Why so much hate for anupama

Not a regular viewer of show but i read updates then and there in this forum and whenever I visit this forum I see people being happy everytime anupama is put down and tarnished..

Her mistake is going to shah house and her connection with mil and ex I understand that but how come taking care of her children can become a mistake.. a son is paralyzed why wouldn't any mother want to take care of that child.. Even in reality if one child is sick maximum effort will be put on sick child.. Doesn't mean they ignore other child or want to ignore other child..they make other child understand the situation... Here the kid very well had other parent nearby all the time..

Anuj very well knew she has a baggage when he married her but then at this age he put extra pressure on her by fostering a child..she did try to fulfill all that she can do.. Maya did a clever thing by putting all the mistake on anupama to escape the focus on her.. She is very very clever.. She hit two mangoes in one stone.. Splitting them as well as child..

I feel like anupama was just being fair ..but everyone are being very very unfair to her doesn't wait for a chance to put her down..Be it anuj Or shah members.. For his obsession what can anybody do...he must have always been cautious that the kid is under foster care only and they have no legal rights...just because she understood reality he is accusing her all the time of not being obsessed like he is..

I'm just being neutral here.. I long had this doubt ..

Only if she had gone to Shah house to actually look after her paralyzed son…the first thing she does when she gets there is make tea for the entire household, make burgers and not to forget the phataphat 5 minute ka khuchdi drama…

why do we keep forgetting that Anupamaa had the option of saying ‘NO’ to adoption/fostering? She claims to be this self sufficient progressive woman who can take her own decisions so why didnt she express her doubts of being able to raise a child when she wasnt sure of it?

Anuj was indeed wrong in expecting her to give in to his wish of adopting a child when he was very well aware of her responsibilities towards her kids, no matter what age…but Anupamaa’s constant ‘mai kar loongi, sab sambhaal loongi’ crap ruined it for them.

The problem is that she has not changed anything about herself and is back to square one.

Paritosh's sickness is a genuine concern but what about trillions of other trivial issues that she kept going back to Shah house for?

She has FOMO and a micromanagement complex where she wants to do everything herself which has been proven to fail again and again.

A show that claims to have a theme about a woman who got a divorce to seek her identity and self-respect is now about a woman who is a yes-woman and a people-pleaser.

How many times have we heard her say "Main sab kar loongi"

A strong woman isn't someone who necessarily has her own business and is successful but a strong woman is definitely one who can have an opinion and take a stand for it.

She should have chosen, either refuse Shah house responsibilities and become a dedicated Mrs. Kapadia or put her feet down that she needs to keep going to Shah house no matter what and doesn't want additional responsibilities.

The latter would have been easier, like the puppy he is, Anuj would have given up any plans of fatherhood and would have been content with just Anupamaa. But she agreed just to please him, while still maintaining her visits to Shah house. Ultimately her multi-tasking ruined everything.

She also couldn't prioritize things. She missed CA's dance function for cooking for Leela to please her but after Anuj got angry, she was ready to forego Paritosh's checkups for a simple picnic that even CA didn't think was important and told about it only when she thought Anupamaa had time.

If she had not kept running to SH over trivial matters, she would have had more support and less judgement over Paritosh's issues from Anuj. It was like the boy who fake cried wolf and didn't get help when an actual wolf came.

People ask, why does she have to choose? These are the same people who say women should have a career but only after their family is fed and taken care of. No human being can do "everything"

Unlike what she thinks of herself, she is not Kanha ji who danced with multiple Gopis in Rasleela at the same time.

Originally posted by: Swathiyaa

Not a regular viewer of show but i read updates then and there in this forum and whenever I visit this forum I see people being happy everytime anupama is put down and tarnished..

Her mistake is going to shah house and her connection with mil and ex I understand that but how come taking care of her children can become a mistake.. a son is paralyzed why wouldn't any mother want to take care of that child.. Even in reality if one child is sick maximum effort will be put on sick child.. Doesn't mean they ignore other child or want to ignore other child..they make other child understand the situation... Here the kid very well had other parent nearby all the time..

How did she leave her husband on wheelchair to celebrate the homecoming of her poti who had a complete family to welcome her? I guess brain surgery is not a big thing. If I remember correctly Pari had everyone all the time. How did she happily spend her birthday when her son is sick? Oh yeah I understand Maa needs to be happy to keep her son happy. Gotcha 😉

Anuj very well knew she has a baggage when he married her but then at this age he put extra pressure on her by fostering a child..she did try to fulfill all that she can do.. Maya did a clever thing by putting all the mistake on anupama to escape the focus on her.. She is very very clever.. She hit two mangoes in one stone.. Splitting them as well as child..

Did Anuj force her to accept? 🤔 if I remember correctly he did ask her twice. She said she will manage everything.

I feel like anupama was just being fair ..but everyone are being very very unfair to her doesn't wait for a chance to put her down..Be it anuj Or shah members.. For his obsession what can anybody do...he must have always been cautious that the kid is under foster care only and they have no legal rights...just because she understood reality he is accusing her all the time of not being obsessed like he is..

Anuj’s mistake is to accept her with her baggage. He was absolutely wrong to bring up the adoption but Anupama didn’t deny. Why? Why did she agree? Can’t back out now. Making khichdi was more important than the competition that I understand but did she ever apologise to CA? Oh yeah CA is samajhdaar so might have understood.

I'm just being neutral here.. I long had this doubt ..

People call out Anuj as well. Anuj deserves to suffer after choosing her as his wife. Match made in heaven.

I dont think anyone here said anything when Anu had to run to SH for Toshu or even when she stayed in the hospital for that. In fact I personally have been despising the way Anu has been displaying her dances keeps romancing around right in front of her paralyzed son. I despise AnupaMAA because of her self-righteousness when she has a longggg list of flaws. 🤔 She has been comparing herself to Yashoda for what ? 4 months of being Aadhi maa ? I hate her lectures on generic topics whereas right under her nose she gives contradictory behaviors e.g. after long bhashans of Mard-Orat and Orat’s misery for cheating husbands like Toshu, she expressed relief that Kinju decided to not leave Toshu. She claims to manage all matka’s together and I have to bear her 10 mins of bhashan on balance acts, whereas she misses the most important day of CA for making a 5 min khichdi. She let Anuj treat Barkha Ankush like trash, whereas if anyone even talks back to her precious Baa she gives such expressions as if she would just go die in shame if offered 2 spoonfuls of water. She talks about self respect so much, but everytime tells Baa that Baa can insult her as much as she wants. I despise her for that. Maaya’s response was the best - Dont talk to me like that, I dont like it - A simple sentence. But AnupaMAA can give 5 page lectures on self-respect but cannot utter these simple sentences. I hate AnupaMAA to make me sit through her lectures so much, and every alternate day making me watch her misery by not following those gyaan ke moti she herselft utters. Lecture bhi sunu, dinbhar becharigiri dekhu bhi, arre yeh orat kare toh kare kya how do I escape. You can say I hate AnupaMAA for having the cake and eat it too. 😵

Originally posted by: Swathiyaa

Not a regular viewer of show but i read updates then and there in this forum and whenever I visit this forum I see people being happy everytime anupama is put down and tarnished..

Her mistake is going to shah house and her connection with mil and ex I understand that but how come taking care of her children can become a mistake.. a son is paralyzed why wouldn't any mother want to take care of that child.. Even in reality if one child is sick maximum effort will be put on sick child.. Doesn't mean they ignore other child or want to ignore other child..they make other child understand the situation... Here the kid very well had other parent nearby all the time..

Anuj very well knew she has a baggage when he married her but then at this age he put extra pressure on her by fostering a child..she did try to fulfill all that she can do.. Maya did a clever thing by putting all the mistake on anupama to escape the focus on her.. She is very very clever.. She hit two mangoes in one stone.. Splitting them as well as child..

I feel like anupama was just being fair ..but everyone are being very very unfair to her doesn't wait for a chance to put her down..Be it anuj Or shah members.. For his obsession what can anybody do...he must have always been cautious that the kid is under foster care only and they have no legal rights...just because she understood reality he is accusing her all the time of not being obsessed like he is..

I'm just being neutral here.. I long had this doubt ..

1. No abuse woman I know goes back to the place where she was abused for 26 years even if she has kids. They have nightmares, can't leave the house even to go to courts to deal with getting custody of their children, restraining orders, here she willing not only go back but lives with them after the divorce. It is not like she had no place to go after her divorce. Her mother (from the clip I saw) offered her a place to go but she wanted to stay with her abusers.

2. No one here is saying she can't be a mother to her own children, what we are saying it in process to not neglect your responsibility either. Give equal time to both. Which she has never done.

3. If she was having reservation about having child in her late life, than she should have sit Anuj down and explained to him how she felt, instead she agreed to bring a child home she was not ready to raise and commit to.

4. Now that this child was here, instead giving her time she has been running after one batimazz child's problem to another ignoring her husband request that she pay attention this child please.

5. For her to stand there and lie and say she treats all four her kids equally, she knows the audience knows on khanga gee qasam or life, is a lie because she doesn't treat Ca same as she treat Pakhi and Toshu. We all have seen it with our own eyes.

6. She says she loves choti but fails to protect her for her ex-mother-in-law and her batimaaz kids. I have listed a few reasons why I hate for this woman grows daily.😡

Originally posted by: Swathiyaa

Her mistake is going to shah house and her connection with mil and ex I understand that but how come taking care of her children can become a mistake.. a son is paralyzed why wouldn't any mother want to take care of that child.. Even in reality if one child is sick maximum effort will be put on sick child.. Doesn't mean they ignore other child or want to ignore other child..they make other child understand the situation... Here the kid very well had other parent nearby all the time..

She left choti anu's school function to make khichdi for baa as she thought that's more important.

But when her paralysed son toshu actually needed her to take care of him then she decided to go on a picnic with ca as she was insecure of maaya 😕

Matlab baa ka khichdi also was more important to her than her paralysed son🤡

Khichdi k liye ca ka important function chod sakte hai but paralysed bete k liye nahi!!

What does this show?

She neither loves toshu nor ca but only herself..prioritises whoever she wants according to her own convenience.

And this is just one example i gave of her hypocrisy 😆

Originally posted by: strancho

People call out Anuj as well. Anuj deserves to suffer after choosing her as his wife. Match made in heaven.

Many of us who continue to hang around the forum, have watched the show from the get-go. We were the ones who smiled at her innocence; cried with her when she was abused, cheated & taken for a ride; cheered for her to break the shackles and be a free bird. We all hoped and willed for her to create an identity in a male dominated world and show her abusers what she is capable of.

Alas, the person we cheered for does not want to move on, does not want to be free. Refuses to rectify her mistakes and revive her life. Instead chooses to return to her comfort zone to get abused while rejecting the person who offered her limitless love and affection.

She will not get any sympathy for self-inflicted wounds. Our energy seems to have been wasted cheering for her, so we choose laugh when she cries.

Originally posted by: shriz

yeah we literally call anuj puppy here so no one can accuse us of being partial in trolling 🤣