Does anupama emotionally blackmail anuj? - Page 2

Originally posted by: myviewprem

I never told hubby should not teach wife or wife teach hubby etc

I am taking of anupama always going off or acting upset with anuj only than any shahs

Like malvika party too she went off to her home without speaking to anuj so anuj ran at midnight to her home

many such instance i can give

But she never behave so with vanraj or baa or pakhi and toshu like that ever even when they are wrong

With anuj even if hes right she acts upset or angry etc and thats emotional blackmail so person says sorry even if hes right

Like anuj said no sorry even if he told right

also our parent or hubby do not come to school college and office and keep teaching us we have to learn to study or work independent

how many years anuj will teach her already 2 years over she still do not know or speak proper;ly

Anju is a gem. He likes to do things for his wife. He's a great business man and will not easily manipulated by his wife. Love and manipulation are different. Manipulation is what baa and papa ki pakau princess pakhi does whenever they need anu.

Agreed that Anupama may have Stockholm Syndrome.

Regardless her other relations, one would question what is her contribution to the relation/marriage and where exactly is the story headed.

Originally posted by: shubhK2308

Why is there supposed to be a comparison between Vanraj and Anuj everytime?

Anu wouldn't do the same things with vanraj,because she never got that right,love and comfort with them,that she has with Anuj.

And doing something for your spouse or family members does not make someone a slave.

Plus,whatever Anuj does for Anu,it's out of his own choice and love,Anu never forces him to do this for her,buy that for her.

I know there are a lot of flaws in Anupama's characterization,especially her dealing with Shah Parivar...but that doesn't mean,everytime,every action,reaction or dialogues need to be scrutinized and criticized.

Its about how anu behaves with anuj to make him say sorry

She walked off sadly as if anuj insulted her or did a crime making him feel guilty that he went and said sorry

same thing vanraj or her kids and baa said million times she never went off

basically we know our parents take any nakra of us so we behave diff with them than with classmates, teachers or relatives

Same way anupama know anuj dhukti rag she uses it accordingly

with others she know it will not work so she does not create such scebes as no one will come and say sorry because they said you cannot understand international finance which is true

If i go to any maufacturing company i do not know abc of manufacturing

so if someone says do not send us there as we have no knowledge i will not feel offended because my expertise is different

i will not walk off from that place as thats true i will agree i have not studied or know anything in that field only

why to feel bad or sad and walk off its truth i will not mind it

same way anupama can say my expertise is dance i have learnt for 30 years so i am expert there

just because someone say at 45 i am not a lawyer will i start doing LLB not really. I have other expertise and i know even if i do LLB and become lawyer at 45(anupamas age) i will not become ram jethmalani even at 70 years(25 years after). Because he started lawyer field at 20 years of age.

It takes lot of education and experience to become expert. If anupama starts now it will take her next 20-25 years to become expert in business. Like anuj started at 22 years working now 45 he knows all about business same with ankush. Why feel bad of it

Originally posted by: Muskie

vanraj baa toshu pakhi are inhumans. You cannot expect empathy from them. Hence anupama never expected anything from them and did what all she could do.

Anju is a gem. He likes to do things for his wife. He's a great business man and will not easily manipulated by his wife. Love and manipulation are different. Manipulation is what baa and papa ki pakau princess pakhi does whenever they need anu.

From my view its exploitation only

Love is when both have equal say in life

Here anupama has 90% say in everything at home or decisions of life

Like anuj brought little anu some silver plate she objected anuj buy any gift she compares with middle class etc

She forces anuj to go to shahs now and than because anuj knows she close to them to keep her happy he has to be nice to shahs whether he likes or not

I dont know about Anupama EBing Anuj but it is true that she doesnt get most of the ideas that she is living right now.

1. Dance academy was Samar's idea

2. You should give Anuj a chance was Bapuji's and one episode good V's idea

3. You should work and collaborate was Anuj's idea

4. Adopt a child was Anuj's idea

5. Get your education now was infact Baa's idea even though she is against it now but during truth or dare game in the resort it was Baa who told her she could relive her dream of getting education now

Anupama is actually restricting herself by now able to think out loud and beyond. She got lucky after having 26 years of bad luck.

When u keep telling person that u r looser and cannot do this u person ke man yeh baat aane lagti hai ki yes woh looser hai .aut isliye shayad khud woh cheej karne mein use darr lagta hai

Like vanraj pakhi use to say anupama is looser to anupama ne bhi khud ko looser man liya aur use khud decision lene mein darr lagta tha .it is not like that she does not want to do anything but usko yeh darr tha ki kya wo kaam kar paayegi kya woh Jo decision legi woh sahi hoga

Moral support is also important without Moral support person ke andar heen bhavna aa jaati hai Moral support se one can do things in better way

Originally posted by: myviewprem

From my view its exploitation only

Love is when both have equal say in life

Here anupama has 90% say in everything at home or decisions of life

Like anuj brought little anu some silver plate she objected anuj buy any gift she compares with middle class etc

She forces anuj to go to shahs now and than because anuj knows she close to them to keep her happy he has to be nice to shahs whether he likes or not

This is so true. I know there is no comparing Anuj and Vanraj. They are poles apart. But to say that Anupama is fair in her relationship with Anuj is also a lie. She's not fair. She is extremely biased towards her ex husband and his family. I still remember that episode (can't remember the number) where Pakhi insulted her for nth time and Vanraj flat out told Anupama to leave Shah house and she refused. Crying and sobbing and whatnot. And saying it's her right to come to Shah house whenever she wants to see the kids (who just insulted her in ways I would never even dream of insulting my parents).

Because apparently all restaurants, parks and cafes are unavailable in Ahmedabad and of course kids can't just come to a neutral meeting place (like Kantaben's house. Their maternal grandmother? Did the writers' forget she owns a house as well?)

And I was like wth is this woman smoking?! Anupama constantly forgets that her actual home is now supposed to be KM not Shah house. Not to mention always policing how Anuj raises CA. Had she policed the so called acche pita half as much as she does Anuj maybe Pakhi and Toshu would have turned out better.

Other instances are her frankly nonsensical arguments about middle class being better. And in which dictionary is it written that 300rs chappal and 700rs bag are the things that make you middle class? 100% of middle class people would love to upgrade themselves materialistically and it would not take away their values, the real USP of middle class btw.

Not giving an inch to BB while forgiving years of abuse from ex saas. I am not calling her Baa that is an insult to Anupama's real mother Kantaben. (Sidenote: poor Kantaben. She is the real victim here. May God never give such a useless daughter like Anupama to any mother like Kantaben)

Bechara Anuj toh pati hokar bhi second thought hai for Anupama. In a sadistic twist of fate writers have made Anupama the V of MaAn relationship. Anuj is second for Anupama just like she herself had been second for the so called acche pita for decades.

And the writers' solution to this is having Anuj argue on her behalf. All. The. Bloody. Time. Like seriously? A big tycoon like Anuj would have forbidden Anupama from seeing Shahs. Sent BB and Adhik back to US from first flight next day and ruined whatever remained of Shah assets/reputation for good measure. Instead he goes outside and gives Anupama two minutes to say goodbye to a family who berated, insulted and almost threw her out mere minutes ago. Takes in her useless gold digger daughter and goes about saying how his wife can never be wrong.

What a waste of a good character. And such an unhealthy, imbalanced relationship

Originally posted by: HoneyBee7312

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Bechara Anuj toh pati hokar bhi second thought hai for Anupama. In a sadistic twist of fate writers have made Anupama the V of MaAn relationship. Anuj is second for Anupama just like she herself had been second for the so called acche pita for decades.

And the writers' solution to this is having Anuj argue on her behalf. All. The. Bloody. Time. Like seriously? A big tycoon like Anuj would have forbidden Anupama from seeing Shahs. Sent BB and Adhik back to US from first flight next day and ruined whatever remained of Shah assets/reputation for good measure. Instead he goes outside and gives Anupama two minutes to say goodbye to a family who berated, insulted and almost threw her out mere minutes ago. Takes in her useless gold digger daughter and goes about saying how his wife can never be wrong.

What a waste of a good character. And such an unhealthy, imbalanced relationship

Kanta warned Anu about this before her wedding but it looks like she's forgotten that.

Not to mention, that Anu doesn't understand the concept of proper boundaries in relationships, even between family members. Anuj gets dragged into unnecessary situations along with Anu because of the Shah family dramas. It's good to be a supportive husband and to respect your wife, but this should have been a marriage of equals and Anupama should ensure that she doesn't end up being unfair to Anuj. He's a bit too understanding, and just when I think he's about to lose his patience with the Shahs, he stops short of erupting. I really wish they would explore this angle. He told Anu before the wedding that he knew and accepted that he could never have all of her the way he was all hers but sometimes I want to see her make an effort to shield him from some of the BS that goes on in the Shah house. Pakhi's moved back to her old neighborhood, physically far from Kapadia Mansion but it won't take long before the vicious cycle resumes and the Kapadias are dragged back in.