Seggs is the healthy boundary - Page 4

Kavya should be the primary bahu of the house, but Anupama is taking away all her respect and attention and dominating that house, pretending to still be the bahu.

I always felt this. She encroached upon Kavya's rights as the DIL of SH and even Vanraj's wife. Sadly,only Kavya is branded as a home wrecker and Anupama's misdeeds are brushed aside just coz she has biological kids from Vanraj. Sorry state of affairs for Indian feminism....🤦

I disagree that Vanya relationship failed coz of anupama.

Yes anupama was wrong to be being so obsessive attached to shah house but she is not reason of Vanya failed relationship, vanraj is d reason.

Vanraj never worked for his marriage with kavya also like his first marriage both anupama & kavya worked for their respective marriages very hard but ultimately they realised it's not worth it

Vanraj never really wanted to marry kavya , infact he wanted both the women anupama & kavya in his life , living in with kavya before marriage made him realise kavya will not dance according to his mood , I always said vanraj was just using kavya he never really loved her.

It kavya who forcefully married vanraj claiming she will send shah family jail , he was never ready to marry kavya nor wanted to divorce anupama

After anuj's entry he could never tolerate anupama having any other man in her life or moving on , he said he is jealous of it , he has feeling he owns anupama, how many times he had taunted anupama having relationship with anuj even after Maan marriage. So if anupama was living seperately also then also vanraj usko haress karna nhi leave karta as he can never tolerate anupama divorced him

Vanraj is just a taker not a giver in a relationship , he want anupama back as due to her presence he can easily work for professional life as anupama will manage home with ease , that's what he said he want the same life back as till anupama was his wife he never really used to look after family matters

If u see till know whenever vanraj tried to find solutions to d problem he failed miserably coz he never looked for solutions, he is just a problem creator, it anupama who had found solutions never got appreciation from vanraj & baa.

I am not an Anupama fan - need to make that clear at the outset. Cannot stand mahaan characters who lay down flat and allow others to walk roughshod over them.

Getting back to Anupama running to her married kids, her one son was a drunk and was paralyzed, any mother would run to his help. Her daughter, she did throw her out but Anuj is the one that invited her to come live with them, if I remember right. Samar is unmarried so assuming you are not referring to him.

As for cause and effect, two wrongs do not make a right. So if Anupama erred in running to her children, Anuj running to Maya is not kosher either.

And no, as I explained in my other post, there is no difference between an adopted child and one’s biological child, there should not be. But here, the birth mother appears and does not want to give custody to Anuj and Anupama.The adoption wasn’t complete or legal since the birth mother returned, she is financially able to care for her child and is emotionally attached to her as well. The courts would have granted custody to Maya over the Kapadias. So for Anuj to abandon everyone and everything for the sake of the child who is not considered his by law or in the eyes of the world is foolish. Not decrying his love for little Anu, far from it but if he has no legal rights, he should not be going after her. Fight in court, prove Maya to be unfit if he can, bring little Anu back but to give up family and wife and go away with not a second look behooves berating.

And to compare Anupama’s ignorant, irritating, ingratiating behavior towards the Shahs who are at least related to her in some fashion, the kids being her own, to Anuj living with a strange woman and indulging her irrational demands just does not make sense to me. I reiterate to me, he is wrong and he appears weak. The Laila Manju love was good while it lasted, it irks now, emanating from both Anupama and Anuj.

Blaming both :) one a little more than the other.