Anupama and Anuj are hypocrites of the highest order - Page 2

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

I wish I could like this more than once. I don't even expect Anuj to love Anupama's children like his own. But just understand that Kinjal is as important to Anu as choti Anu (at least should be, because clearly with Anupama's constant complaining it doesn't seem to be the case).

If you remember Anuj ne hi kaha tha anupama se ki hospital mein ruko kinjal ke saath

Aur kaun si wife aapne coma se 2 din laute huye husband ko chodkar aapne toxic ex sasural jaati hai??

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Are you serious? Yes, they are hypocrites but not for the reasons you mentioned. Why can't a husband want to spend some time with his wife? Anuj has been extremely understanding regarding Anu's uncultured selfish family. Her kids insulted him many times, yet he always welcomed him in his house. Even during his sickness he did not prohibit Anu from staying with her DIL which any normal husband would have done. I am a mother myself and I know after delivery a mother needs her mother the most. But Anu is not Kinjal's mother. For the millionth time I am saying this Anu is not Kinjal's mom, Rakhi is. If Anuj does not let Anu stay with Pakhi after her delivery, then I will bash him and call him hypocrite. Anu should focus only on her husband, 4 kids and her widow mom.

Rakhi is enough to handle her daughter.

Yes, I am serious. Anuj of course may wish to spend time with his wife. But him constantly telling her to not interfere in the matter, why shouldn't she? Just because you personally don't feel that it's important to you that doesn't mean it should be the case for Anu as well. As someone here pointed out, would he react the same way if choti Anu was going through something similar?

Oh I completely agree with you that Kinjal shouldn't consider Anupama to be her mom. Not because I think she is wrong, but because she is an absolute fool to think that Anupama would always provide her support. Anupama will half heartedly spend time with her while constantly complaining about nor being with Anuj and Choti Anu.

Anupama is not the only one with commitments. Rakhi has a very successful job. She has a husband (even if he cheated on her, she decided to stay in the marriage, so wouldn't her husband want to spend time with her as well, or is it only applicable to newly wedded couples). But how is she so present for Kinjal without constantly referring to the sacrifices she is making?

Anuj is a terrible father and husband, and Anupama is an irresponsible mother. Even towards Choti Anu, why does she constantly expose her to the toxic environment at the Shah house? I wish characters on the show would stop praising Anupama's mahanness. She is a flaky, irresponsible, narcissistic person.

I think either way we are not going to agree on this issue. So let's agree to disagree. Thank you for bringing up some salient points.

Originally posted by: Milk_cake

If you remember Anuj ne hi kaha tha anupama se ki hospital mein ruko kinjal ke saath

Aur kaun si wife aapne coma se 2 din laute huye husband ko chodkar aapne toxic ex sasural jaati hai??

Arre why did she go to the toxic ex sasural? Should she not have accompanied Kinjal in the delivery room? Her mom wasn't there and neither was her nikamma pati. Anuj had GK, servants and I assume a nurse. Why can't he be left alone for a while? Then would you also say that Anupama is being a terrible wife by going to the office because she should stay by her husband's bedside 24/7?

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

Arre why did she go to the toxic ex sasural? Should she not have accompanied Kinjal in the delivery room? Her mom wasn't there and neither was her nikamma pati. Anuj had GK, servants and I assume a nurse. Why can't he be left alone for a while? Then would you also say that Anupama is being a terrible wife by going to the office because she should stay by her husband's bedside 24/7?

Orange

Read my post again I said why she did go to her toxic ex sasural not hospital

Anupama humesha bolti hai ab mein iss ghar mein nahi aaogi 2 din baad chali jati hai

She went shah house when her husband had panic attack last night

And you expect a 70 year old man is enough for taking care of a coma patient???

Anupama ko defend karne ke liye aache points laya kariye 😂

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

In my opinion, the main takeaway of this show is that if you have children from your previous marriage, don't remarry because your new husband no matter what he says won't accept them wholeheartedly.

Anuj's comments today really pissed me off. He said if Lord Ganesha can consider Maa Parvati and Mahadev as his parents, why can't parents consider their children to be their entire world? That the two Anupamas of his life are his universe. And he followed that up with saying "thoda hamare liye bhi jeete hain"?

Basically Anuj considers Anupama's responsibilities from her previous marriage to be a bhoj and an impediment to their happy life. Excuse me, I know many of you believe that Anupama doesn't prioritise her new family enough. But in this situation, Anupama being there for Kinjal shouldn't be considered as an inconvenience by Anuj, which he is doing right now. For Lord knows what reason Kinjal considers Anupama to be her mother. Girls after giving birth stay for months with their mom's to recuperate. Here, on top of a really painful delivery, Kinjal was also cheated upon by husband multiple times. If Anupama feels even a little bit of mother attitude towards Kinjal, she should be there for Kinjal today.

Didn't you hear Kinjal's dialogues today? She said she came to the Shah house because she was tired of being a burden on Anupama. Anupama made her woe be me face but didn't refute her at all. No matter what you say, your attitude determines what someone feels towards you. So if Kinjal feels this way, then it is because Anupama and Anuj through their actions and words haven't made her feel secure. I don't understand how Kinjal feels secure with Anupama. Honestly, she is really not appreciating Rakhi enough. Her mom is going to be the only one who is going to be there for her unconditionally without making her feel bad about it like Anupana would.

Some of you may say that the Shah members constantly barging into the Kapadia house is detrimental especially for choti Anu. True. For that, why don't you hire a security guard that won't let these people in whenever they come to the house to create Tamasha. As some of you said, if Anupama wants to place her older children on the back-burner and focus on her new kid and husband that's also fine. But then people like Kinjal must maintain a distance from them and only meet them couple of times in a year the way adult children meet their parents in most countries. Anupama should acknowledge that she has lost the privilege of having a say in every facet of her children's lives.

Most of uou say Anupama is a terrible mom to choti Anu? I say she us flaky af towards her older children? And yet Anupama keeps victimising herself about aurat ka bhatna and all that crap. Toh phir why is nobody benefiting from this situation?

Honestly this is such a regressive show. You can move on with life while still being there for your other children and this show shows that there will always be an innate conflict there. I think I hate all the adult characters here except for Rakhi.

I dont know what serial you are watching my friend,but anupamaa has been spending 99.99% of her time with her ex and exes family. In real life, the spouse will throw out such an ex obsessed person from their life, not just be calm like Anuj

I mean husband is recovering from brain surgery and still has episodes, no children, no matter how selfish will ask their mom to not focus on their husband in such a case. Even children under 10 will understand, let alone grown adults

I am just assuming your post is sarcasm or comedy because it doesn't make any sense on context of this series

Claiming anuj has problems with Anupama's previous children or family has to be the worst lie i have ever heard

I will repeat, in real life, if a spouse is as obsessed with ex as Anupama, they will be thrown out

Originally posted by: MOTHERHOOD

Are you serious? Yes, they are hypocrites but not for the reasons you mentioned. Why can't a husband want to spend some time with his wife? Anuj has been extremely understanding regarding Anu's uncultured selfish family. Her kids insulted him many times, yet he always welcomed him in his house. Even during his sickness he did not prohibit Anu from staying with her DIL which any normal husband would have done. I am a mother myself and I know after delivery a mother needs her mother the most. But Anu is not Kinjal's mother. For the millionth time I am saying this Anu is not Kinjal's mom, Rakhi is. If Anuj does not let Anu stay with Pakhi after her delivery, then I will bash him and call him hypocrite. Anu should focus only on her husband, 4 kids and her widow mom.

Rakhi is enough to handle her daughter.

Pretty sure OP is a comedy post because it makes zero sense. I mean husbands recovering from brain surgery and has episodes. In real life no child will ever want their mom to even step away grom their dad in such situations, not even little kids

And i dont know which series this person is watching because Anupama is in shah house 99% of time. In real life such an ex obsessed spouse will be kicked out.

Majority of working women in India have delivery and raise child on their own but this person thinks a woman like kinjal who has so much support is completely dependent on Anupama who has a sick husband

No, it has to be comedy

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

Arre why did she go to the toxic ex sasural? Should she not have accompanied Kinjal in the delivery room? Her mom wasn't there and neither was her nikamma pati. Anuj had GK, servants and I assume a nurse. Why can't he be left alone for a while? Then would you also say that Anupama is being a terrible wife by going to the office because she should stay by her husband's bedside 24/7?

I am still sure you are being sarcastic and funny.but just in case

NO WIFE will go to office or hospital or anywhere else when husband had brain surgery. No matter how many servants they have. And no adult children will expect them to leave their husband

As its been told many many many times on this very forum, most modern women have delivery alone in india. Neither mom nor in laws are present, both are with their own husbands

Are you claiming moms and mother in laws of these women don't love them?

If you are being funny, i apologize

Regardless of who is accepting who

I think most of us can agree that

This show is a mind fu*k of the highest order

Originally posted by: Potato_couch

Yes, I am serious. Anuj of course may wish to spend time with his wife. But him constantly telling her to not interfere in the matter, why shouldn't she? Just because you personally don't feel that it's important to you that doesn't mean it should be the case for Anu as well. As someone here pointed out, would he react the same way if choti Anu was going through something similar?

Oh I completely agree with you that Kinjal shouldn't consider Anupama to be her mom. Not because I think she is wrong, but because she is an absolute fool to think that Anupama would always provide her support. Anupama will half heartedly spend time with her while constantly complaining about nor being with Anuj and Choti Anu.

Anupama is not the only one with commitments. Rakhi has a very successful job. She has a husband (even if he cheated on her, she decided to stay in the marriage, so wouldn't her husband want to spend time with her as well, or is it only applicable to newly wedded couples). But how is she so present for Kinjal without constantly referring to the sacrifices she is making?

Anuj is a terrible father and husband, and Anupama is an irresponsible mother. Even towards Choti Anu, why does she constantly expose her to the toxic environment at the Shah house? I wish characters on the show would stop praising Anupama's mahanness. She is a flaky, irresponsible, narcissistic person.

I think either way we are not going to agree on this issue. So let's agree to disagree. Thank you for bringing up some salient points.

Rakhi and Pramod are Kinjal's parents.

AnupaMaa and Vanraaj are Toshu, Samar and Pakhi's parents.

AnupaMaa and Anuj are CA's parents.

I hope you remember this information. So Anuj has every right to ask Anu to stop interfering in Kinjal's life, but totally zero right to ask Anu to stop interfering in T, S, P and CA's life. During the Adhik P fiasco, did Anuj stop Anu from interfering in P's life? Anuj clearly told Anu that she is her kid and only she and V has the rights to interfere in her life. So it's not like Anuj does not let Anu to get involve in her kid's life.

Yes, like Anu, Rakhi also has many commitments. But Rakhi is not cribbing because Kinjal is her blood. Does Anu ever crib about helping her ungrateful selfish daughter Pakhi? Kinjal's priority is higher than Rakhi's other commitments. Similarly, Anuj and Anu's four kids priority will always be higher to Anu than Kinjal. I repeat, if tomorrow Anu cribs about staying with Pakhi post her delivery or after her husband's EMA exposure , I would bash her like there is no tomorrow. I am certain Anuj won't stop Anu from helping out Pakhi after her delivery or sickness unless, P behaves like a brat and insults Anu.

Yes, I wholeheartedly agree Anu and Anuj are selfish and irresponsible parents as they are exposing CA to toxicity. But I can't term them selfish regarding Kinjal.

Anu's priorities are misplaced. She should sort them out. She is too involved in her DIL's life. She should hand over Kinjal's responsibility to Rakhi. She should focus on her husband's health, bond with CA, try to mend her relationship with Pakhi, spend time with Samar, focus on her career and for once find out whether her mom is alive or dead.

Anupama is also at fault. Being dadi of pari , she should explain kinjal that it’s not good to move 6-7 days old baby to new household . Kinjal should not prioritise her mental support over her 6-7 days baby’s needs. Baby needs good care taker and kinjal being first time mom has not much idea how to manage with day to day baby issues so better she prioritise her daughter’s need over her mental health, choose second option and go to her maayka for her newborn daughter’s sake because kinjal’s mother in law and mother both are working woman so none of them have a time to stay with first time mom.