Why MaAn want to keep a mother away from her child? - Page 6

Originally posted by: LoLo

If that were true you would see desperation in Maya’s eyes and she would have gone running to her daughter as soon as she saw her, instead of taking videos and pics and sneaking around. Sorry, but Maya is not getting any sympathy from me.

Originally posted by: Rein123

She did that to prepare for a legal battle which she doesn't have to because her rights as a mother are still intact moreover she went running after CA at the farmhouse when she fell ill and took care of her the entire time.

True. The biological parents have all the rights for their child unless they sign the papers that they are giving up rights for adoption or fostering. Anuj and Anupama have no rights on CA even if they adopted CA, because Maaya didnt sign away her rights.

I guess by the looks of it she left CA at the orphanage. Thinking she will return to get her again one day.

She should be given that chance to reunite with her child if thats what she really wants.

Originally posted by: LoLo

If that were true you would see desperation in Maya’s eyes and she would have gone running to her daughter as soon as she saw her, instead of taking videos and pics and sneaking around. Sorry, but Maya is not getting any sympathy from me.

It is called getting your documents ready for courts so you and lawyer have strong case.

I doubt Maya cares if she gets sympathy from anyone.

Originally posted by: Anjali_98

True. The biological parents have all the rights for their child unless they sign the papers that they are giving up rights for adoption or fostering. Anuj and Anupama have no rights on CA even if they adopted CA, because Maaya didnt sign away her rights.

I guess by the looks of it she left CA at the orphanage. Thinking she will return to get her again one day.

She should be given that chance to reunite with her child if thats what she really wants.

Originally posted by: Snowstorm22

I would want same chance too if, I was in Maya’s shoes.

Yes true. There is always a reason when a mother gives up her child.

Whatever the reason if she comes back she should be given that chance.

Anuj and Anupama did not spend years with CA ir from her birth, to not let Maaya get that chance back again.

Hear her out. See her reasons then panic.

Originally posted by: hoshiyaar

Maybe she already did that at the farm house where she took care of her sick child. Now she is desperate to get her child from MAAN who left a sick kid alone.

Well said. She probably already knows from talking to her child how she has been left alone by Maa few times while she went on to deal with Her older siblings issues. How she really felt when only her bapuji made it on time for her dance competition but Maa who was to perform with her came late because she had to take care of Baa’s food. Also because of her, she couldn’t compete. More over, she was left alone in the middle of the night while Maa had to take care of her granddaughter peri and she was calling for her because she had a nightmare and panic attack. After hearing all this, I too would want my child back.

Let’s agree to disagree. The child needs to be with who will care for her physically, mentally and spiritually. I don’t know who that is, but the biological mother had that first right by giving birth. Once she gave it up, her rights and the needs of the child were subject to others to decide. No matter her reasons, unfortunately once you give up that precious right, sometimes you don’t get it back. Culturally, I think we feel differently about this. I have seen many people raise children they did not give birth to and whose birth parents gave them up. Ideally each child should be with their birth parents, but that doesn’t exist in this world today. Obviously makers knew what they were doing bringing her birth mother into the picture. Look how passionately we are discussing this. You would think this was real people.

Originally posted by: LoLo

Let’s agree to disagree. The child needs to be with who will care for her physically, mentally and spiritually. I don’t know who that is, but the biological mother had that first right by giving birth. Once she gave it up, her rights and the needs of the child were subject to others to decide. No matter her reasons, unfortunately once you give up that precious right, sometimes you don’t get it back. Culturally, I think we feel differently about this. I have seen many people raise children they did not give birth to and whose birth parents gave them up. Ideally each child should be with their birth parents, but that doesn’t exist in this world today. Obviously makers knew what they were doing bringing her birth mother into the picture. Look how passionately we are discussing this. You would think this was real people.

I some what agree. We don’t know why Maya give up her child or temp Put her child in foster care. Here in USA, lots parents put their kids in temp foster care in hope to be reunited with them again Soon. Maya came back for her child so unless it was for some stupid reason, the both Anu/Anuj have no right to keep her. Anuj is capable of his responsibility but his wife is another story for that reason alone Choti needs her real mom, who will put her first.

Originally posted by: LoLo

Let’s agree to disagree. The child needs to be with who will care for her physically, mentally and spiritually. I don’t know who that is, but the biological mother had that first right by giving birth. Once she gave it up, her rights and the needs of the child were subject to others to decide. No matter her reasons, unfortunately once you give up that precious right, sometimes you don’t get it back. Culturally, I think we feel differently about this. I have seen many people raise children they did not give birth to and whose birth parents gave them up. Ideally each child should be with their birth parents, but that doesn’t exist in this world today. Obviously makers knew what they were doing bringing her birth mother into the picture. Look how passionately we are discussing this. You would think this was real people.

In that case Anupamaa and Anuj are not the ones who can care for her. But I don't think that matters, if I as a parent am fit to look after my child why the hell should she be handed over to some random couple without my consent or permission? If I can take care of my child now and have the means to provide for her wellbeing no freaking way will I let the foster parents who just had her for a few months keep her. Fact is if I never gave up my parental rights then no body can tell me that they are going to keep my child as theirs just because they had her for a short while. As a parent I will not tolerate it, forget me I don't thing any parent would tolerate it. A mother who left her child in foster care temporarily would have done so because of a certain situation that may have made it difficult to keep her close for her own well being, there is a difference between putting a baby up for adoption and leaving in just plain foster care, i know this because my mom left me as a chikd with my grandparents as it was not possible to keep me around due to a situation but she did come back for me and that is what matters. For example if I had to leave my child at my sister's care because I had to leave for work overseas and taking the baby along was simply not possible and I really need that job so I leave but then I find out my sister who is childless wants to adopt my child, do you think I'll allow it? Hell no. There is a difference between a temporary caretaker and parent.

This is just like people renting a house start claiming ownership of the same and fight with the landlord.

Originally posted by: Rein123

In that case Anupamaa and Anuj are not the ones who can care for her. But I don't think that matters, if I as a parent am fit to look after my child why the hell should she be handed over to some random couple without my consent or permission? If I can take care of my child now and have the means to provide for her wellbeing no freaking way will I let the foster parents who just had her for a few months keep her. Fact is if I never gave up my parental rights then no body can tell me that they are going to keep my child as theirs just because they had her for a short while. As a parent I will not tolerate it, forget me I don't thing any parent would tolerate it. A mother who left her child in foster care temporarily would have done so because of a certain situation that may have made it difficult to keep her close for her own well being, there is a difference between putting a baby up for adoption and leaving in just plain foster care, i know this because my mom left me as a chikd with my grandparents as it was not possible to keep me around due to a situation but she did come back for me and that is what matters. For example if I had to leave my child at my sister's care because I had to leave for work overseas and taking the baby along was simply not possible and I really need that job so I leave but then I find out my sister who is childless wants to adopt my child, do you think I'll allow it? Hell no. There is a difference between a temporary caretaker and parent.

This is just like people renting a house start claiming ownership of the same and fight with the landlord.

I could not have said it better, myself. Even farther, if you found out your sister was neglecting your sister, and still planned on adopting your child. You would not allow it. No way. You would rush back home and get your child back. I know, I Would.