Does anupama emotionally blackmail anuj?

What i observe is anupama takes lot of advantage and emotionally blackmails anuj in this serial

Shes the alpha female or alpha male in this marriage

She never did or will ever do all that with baa or her 3 kids or vanraj and her so called bapuji all this upset and angy poses and leaving place

Usually in india or office leaving in between conversation sudden ins seen as disgrace to person talking means you are angry or upset with him. Thats what anupama did.

Because we tend to emotionally blackmail and take advantage of people who love us and will bend for us even if we are wrong (like mother father)

Here its anupama fault that she left shahs house 1 years back and took divorce 2 plus year back yet even once she never went and attended english course or enrolled even in evening college BA (forget BCOM/BSC i doubt with her ability she can ever pass all that). She never enrolled in computer course. All anuj should teach. In office if employee feels they want to learn something they enroll in courses outside no. Company will not teach you English or computer or finance you are supposed to know all that when you join work(anupama is exception because shes owner lover and than wife that she got job without knowing anything).

Only company may give training on java, C# all latest technology that too top 10 compaies like infosys or wipro or microsoft. The others will not waste time and money teaching employee or owners family. For one person no one will start training in english or computer they have to learn outside. Because its waste of money. So from 2 years anupama working in anuj company(as kavya said 2 years wedding over we are 3rd year to V long back) yet she never bothered to learn english or computers or finnace basics. Because anuj her teacher cum ghulam there. Any other emp first they will not get job in company without knowing all that if they get within 2 months they must learn or they will be dismissed from job. Company will not wait forever to learn. Anyways now anupama is owner no longer employee still never bothered to learn after marriage.

What is problem if Anuj teaches anupama .yahi to woh baat ho gsyi ki husband kyon wife ko car chalana seekhayein .wife khud kyon nahi car driving school join Kar leti .

There are husband who teaches her wife be it car driving that does not mean woh wife ke ghulam ho gaye

Agar husband ke seekhane se husband wife ke ghulam ho jaate hai to wife bhi husband ki ghulaam nahi hai jo roj husband ke kapde dhoye press kare aur uske liye khaana banaye

Bache apni Maa se khana banana kyon seekhein why don't join cooking class

Agar anuj anupama ko English seekha raha hai aur uske liye translate kar raha hai to usme problem kya hai

What emotional blackmail anupama did kya aaj tuk anupama ne yeh bola ki agar anuj yeh kaam poora nahi karenge to phir woh hunger strike pe chali jaayegi when anupama is not giving any threat to Anuj how she is emotional blackmail to him

.anupama is wife of anuj and it is her right to take help from anuj because anupama is anuj wife

Anupama should full fill her wife duty and should always remain around her husband anuj when anuj was ill but if anuj help anupama then become slave of anupama and joru ka ghulam ?.how ?

And also book ke peeche hamesha technical word ki glossary di hoti Hai aur school mein bhi English mein padhai hoti to aisa nahi hai Anupama ko khuch Samajh nahi aayega .while studying financial literature couse .aur waiss bhi financial literacy course basically for beginners and yeh simple English language mein padhsya jaata hai

By listening properly to teacher and seeing glossary behind it is not hard to learn meaning of technical word

And in company and banks they do provide glossary for technical word and even give full form of abbreviation word

Originally posted by: surabhi01

What is problem if Anuj teaches anupama .yahi to woh baat ho gsyi ki husband kyon wife ko car chalana seekhayein .wife khud kyon nahi car driving school join Kar leti .

There are husband who teaches her wife be it car driving that does not mean woh wife ke ghulam ho gaye

Agar husband ke seekhane se husband wife ke ghulam ho jaate hai to wife bhi husband ki ghulaam nahi hai jo roj husband ke kapde dhoye press kare aur uske liye khaana banaye

Bache apni Maa se khana banana kyon seekhein why don't join cooking class

Agar anuj anupama ko English seekha raha hai aur uske liye translate kar raha hai to usme problem kya hai

What emotional blackmail anupama did kya aaj tuk anupama ne yeh bola ki agar anuj yeh kaam poora nahi karenge to phir woh hunger strike pe chali jaayegi when anupama is not giving any threat to Anuj how she is emotional blackmail to him

.anupama is wife of anuj and it is her right to take help from anuj because anupama is anuj wife

I never told hubby should not teach wife or wife teach hubby etc

I am taking of anupama always going off or acting upset with anuj only than any shahs

Like malvika party too she went off to her home without speaking to anuj so anuj ran at midnight to her home

many such instance i can give

But she never behave so with vanraj or baa or pakhi and toshu like that ever even when they are wrong

With anuj even if hes right she acts upset or angry etc and thats emotional blackmail so person says sorry even if hes right

Like anuj said no sorry even if he told right

also our parent or hubby do not come to school college and office and keep teaching us we have to learn to study or work independent

how many years anuj will teach her already 2 years over she still do not know or speak proper;ly

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Anupama should full fill her wife duty and should always remain around her husband anuj when anuj was ill but if anuj help anupama then become slave of anupama and joru ka ghulam ?.how ?

anuj was not even one week coming home from hospital she ran off dressed in silk saree to celebrate with shahs

he had fallen from bed at midnight morning she left to shahs

If thats a real wife duty than no one wants such a wife or hubby

when its vanraj she would be 24/7 at home doing seva

Thats also taking advantage of anuj

no normal wife runs of leaving hubby whose so setious to ex hubby house so soon

Originally posted by: surabhi01

And also book ke peeche hamesha technical word ki glossary di hoti Hai aur school mein bhi English mein padhai hoti to aisa nahi hai Anupama ko khuch Samajh nahi aayega .while studying financial literature couse .aur waiss bhi financial literacy course basically for beginners and yeh simple English language mein padhsya jaata hai

By listening properly to teacher and seeing glossary behind it is not hard to learn meaning of technical word

And in company and banks they do provide glossary for technical word and even give full form of abbreviation word

after correcting 1000 times by all for sorry she never learnt in 27 years after leaving college

so her reading all this glossary and learning anything is doubt

she is like pakhi she oves doing house work and being at home and running to ex hubby home to work there

she has no real interest in job outside

vanraj forced her to open dance academy etc because he cheated her or even today anupama would be in shah kitchen only

In which episode anupama did emotional blackmail and take advantage of anuj .it is anuj who himself happily send anupama to shah every time

Anuj himself annoucing happily to everyone that a that anupama has three maika .

She has interested in job that is why she told to vanraj she will concentrate on her studies and she ask vanraj to look pakhi matter himself as she now want to concentrate On her studies

Basically anupama has not join formal class she is student adult education and financial literacy mein simple topic hi cover Hota hai like budgeting managing debt saving

Why is there supposed to be a comparison between Vanraj and Anuj everytime?

Anu wouldn't do the same things with vanraj,because she never got that right,love and comfort with them,that she has with Anuj.

And doing something for your spouse or family members does not make someone a slave.

Plus,whatever Anuj does for Anu,it's out of his own choice and love,Anu never forces him to do this for her,buy that for her.

I know there are a lot of flaws in Anupama's characterization,especially her dealing with Shah Parivar...but that doesn't mean,everytime,every action,reaction or dialogues need to be scrutinized and criticized.