What is Anupama going through?

Anupama is going through a lot. People are saying that she is center of each track and why should she be so prominent in Toshu-Kinjal relationship and their infidelity drama and why she is always a part of Shah house and their ongoing dramas plus also respective Kapadia dramas. I feel like, this track is showing a message that women can't and should not do everything. Knowing ITV, it's probably going to make Anupama mahaan but the fact that Anupama is constantly reiterating that she is exhausted and sick of being divided and burdened, makes me think that maybe they can find a good conclusion where Anupama is able to let go and let people let their own loves. I hate Babuji and now Anuj mansplaining Anupama and basically placing her on a pedestal that women can do all and women have the responsibility to do everything. Anupama either gets reviled by people or gets treated like she can do nothing wrong, which is 2 extremes and you can literally feel the mounting frustration in her as she tries to deal with the families. RG has acted really well, I can feel the guilt and despair pouring out of her as she deals with the aftermath of the affair and people. The one thing she needs to learn is to let people deal with their own shit and own problems. I hate that Kinjal is moving with Anupama, in a way it's good because then Anu would not have to keep going to Shah house, but honestly it's bad for Kinjal. Kinjal is so depended on Anu. She needs to learn how to deal with her own problems and live her life. I know she needs help right now, but she will be creating an extra burden on Anupama's head. Anupama is extremely upset with Toshu and may remain for a long time, but she hates being the victim of his vitriol and this will just escalate it. Ideally, Kinjal should love to her own house, take a break and decide things. She can do marriage therapy if she wants to fix things, she can work out their issues or she can plainly divorce him. She definitely needs therapy because she is undergoing a lot of anxiety right now and she needs space. She shouldn't be unduly influenced, she should make decisions on her own, thinking it through and taking her time. Toshu and Kinjal's marriage had a lot of issues, so it would be interesting to see infidelity was a byproduct or the straw that broke the camel's back rather than just that Toshu was horny and needed to get laid. In a way, is just generalizing male infidelity when there are a lot much to explore.

Anupama's relationship with Toshu and Pakhi- Anu needs to get them to respect her. These two are really good for nothing, egotistical people who have zero respect for their mom. Do their issues stem for the fact that their dad or baa never respected their mom? Most of them, yes. But Anupama also needs to own up to her self respect. Her kids should be afraid to talk to her rudely. But they seem to have no limits. If you can't teach kids to be respectful human beings, then you have really failed in bringing them up. She really is not a good mother, a good mother teaches kids to be independent so they can be successful adults and none of her kids have reached that level yet. Anupama needs to have self respect. She needs to realize that letting Shah family treat her like a doormat has led her kids becoming some of the worst adults. The journey should show her gaining respect from everyone and that only happens if you have self respect. Self Respect means saying no to others, especially for your sake of mind. Baa and Vanraj and the rest are hypocrites. Her kids are hypocrites too. But so she is because actions speak louder than words, and all she does is give long bhashans but doesn't follow up on them. It's going to be painful, bursting the bubble, putting herself first after putting everyone first, being selfish, but it is necessary. Women are not goddesses. They should not have to manage kitchen and house, mayka and sasural and everything. Anupama shouldn't have to feel that she will lose people if she doesn't go out of her way to overhelp. I feel that's why she does, she knows her worth comes from doing things for them and if she doesn't, then she will be replaced. So in a twisted way, she is doing everything to cement her position but also hurting herself continuously. But what's the point to be so needed, if not respected? Everyone needs her, but only few respect her and she has no mental peace. Being too much of anything is bad, and it is shown that Anupama being too involved is ultimately not giving her anything. I hope that people realize that ultimately mental peace is everything.