bye & a message to all of the women in this forum.

I told Riddhi a couple of months back that it was so cringe when people made these goodbye threads...the mighty have fallen. lol.

friends, foes and most importantly silent readers :

im out. i cant watch this show anymore, nor do i want to talk about it. i should have realized the effect it was having on me when i could not bring myself to watch it for 20 mins a day. watching this show is akin to doing my least favourite chore, stubbing my toe or drinking a vile cough syrup.

this show has nothing to offer anyone. you dont need to be a pseudo-intellectual to figure that out. the spirit of this forum has completely deteriorated because the atrocities are hard to digest. we are a broken record in here and it's been going on for months.

i can't sit here and keep pretending "it's just a show".

we are sitting here watching a show with no hope, no promise and NO MESSAGE. (or a poor one).

but, unlike Anupamaa, we have control over our lives. DKP et al aren't writing our stories. we are.

There are many women in this forum who are beaten, called names, ignored, disregarded, raped, vilified, pushed, pulled, manipulated by their husbands, boyfriends, in-laws, children and even their own parents.

And I know these women will read this, so hear me when I say :

YOU DON'T HAVE TO GO THROUGH THIS PAIN.

there is help. there are resources. there are people who want to listen to you; free of charge. they wont judge or question you.

i dont want this to sound tone-deaf or fake woke. no, positive affirmation isnt going to fix your life overnight. this isn't an akshay kumar movie.

to act outside of your sensibilities and surroundings is a herculean task for any of us. only you know how bad it gets and how you are making it through each day. maybe you cant imagine packing up and leaving in the middle of the night and that's ok. baby steps. start somewhere. start with believing that you are worthy of respect, happiness and peace. and stop watching the most triggering show of all time for women aged 12-65, in every country you can name.

anyways, it's been a pleasure interacting with everyone here and for those who want to keep in touch (or need a friend), don't be shy, send me a message.

Love,

Ali 💕

Ja simran ja... Jee le apni zindagi and most importantly khush reh!!!

Never interacted with you but I agree with what you are saying!!!! 🤗🤗

There no need to push yourself into depression or reliving your past pains for a fictional show..... Focus on your present and try to be happy ❤️😘❤️

Very well articulated.

I’m out too. I’ve been phasing out since last 2 months but now its time to get the hell out of here.

The show IS immensely triggering. The one good thing about it was MaAn and thats why so many of us were sticking around. I did not realise what a horrible effect its been having on my mood and psyche.

No reason left to watch such a miserable story anymore. The last time I was THIS unhappy because of a show was the red wedding lol.

Hi Ali,

I had mixed emotions as I read your message. The show no longer offers its promise and understand your reasoning.

I am grateful that you also provided actual concrete advice and ideas for all vulnerable people out there.

Thank you enjoyed our banter and you know how to keep in touch 🤗

There is so much heart in all that you have said, Ali. I truly wish everyone reading will take away something that will help them in a positive way.

Daily dramas, by their very nature, become part of our lives and we do get affected by what we watch. Particularly a show like Anupama, with the way both deliberate and casual abuse has been shown.

I'm going to miss interacting with you here. You've made me laugh, you've made me think, you've made me dig deep, you've made me want to be that person you've written such lovely wishes for, you've made me fall in love with the way you love. So, no, goodbye, it's not.

"Good night, good night! Parting is such sweet sorrow,

That I shall say good night, till it be morrow"

I stopped watching months ago

Realized back then this show was headed to be the Sermons of Anupama…god I hate that character

Made the mistake of watching episode where Pakhi tells her mom off. What a shit episode. Just gave more screen time for Anupama to spew her shit

I want Anuj/Gaurav to leave this show so it drops in trp and show ends

It’s complete worthless crap now

The most recent promo has creeped me out considerably. The amount of detoriation that has been done to the track simply to show Anupamaa fixing it singlehandedly and keeping the Shahs relevant is simply pathetic.

There is just one thing I will agree to here!

Anupamaa is responsible for Anuj's paralysis, she has kept going back to Shah house, inflicted self-harm and MADE HIM WATCH.

Even if it is shown to be due to an accident and not a stroke, a depressed person's body shows very less motivation to heal itself and the medicines take longer to be effective and can even render futile.

Think what'd happen to you if someone strapped you to a chair and played "Requiem for a dream" and "Revolutionary Road" constantly in front of you on a loop for just a week (for those who don't know, they're two of the most depressing non-gross English movies in present times)

You'd fall into depression. Even just abusing a plant makes it die, and Anuj is a human.

I am quitting now and will be abusing the chaskameter to see if the rankings in IF can reach the makers in anyway to scrap this track.

Ali 🤗

Don't let it affect you babe. Ik easier said than done, i still watch it (not voluntarily, but unable to stop other family members)

My brain ignores most of it, except trolling stuff. Which has been non existent past week

First of all dear

WELCOME TO THE GROUP 🤗

Thanks for making this post n addressing the ladies who have gone through the traumas n r watching the show.....u said it so right

This show was so damm triggering for me n brought back memories of my ex n ex in laws ,so much that I had to make a decision n go away .....n let me tell u it was hard to detach....but it is not impossible

Ladies seriously this show will only reopen wounds n will keep on sprinkling salt on it ...u all deserve so much better

I so hope ur post will encourage more ladies to stop torturing themselves ....i never had any intentions to be negative about a show n say it should shut down or people quit watching....but this show is not just a show but lowkey abusive

🤗

This show has made a mockery of many things mainly trauma, abuse and victims of abuse. Why dkp thought that someone would want to watch a woman being abused repeatedly without a hope is beyond me. Me... I watched because there was hope, hope for the victim to finally break her shackles and live the way she wanted with love by her side. Though fictional I rooted for the protagonist to get a happy life. Now it's simply hard for you know the minute she breaks of one abuse, she is going to fall into another either by herself or she would be pushed into it. The cycle is never going to break. Why should I watch when it's going to be endlessly depressing for the character I genuinely empathized with in the initial days?

I totally agree with you, dear women... just because its continually repeated to you that you are in the fault, you are not... if you feel uncomfortable please speak up... get help. Everything is not your fault. Things will be better if you talk out. Abusers have a wonderful weapon of making the victim feel less than they are and make them feel that they are doing a great sin. Emotional abuse is just as difficult to live with as physical abuse. Both result in scars only difference is one is outside, the other is inside. So please talk to someone you trust and get help if you are feeling uncomfortable. Talking helps.

Lastly to the sadistic makers/writers of the show, I really don't know what makes you so despondent. Offscreen politics or whatever, life need not be as depressing as you portray. If you feel life is that.... Please get help.