Anuj words are somewhat correct💯

ANUJ ne aaj jo kaha bhale hi wo gusse mein kaha tareeka galat that par jo kaha sach kaha jo sabko dikh raha hai wo kaha , not even Anuj i also feel ki choti ke jaane se Anupama ko jyada fark nahi padega as uske pass teen bache hai agar un teeno ko kuch ho to dekho ye Anupama kya karti hai Pakhi ko kuch ho phir dekho Tosho ko hua to ro ro ke aasmaan sar pe utha liya aur kehti hai maa roti nahi duniya ke saamne saaf clear dikhta hai ki wo apne teen anmol ratan ke saamne choti ko kya samjhti hai . Dekha jaaye to Anuj ne hi dono maa baap ka role nibhaya choti ke liye Anupama ne nahi bas Anupama ko choti ke jaane ka dukh hai ki agar wo chali gayi to uska Anuj ke saath rishta khatam ya kharaab ho jayega sirf isliye wo nahi chahti ki choti jaaye that's it. Today i only feel for Anuj but not Anupama .

itna jigra kaha se laayi ho behen? get some protection sorted or go underground pleej before its too late😳😆

jokes aside, I agree with the bit about Anuj’s psychotic approach and pathetically executed outburst but what he spewed is wrongly said right…

however I must say that accusing a maa of bias is not done at any level and in Anupamaa’s case she came with baggage he knew of and blaming her for his own shortcomings is simply unacceptable.

I feel nothing for them, they both failed to protect Choti and in process neglected her.

Usually I'm amongst the last ones to take Anupamaa's side but the more we humanise these fictional characters, the more we overlook their flaws or tend to ignore their positives depending upon who we end up rooting for/against.

Anuj's frustration is understandable no doubt. Anupamaa has sorely disappointed him on several occasions but the way he reacted today was an indication of pent up emotion, which should at least have been indicated to her before, instead of being delivered abruptly with such hostility and laced with accusations. The scenes have literally played out in a way where she was on cloud 9 and then her bubble was burst rudely with no prior intimation. The emphasis is on the manner and circumstances in which she is shouted upon being a reflection of her past and not the legitimate criticism of her which could obviously have been done later

Keeping aside the past, while it is human tendency to blame others, the least one can do is to not alienate the ones who are with you during a crisis and conduct a post mortem analysis only after it is over. Especially when you are the one being stubborn, the one who is not ready to compromise at all or come to any arrangement and the one who literally ignored all warnings that she'd take her OWN child and came back without informing anyone at home.

Anupamaa has made a lot of mistakes which she should have been called out for. If it wasn't done then but she is at the receiving end in this scenario, it's simply not the case where it is deserved or hisaab barabar as it may appear

Originally posted by: ShahH8er

Usually I'm amongst the last ones to take Anupamaa's side but the more we humanise these fictional characters, the more we overlook their flaws or tend to ignore their positives depending upon who we end up rooting for/against.

Anuj's frustration is understandable no doubt. Anupamaa has sorely disappointed him on several occasions but the way he reacted today was an indication of pent up emotion, which should at least have been indicated to her before, instead of being delivered abruptly with such hostility and laced with accusations. The scenes have literally played out in a way where she was on cloud 9 and then her bubble was burst rudely with no prior intimation. The emphasis is on the manner and circumstances in which she is shouted upon being a reflection of her past and not the legitimate criticism of her which could obviously have been done later

Keeping aside the past, while it is human tendency to blame others, the least one can do is to not alienate the ones who are with you during a crisis and conduct a post mortem analysis only after it is over. Especially when you are the one being stubborn, the one who is not ready to compromise at all or come to any arrangement and the one who literally ignored all warnings that she'd take her OWN child and came back without informing anyone at home.

Anupamaa has made a lot of mistakes which she should have been called out for. If it wasn't done then but she is at the receiving end in this scenario, it's simply not the case where it is deserved or hisaab barabar as it may appear

I definitely have to appreciate the efforts from your side (or it probably comes quite naturally) to try and look at such short-sighted, sloppy, incoherent writing of completely-butchered characters (they will soon prove me wrong by butchering them some more) with some semblance of clarity and objectivity.

Yes, Anuj's behavior towards Anupama now seem definitely, definitely wrong and maybe the focus should be on that foremost at the moment.

Originally posted by: magicalgirll

ANUJ ne aaj jo kaha bhale hi wo gusse mein kaha tareeka galat that par jo kaha sach kaha jo sabko dikh raha hai wo kaha , not even Anuj i also feel ki choti ke jaane se Anupama ko jyada fark nahi padega as uske pass teen bache hai agar un teeno ko kuch ho to dekho ye Anupama kya karti hai Pakhi ko kuch ho phir dekho Tosho ko hua to ro ro ke aasmaan sar pe utha liya aur kehti hai maa roti nahi duniya ke saamne saaf clear dikhta hai ki wo apne teen anmol ratan ke saamne choti ko kya samjhti hai . Dekha jaaye to Anuj ne hi dono maa baap ka role nibhaya choti ke liye Anupama ne nahi bas Anupama ko choti ke jaane ka dukh hai ki agar wo chali gayi to uska Anuj ke saath rishta khatam ya kharaab ho jayega sirf isliye wo nahi chahti ki choti jaaye that's it. Today i only feel for Anuj but not Anupama .

Partially true. Yes Anuj does care for CA more than Anupama but even Anuj didn’t take stand for CA initially. He himself sent her to that mad house every time with Anupama. If Anuj knows that Anupama doesn’t love CA as her own kids why is he forcing her to do that? And why is he so obsessed with CA? Itna fikar tha to Maaya ke paas chor ke Kyu gya? I am not siding with Maa but Anuj knew everything before marriage right? In fact he himself told that she can prioritise Shahs before him. Why is backing out now? Wo chahiye bhi and fir usme nusk bhi nikaalne hai wo nahi chalta.. if we blame Anupama of being a hypocrite then this slave puppy comes across a bigger hypocrite than her.

Anuj-Anupama are both at fault at various levels and degrees.

Starting with Anupama since that's easy.

Anupama was a mother of 3 at a very emotionally vulnerable point of life when Anuj suggested, requested adoption of Choti Anu. She expressed her doubts to Devika and Not to Anuj and eventually yielded in full consciousness and in full knowledge of the troubles and consequences. She knew what she was getting into and yet agreed. Why? 🤷🏻‍♀️.

Now that she had agreed, she really did not treat her as a daughter per se and understandably so. Her dealings with Choti Anu were just transactional

Anuj called out her carelessness towards Choti Anu but she hardly cared. At this point came Maaya and the realisation that she better hold on to her life she had after a depressed life. Maaya arrived at Kapadia's claiming her child.

She invoked her mamatha meter and a unique out-of-court settlement via a 15-day challenge. Why she did that is beyond logic.

One theory can be: The lack of emotional involvement made her practical in approach. This may have been a way to buy time while Anuj and Co tried to run a verification. Seek legal options.

However, she never justified her actions to Anuj nor took him into confidence. Hence this claim dramagoes down the drain.

Now that 15 days have been disastrous, there is the , passing the blame.

Originally posted by: magicalgirll

ANUJ ne aaj jo kaha bhale hi wo gusse mein kaha tareeka galat that par jo kaha sach kaha jo sabko dikh raha hai wo kaha , not even Anuj i also feel ki choti ke jaane se Anupama ko jyada fark nahi padega as uske pass teen bache hai agar un teeno ko kuch ho to dekho ye Anupama kya karti hai Pakhi ko kuch ho phir dekho Tosho ko hua to ro ro ke aasmaan sar pe utha liya aur kehti hai maa roti nahi duniya ke saamne saaf clear dikhta hai ki wo apne teen anmol ratan ke saamne choti ko kya samjhti hai . Dekha jaaye to Anuj ne hi dono maa baap ka role nibhaya choti ke liye Anupama ne nahi bas Anupama ko choti ke jaane ka dukh hai ki agar wo chali gayi to uska Anuj ke saath rishta khatam ya kharaab ho jayega sirf isliye wo nahi chahti ki choti jaaye that's it. Today i only feel for Anuj but not Anupama .

Be it domestic abuse, justice for gangrape victim, extramarital affair, abusive elders, parenting, divorce or adoption rights.

Enough of bhaashan, bangle clanging, torch flashing, bhajan kirtan, glorifying abusers.

What we seen in Anupamaa's eyes was clearly not sadness, it was fear, abject FEAR.

And not fear that CA will be unsafe because she is not worried about Maaya's intentions. Her fear is how Anuj will react. If he will harm himself, or Maaya or someone else.

The exact same fear she had when she used to make trivial mistakes as Vanraj's wife.

Inherently she is the same woman who was ready as Vanraj's doormat all the time because she was under the illusion that he loved her, in some twisted way but that's what she believed. She divorced because her illusion that Vanraj loved her broke, not because she suddenly realized she has been mistreated for 26 years.

It is also why she is still the doormat for HasLee and her biological kids, she thinks they love her.

So now that she knows Anuj loves her, she is also ready to do anything for him and her feelings for him mirror exactly what they were for Vanraj. He gets annoyed once and she gets paranoid that he will leave her and will change her priorities to the other extreme immediately.

I do not sympathize with Anupamaa, simply because I don't think her character has grown as a woman at all. But yes, Anuj is another Vanraj, just that this Vanraj is attracted to Anupamaa and doesn't consider her forced upon himself.Other than that, absolutely no difference.

Vanraj wanted him and his kids (not their kids but just his) to be Anupamaa's priority and blamed her for failing as a mother many times, before and after divorce. So did Anuj. He expected Anupamaa to prioritize him and his daughter (not their daughter, but his) and blamed her for failing as a mother as soon as things went south.

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

What we seen in Anupamaa's eyes was clearly not sadness, it was fear, abject FEAR.

And not fear that CA will be unsafe because she is not worried about Maaya's intentions. Her fear is how Anuj will react. If he will harm himself, or Maaya or someone else.

The exact same fear she had when she used to make trivial mistakes as Vanraj's wife.

Inherently she is the same woman who was ready as Vanraj's doormat all the time because she was under the illusion that he loved her, in some twisted way but that's what she believed. She divorced because her illusion that Vanraj loved her broke, not because she suddenly realized she has been mistreated for 26 years.

It is also why she is still the doormat for HasLee and her biological kids, she thinks they love her.

So now that she knows Anuj loves her, she is also ready to do anything for him and her feelings for him mirror exactly what they were for Vanraj. He gets annoyed once and she gets paranoid that he will leave her and will change her priorities to the other extreme immediately.

I do not sympathize with Anupamaa, simply because I don't think her character has grown as a woman at all. But yes, Anuj is another Vanraj, just that this Vanraj is attracted to Anupamaa and doesn't consider her forced upon himself.Other than that, absolutely no difference.

Vanraj wanted him and his kids (not their kids but just his) to be Anupamaa's priority and blamed her for failing as a mother many times, before and after divorce. So did Anuj. He expected Anupamaa to prioritize him and his daughter (not their daughter, but his) and blamed her for failing as a mother as soon as things went south.

I really hate the revisionist history and absurd comparisons going on here recently

No, a woman intentionally ignoring her adopted small kid and emotionally cheating on her husband with ex is NOT same as vanraj. And no, thats not a TRIVAL mistake, thats abuse of a child

These posts are absurd and are pretending that a woman can never be wrong or questioned no matter what she does. That no one can expect anything from a woman just because she is a woman. That questioning anything a woman does instead of always letting her hurt others automatically makes it abuse. That a man can be completely neglected as a spouse and wife can emotionally cheat but the man should keep quiet or he is an abuser and MCP. That a child can be abused and hurt, the man can be abused and hurt but should forever keep quiet or be labeled as an abuser

Expecting the bare minimum from a spouse, ecpecting her to actually care for a 7 year old kid and giving time to her husband in a new marriage is NOT abuse just because someone is a woman

And no, no spouse in the real world will bear if someone emotionally cheats with her ex. All such posts pretend that anupama is being asked to chose between her own kids and current family, but anyone who saw the series knows she spends most time with Baa and Vanraj, she ignored Anu, not for her kids but for Baa and Vanraj, lets not pretend people are not watching the show where anupama got late because she was cooking khichdi for her abusive ex in law

I have seen the comparisons becoming more and more absurd just because people want to force rhis comparisons. Words like abuse and MCP lose all meaning if you use it in such absurd way and this is one of the biggest problems women face in the real world. Just because some people misuse the gravity of these allegations, any situation does not conveniently become abuse just because a woman is questioned, big words cannot be thrown willy nilly just because a man does or says something. Words and terms have huge impact and relevance

Basically the gist of all such posts is that if you have any expectations from a woman, if you call her out on her neglecting an orphan kid or emotionally cheating with her ex, it automatically becimes absue just because she is a woman which is simple ridiculous.

How are we different from characters in the show, blindly, unconditionally, worshipping Anuapam? The gist of these posts is that Anupama can do whatever she wants, neglect relationships, no one can question her, or its labeled as abuse