Anupama's problem

Anupama's main problem is that is maintaining relationships with SH . Why can't she have her three kids visit her at KM on a regular basis? Why couldn't she get Toshu and Kinjal to stay with her in KM when he needed her instead of going to SH all the time? She always invites/includes the whole Shah family when Baa (majority of the times) creates the most issues at every function or event. No one is saying to leave her kids. But her kids our adults now, so they can come visit her or stay with her if they need her. Why should she go to SH for that? SH is not her mayaaka- she tried to make it one but it creates problems for everyone. Baa only wants a slave- she will never be happy with Anupama. She shouldn't cater to Baa or Babuji even, the SH is not her place. Instead of articulating all that- every time Anuj or the family tries to talk sense to her- she has the perfect retort that she has three kids who she will never leave. Don't leave them. But have them come to your place. This is basic common sense that is easily communicated. There is always tamasha when Anupama goes to SH- easy solution don't go. Her kids are adults- they can drive to her place whenever they want. This is called basic boundaries. I don't understand what's so hard in this.

koi kaise unhe ye samjhaaye Anupama ke dil mein abhi bhi Shahs e liye pyaar hai

jaane Anuj kyu samajhne ko naa tayyar hai🤣

sorry to mess with this serious topic,

basic boundaries are an alien concept for this jack of all trades, master of none person we call Anupama…

she still has feelings for Vanraj and Baa she considers bhagwan, the adult useless kids are only a medium to run back to the Shah where she truly belongs, she doesnt like the drama Barkha and Ankush come up with, she is addicted to taunts and insults…

Now that Anuj is screaming and taunting her, she might just decide to stay.

Originally posted by: Tani16

Anupama's main problem is that is maintaining relationships with SH . Why can't she have her three kids visit her at KM on a regular basis? Why couldn't she get Toshu and Kinjal to stay with her in KM when he needed her instead of going to SH all the time? She always invites/includes the whole Shah family when Baa (majority of the times) creates the most issues at every function or event. No one is saying to leave her kids. But her kids our adults now, so they can come visit her or stay with her if they need her. Why should she go to SH for that? SH is not her mayaaka- she tried to make it one but it creates problems for everyone. Baa only wants a slave- she will never be happy with Anupama. She shouldn't cater to Baa or Babuji even, the SH is not her place. Instead of articulating all that- every time Anuj or the family tries to talk sense to her- she has the perfect retort that she has three kids who she will never leave. Don't leave them. But have them come to your place. This is basic common sense that is easily communicated. There is always tamasha when Anupama goes to SH- easy solution don't go. Her kids are adults- they can drive to her place whenever they want. This is called basic boundaries. I don't understand what's so hard in this.

Normal mothers think this way first, Anupama isn’t one of them. She goes to Shah house because there she feels herself, she feels needed the most. The Shah family need a maid, not just any maid, one that has been conditioned and groomed by Baa and that maid is, Anupama.
Last, love of her life lives there, Mr. Shah. She can’t be with him because they both are married to other people but at least she can make him his favorite ginger tea. Set with him on the swing and talk about how even after divorce you can still love your ex even if you are no longer together.🤦🏻‍♀️

Look like we have forget previous episode bache jaake anupama ke pass Kapadia house mein reh sakte Hai but It was vanraj who created tamasha and blame anupama ki tum mere bachon ko Mujhse door rakhna chahti ho

Yeh baat last year kimjal pregnancy time thi when kimjal was hurt during pregnancy

Us time vanraj ne Kitna tamasha Kiya aur anupama pr blame lagaya ki tum mere bache ko.mujhsw door rakna chahti ho

Jub baapuji ne Anuj ke phone ko Kiya Tha kya anupama Anuj i aa shah house aa sakte hain When anupama went to shah at midnight to pacify Pari

Anupama told baa main Pari ko Kapadia le jaati hoon tub baa me Aafat karna shuru kar diya ki nahi main Pari ko kahin jaane na doongi agar Pari jaayegi to main bhi Kapadia house aaongi

Agar bache anupama ke pass Kapadia house mein rehte hai vanraj afat karta hai aur agar anupama shah house mein bachon ko visit karti hai To anuj bolte hai ki tum choti anu ko priority nahi de rahi ho anuj Aaaft Kiya rehte hain

Aur doosri baat yeh anuj khud hi anupama ko bhejti hain bachon ke pass nahi bachon ko tumhari jaroorat hai tumhari bahu kinjal ko tumhari jaroorat hai yeh anuj khud hi bhejti hain. Anupama ko bhejti hain aur baad mein anupama se kehne lagte hai ki tum choti pe dhyaan nahi de rahi ho phalana nahi kar rahi ho dhimmaka nahi kar rahi hai

During midnight call of bapuji yeh anuj ne khud hi bheja tha anupama ko Pari ke pass shah house mei but baad mein aur jub anupama ne bola anuj se hum Pari ko saath lekar Kapadia house chalte hain to yeh anuj anupama ki baat poori sune Bina anupama ko shah house mein chod ke aisi hi bhaag gaye aur wahine anupama ko chod diya

Aur jub choti ro rahi thi rub yeh anuj baithe baithe bis bechari ban rahe they .arey jub tumhe pats hai choti ro rahi hai to tum gaadi uthate aur anupama ko le aate shah house se

Aur waise bhi agar. Bache anupama ke sath rehte hain to vanraj Kapadia house mein bachon se milne aayega can we able to tolerate this

Anupama Har jagah se fasi hui hsi due to uncessary blaming on anupama no body is giving tme space to.anupama sub anupama ke head mein chafe rehte hain

Then she should stop catering to them period. The Shahs will always create tamashas, that's in their nature. She needs to stand firm and bar them from her life except for her kids. Her kids are adults, they can't come in between them. Shahs want everything their way, no matter how inconvenient is for others. There is no point reasoning with them. At least this way her kids will respect her and Anuj.

Anupama ki poblem yeh hain ki Anupama ko lagta hain ki Anupama Besht hain. Anupama ki poblem yeh hain ki Anupama ko lagta hain ki woh Sab kar sakti hain. Anupama ki poblem yeh hain ki woh khud ko mahaan samajhti hain aur baaki sab ko bekaar. Anupama ki poblem yeh hain ki woh chahti hain ki sabke (Shahs) kaam woh khud kare. Anupama ki poblem yeh hain ki usse lagta hain woh kabhi galat ho hi nahin sakti, galatiyaan kar hi nahin sakti.

Finally, Anupama ki poblem yeh hain ki usko Poblem dikhai nahin deti.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Look like we have forget previous episode bache jaake anupama ke pass Kapadia house mein reh sakte Hai but It was vanraj who created tamasha and blame anupama ki tum mere bachon ko Mujhse door rakhna chahti ho

Yeh baat last year kimjal pregnancy time thi when kimjal was hurt during pregnancy

Us time vanraj ne Kitna tamasha Kiya aur anupama pr blame lagaya ki tum mere bache ko.mujhsw door rakna chahti ho

Jub baapuji ne Anuj ke phone ko Kiya Tha kya anupama Anuj i aa shah house aa sakte hain When anupama went to shah at midnight to pacify Pari

Anupama told baa main Pari ko Kapadia le jaati hoon tub baa me Aafat karna shuru kar diya ki nahi main Pari ko kahin jaane na doongi agar Pari jaayegi to main bhi Kapadia house aaongi

Agar bache anupama ke pass Kapadia house mein rehte hai vanraj afat karta hai aur agar anupama shah house mein bachon ko visit karti hai To anuj bolte hai ki tum choti anu ko priority nahi de rahi ho anuj Aaaft Kiya rehte hain

Aur doosri baat yeh anuj khud hi anupama ko bhejti hain bachon ke pass nahi bachon ko tumhari jaroorat hai tumhari bahu kinjal ko tumhari jaroorat hai yeh anuj khud hi bhejti hain. Anupama ko bhejti hain aur baad mein anupama se kehne lagte hai ki tum choti pe dhyaan nahi de rahi ho phalana nahi kar rahi ho dhimmaka nahi kar rahi hai

During midnight call of bapuji yeh anuj ne khud hi bheja tha anupama ko Pari ke pass shah house mei but baad mein aur jub anupama ne bola anuj se hum Pari ko saath lekar Kapadia house chalte hain to yeh anuj anupama ki baat poori sune Bina anupama ko shah house mein chod ke aisi hi bhaag gaye aur wahine anupama ko chod diya

Aur jub choti ro rahi thi rub yeh anuj baithe baithe bis bechari ban rahe they .arey jub tumhe pats hai choti ro rahi hai to tum gaadi uthate aur anupama ko le aate shah house se

Aur waise bhi agar. Bache anupama ke sath rehte hain to vanraj Kapadia house mein bachon se milne aayega can we able to tolerate this

Anupama Har jagah se fasi hui hsi due to uncessary blaming on anupama no body is giving tme space to.anupama sub anupama ke head mein chafe rehte hain

Anupama wants to keep all the matkas on her head and jab koi willingly sab matke apne par le kar chalna chahta ho toh usko fasna thodi na kehte hai?! Woh khud proudly bolti hai ki woh sab matke head par uthana chahti hai kyunki usko sab sab sab chahiye.

And anupama ke head par hum kaha se chade , waha par toh anupama ne already itne saare matke rakkhe hue hai !
Khair ab do matke futt gaye hai so I hope uske head ko thoda relief mile.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Anupama wants to keep all the matkas on her head and jab koi willingly sab matke apne par le kar chalna chahta ho toh usko fasna thodi na kehte hai?! Woh khud proudly bolti hai ki woh sab matke head par uthana chahti hai kyunki usko sab sab sab chahiye.

And anupama ke head par hum kaha se chade , waha par toh anupama ne already itne saare matke rakkhe hue hai !
Khair ab do matke futt gaye hai so I hope uske head ko thoda relief mile.

Temporarily thoda imbalance hua hai. Don't worry future mein Matka Queen will be back to managing all her matkas. And unlike what we think, it's not at all a bojh for her as vo dharti jitna dukh sehne vaali Maa hai 🤣

Originally posted by: hinz

koi kaise unhe ye samjhaaye Anupama ke dil mein abhi bhi Shahs e liye pyaar hai

jaane Anuj kyu samajhne ko naa tayyar hai🤣

sorry to mess with this serious topic,

basic boundaries are an alien concept for this jack of all trades, master of none person we call Anupama…

she still has feelings for Vanraj and Baa she considers bhagwan, the adult useless kids are only a medium to run back to the Shah where she truly belongs, she doesnt like the drama Barkha and Ankush come up with, she is addicted to taunts and insults…

Now that Anuj is screaming and taunting her, she might just decide to stay.

Now Anuj will get his deserved attention after all taana is oxygen for her