Is it right to blame Anupama ?? - Page 4

Originally posted by: naaznin

No other tv shows r worst than anupama.

In parineeti show husband got married to two best friends n no one cares to jail him, first one sacrifices for best friend but at times romances husband too

Imlie got cheated by her husband n sister so she makes husband best friend

Faltu's husband marries her one day n next day another girl .

Virat goes to pakhi when he was married to sai n when he is married to pakhi he goes to sai.

In udadiya one sister run away so another sister has to marry. After sleeping with wife husband realises he still loves run away sister so does EMA. After wife leaves he realises he loves his wife.

I don't watch these stupid shows my family does so i sometimes get to see few clips..

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See this is what sets Anupamaa show apart and makes it so progressive ... While in test of ITV we see a man juggling between 2 women and the ladies lusting and hankering for his love , here it is a woman whose doing the juggling and belencing between ex Pati and current Pati ... She’s literally married to both at the same time 😃 True women empowerment, only a great visionary like RS could have made it come true 👏

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I agree that its tough to forget past

But we fail in exams we forget and try to ass next exam or we wallow in pity i failed for remaining life? (anupam ais crying i am failed all life)

We do not get our fav course MBS but do engineering instead do we wallow in self pity all life oh i never became doctor all life? (anupama is doing this)

We are not our parent fav child its our brother and he gets all his wishes fulfilled as hes the future hope of family and parents do everything to make him what he wants. We are ignored and told do this or that course as no money to fulfill your dream course? Do we get angry on parent all life for not supporting us ut our sibling and give up studies and sit gloomy all life that our parent could not pay for our fav course or send us abroad like our sibling? (this is what anupama is doing)

We like a fav dress our parent do not buy it as its costly do we not wear the other dress they buyus that year or we will wallow in self pity

Anupam ais creating self pity and not ready to move forward although God gave her a chance that millions never get to start again at 45 years that too thats her problem

She cannot see what a great blessing anuj is to start again that no woman gets at 45 years in india or asia atleast being a divorcee and with 3 kids

Its like bill gates marrying a divorcee maid or tata narrying an uneducated divorcee with kids at 45 years

But she never seeing it as that, shes acting as if shes done favour on anuj by marrying him and done favour on CA by becoming her mother

Have you seen woman get raped, burnt by hubby, gang raped, beaten for decades by in laws and hubby, sold in brothel etc yet they survive and grow better than anupama

Anuj has rescued her but shes still in that brother in that prison not ready to come out at all than what can anyone do how can anyne sympathize this person?

I think it stems from the fact that she's ITV female lead. 😆

Originally posted by: naaznin

Daily soaps target audience is not real life practical modern woman. Its old MILs n middle aged DILs who contribute mostly to Trps n such kitchen politics content is churned for them.

And even if they wanted to create kitchen drama they could have made Leela and vanraaj suffer by the hands of kavya/kinjal and anupama refusing to help them. So many new problems could have been shown in anupama's new sasural as well by introducing new villains maybe.

So yeah here the producer voluntarily chose to make anupama a clown by sending her back to her exes again and again inspite of other options available.

Anupama deserves all the bashing on the behalf of the makers for making her a clown and i guess it's alright, coz bashing a fictional character is still better than throwing eggs and tomatoes on the real alive producer which I'm sure many people want to do 🤣

The only act she did for herself was get a divorce. She has put in NO, ABSOLUTELY NO EFFORTS into making her life better.

She NEVER stood on her own feet.

Dance Acedemy is an inheritance (karkhana). Her multiple bijjness ventures, sponsorships are c/o Anuj Kapadia.

What did she earn, struggle for or actually sweat it?

She is always looking for validation be it at SH or at KM.

If she could divorce Vanraj and showed guts to jump off the wall to go with Anuj on a business trip(though lived in SH after divorce ) why not show some stern reply to Baa and V where she has Anuj support. This character lost its credibility after Mukku fiasco where she did not expose Vanraj intentions to Anuj.

Day by day she is regressing or rather regressed and cannot be pulled of this mess.

This time it's Anuj turn to become a scapegoat in making her MAHAAN.

I personally have only been watching for three months only but from what I have seen, previous video clippings, recaps, and you all have caught me up with best as you could on the background, first.

Thank you, all.🙏

I blame Amupama the most, you can’t play the victim if you keep going back for more of the same everyday. She has been given opportunity after opportunity to change but still she is acting as if she is still not capable of change.

I find the writers have made mockery of abuse victims every where. I know no victim that keeps going back and forth for same.🤦🏻‍♀️

Originally posted by: surabhi01

I feel either reason hate her either we don't like actress because it happens when we don't like actress we hate the character too

Second reason not opposing baa harshly I think this is the major reason

Originally posted by: SoulSpiller

The quality of the story has degraded so much it's even difficult to see her as a real character anymore. Whenever I see grossly exaggerated scenes, now I can only think: 'Look at what they're making the actress do.'

But I'm glad you posted this thought - it feels like it comes from a place of kindness.

Many people felt that emotional connect in the beginning I think - after that big trauma, the way she was trying to pick up the shattered pieces, the way she raised her voice against Vanraj, the way she took a stand against her own exploitation...

A 40-something relatable woman regaining a sense of dignity and carrying these convictions:

"I wish to be independent. I wish to find my identity. I have sacrificed my entire life for other people now it's time to live for myself "

I understand it'd be still very difficult, but had her struggles to break out been shown intelligently....

Instead we have this:

800 episodes later (it feels like 8000000) despite being married to a rich good-looking unicorn who has burst into existence and has eyes only for her, and funding the miserable existence of her children; this dude is seen begging her for crumbs of attention for their family while she's serving the Shahs - repeating the exact same cycles she declared so proudly she'd break out of...

And like someone mentioned, there is zero sincere acknowledgement that she's made mistakes, nothing.

...this woman has actually been reduced to a 14 year old teenage girl who is not even relatable to 14 year old teenage girls.

To Anuj: "Anooj I love you Anooj I miss you Anooj don't make faces at me Anooj I'll die without you, you became too busy for me Anooj ? 1 day picnic feels like 1000 years without you Anooj "

To Vanraj: "THERE IS NO PLACE FOR NEGATIVITY IN MY LIFE. POSITIVE VIBES ONLY, B*TCH!"

confidently walks back to Shah house

People can accept a deeply flawed character who has some amount of self awareness and makes committed efforts to change.

But they might find it difficult to accept a deeply flawed character who is delusional and makes committed efforts not to change.

Originally posted by: CheekuKaBeej

I can't speak for everyone but I don't hate her.

She's trollworthy for me. I don't watch regularly, perhaps that's why I don't have such strong feelings😆

But yes, when I do watch, I tend to skip or make fun of her actions. This character gives me second hand embarrassment🤣

Reasons:

1. Uske kahin par bhi shuru ho jaane Wale bhashan😆
2. Uska insult karaye Bina khana hazam na hona🤣
3. Uska "cool" banne ke chakkar mein angrezi ki watt lagana😆
4. Baki I forgot🤣

I understand her years of abuse but not her refusal to see herself as who she really is- Shahs ki doormat 😆and finally doing something, anything, any-thing about it🤌😆

Originally posted by: prerna4rishav

Either AnupaMAA can be a bechari, or a lecturer. There cannot be a bechari lecturer. I cannot tolerate her because I can take either her sob stories or her achievements. But I am forced to tolerate both. Why ?

What you think is right. I wouldn’t have blamed her had I seen her addressing those issues and working on those. But I think she has taken herself to another level where if her husband tells her that she is not God, she takes offense in it.

Precisely my problem.

She has to be perfect. Failure is not an option for her, and she fails daily because of it and over doing.😂