote, he was wrong in allowing Maya to take the place of his wife. Anupama sat with the father of her son. Dimpy is neither the daugher of Anuj nor is Maya his wife or Dimpy’s mother. My chastisement of Anuj remains firm whether you agree with me or not :)

Lol, I was referring to Anupama taking care of Vanraj when he was sick. She was blackmailed and arm twisted by Ba to do that. But Vanraj was/is the father of her children, lending a hand to her family is not in any way cheating on her current husband. She is divorced, harbors no feelings towards Vanraj and is no way engaging in an extra-marital affair with her ex-husband. Nor would anyone condone her sleeping with her ex so to equate her feeling of obligation towards the Shah family to that is incorrect. The man (Anuj) knew she was previously married and was the mother of three children. If he didn’t expect her to run to her children in their time of need, more fool he.

If Anuj felt slighted and cheated upon because of Anupama’s constant tending to her children and family, what say he to abandoning his wife and running after choti Anu who is not his blood and is the child of another? For the child’s sake, he is willing to forsake everything, his wife, his love, his business so that he can be with his kid. If he can do that and can be excused for living with a woman who openly declares her illicit love for him just because she mothered the child he dotes upon, then why blame Anupama for doting on the three that she birthed? Double standards there.

Satya Narayan ki katha & kanyadan r 2 different things ok, u can't justify that kanyadan saath kar sakte hai or satyanarayan ki pooja mein bhi saath baith kar Ahuti de sakte , anupama ko justify karne ke liye kuch bhi bakwas karoge kya, anuj ko galat bol sakte ho anupama ki galat harkat ko bhi justify karna kya baat hai 👏👏 vo pandit bewakoof tha isiliye kuch bola nhi shayad Leela devi se darta ho . Ha anuj galat tha but anupama to galat ho nhi sakti right.

. Kanyadan mein who were divorced unka gathbandhan nhi kiya gaya hoga unlike satyanarayan katha, jara jaake Jan lijiye kya hoti satyanarayan ki katha , why couple sit together

U cant sit with anyone in Satyanarayan katha be it anupama or anuj as both were wrong period or galat insaan galat hoto chahe aap usse jitna bhi justify

What this CA is not anuj blood ? Can't a person get attached to a person who is not related to him with blood, only blood relationship r important. I know someone who has adopted 3 kids , as she never had any she is so attached to them if they fell ill even she fell ill . If blood relationship only matter why lord Krishna is worldly known as yasodhanandan when he is biological son to devki

If anupama can do anything for her kids why can't anuj ?

What kind information of sad thinking is this🤢

CA to phir bhi insaan people to get so emotional attached to their pets also they start considering them as their children only

Anuj consider CA as his daughter thou anupama 2 claim to love CA but vo kabhi dekha nhi , if anupama can ignore her marriage for shah mayka why can't anuj ignore anupama for CA . Anuj is only wrong in maaya kaand not in CA matter , if anupama Can choose anyone above anuj so can anuj. Anupama ko mana kar dena chahiye anuj ko she can't take responsibility of CA ye sab hota hi nhi

Or anuj ne anupama ko uske past ke saath accept Kiya tha , vo ye nhi janta tha ki anupama will start ignoring her marriage royally , anupama failed to manage her past & present

If someone is accepting u with ur past then it ur duty to not let ur past effect ur present. In reality past present kabhi bhi saath nhi chal sakte

I don’t recall any gatbandhan at the puja. The pujari asked the parents of the groom to sit together to pray for the well being of their son. Divorce doesn’t change the fact that they are indeed the parents of Samar.

Calling a spade a spade is not justifying Anupama’s actions over Anuj’s. Anupama had a valid reason to sit for her son’s puja with the father of her son, Anuj had no such excuse to sit with Maya, period.

Let’s agree to disagree.

Anupama has a myriad faults, the least not being that she is a doormat to all and sundry. She irritates by her goodness (would not call it goodness but stupidity), even her readiness to forgive and be so understanding of Anuj is grating. Which wife in her right mind would be okay with her husband living with another woman? This is fiction yes, but it is getting to look worse than fantasy fiction gone awry.

I think you misinterpreted. You can definitely get attached to a child you raise just as much as you would to a child you birthed. But this child was not officially adopted, the birth mother took her away, so for Anuj to forsake everything to go live with a child that is not his (in the eyes of the law and the world) smacks of idiocy especially if he blamed Anupama for taking care of her own children.

I agree with you that Anupama could have managed her obligations better, not towards her children, but towards her ex sasuma, running every time the old woman summoned her was not wise either. Anupama is not ba’s savior or right hand person, that old woman needs to understand that Anupama is no longer her chattel to do as Ba bids. And Anupama needed to have had a revelation about that sooner as well.

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Lol, I was referring to Anupama taking care of Vanraj when he was sick. She was blackmailed and arm twisted by Ba to do that. But Vanraj was/is the father of her children, lending a hand to her family is not in any way cheating on her current husband. She is divorced, harbors no feelings towards Vanraj and is no way engaging in an extra-marital affair with her ex-husband. Nor would anyone condone her sleeping with her ex so to equate her feeling of obligation towards the Shah family to that is incorrect. The man (Anuj) knew she was previously married and was the mother of three children. If he didn’t expect her to run to her children in their time of need, more fool he.

If Anuj felt slighted and cheated upon because of Anupama’s constant tending to her children and family, what say he to abandoning his wife and running after choti Anu who is not his blood and is the child of another? For the child’s sake, he is willing to forsake everything, his wife, his love, his business so that he can be with his kid. If he can do that and can be excused for living with a woman who openly declares her illicit love for him just because she mothered the child he dotes upon, then why blame Anupama for doting on the three that she birthed? Double standards there.

There is a huge difference between lending a hand and spending 90% time with exes family and abandoning your husband and kid

I have never seen any woman abandon her husband to go running to her grown up married kids. NEVER. My mom never does it, never seen any mom in real life do it. So no idea where Anupama fans get this fantasy from. And time of need? What time of need? Celebrations and dance when your husband is paralyzed is time of need?

So no, no husband will ever expect that his wife will abandon him to run to her grown up, married children 90% of time. I have never seen any real life mom do it. In fact the wives will consider those kids mama's boys and maybe abandon them or mock them if their mother who stays elsewhere comes running to them like they are babies. Do Anupama fans live in some sort of parallel world?

and stop differentiating between biological and foster kids, Anuj adopted her and considers her his own child. Just because some people are narrow minded doesnt mean all fathers are. She is as real to him as his own child

Its hilarious you are talking about double standards, do you know how cause and effect works? If something happens and something else follows, you blame the cause, not the effect. Anupama abandoned her husband and child FIRST. What Anuj did is the EFFECT. Vanraj also openly confesses his illicit love for her yet she spends time with him and makes tea and snacks with him and has quiet moment alone with talks. Hypocrisy is blaming the effect and not the cause

Vanraj also openly confesses his illicit love for her yet she spends time with him and makes tea and snacks with him and has quiet moment alone with talks.

This needs to be highlighted. This is where the actual problem lies. Her inability to draw boundaries with her abusive ex destroyed Anuj and CA's happiness. She took it too far under the garb of co parenting her adult children. Even today I saw a pic on twitter where she is hugging her baa bhagwan. That's so gross. I mean how can she cling on to a person who cursed her family to break apart and abused her foster kid? I don't understand how people still sympathize with her and have the guts to blame Anuj.

Originally posted by: Ashita5500

Vanraj also openly confesses his illicit love for her yet she spends time with him and makes tea and snacks with him and has quiet moment alone with talks.

This needs to be highlighted. This is where the actual problem lies. Her inability to draw boundaries with her abusive ex destroyed Anuj and CA's happiness. She took it too far under the garb of co parenting her adult children. Even today I saw a pic on twitter where she is hugging her baa bhagwan. That's so gross. I mean how can she cling on to a person who cursed her family to break apart and abused her foster kid? I don't understand how people still sympathize with her and have the guts to blame Anuj.

It didn't only destroy Anuj and CA's happiness but also Kavya and Vanraj's. Her spending so much time in her exes house also rekindled Vanraj's feeling for her and drove a wedge between Vanraj and Kavya and also between Kavya and Baa/Babuji. So Anupama is responsible for that marriage problem as well because of her lack of boundaries.

Imagine your husband's ex being constantly in your house, talking to your husband, serving him tea and snacks, your husband's ex being more close to your in laws. Kavya should be the primary bahu of the house, but Anupama is taking away all her respect and attention and dominating that house, pretending to still be the bahu.

How will Kavya come closer to her husband and in her in laws in such situations? Anupama is ensuring her relationships never succeed