Views on family's reaction towards Anu - Page 3

Chote bachon ko islye prepared karna jaroori hota kyonki chote bachon apne bhai behan ko noch sakte है kaat sakte है chote bache jor jor se rone lagte है if they see parent koi aur bache ko kapde pehna rahe hai ya khaana khila rahe hai

To chote bachon ko. Control karna bahut muskhil hota hai agar inhe pehle se prepared na kiya jasya inhe bahut samjhsna padta kyonki inhe jyaau samajh nahi hoti. . But pakhi toshu are adult , matlab pehle se kya prepared karte anuj aur anupama apne bachon ko??ki jub little anu to tum log use nochnla,nahi use kaatna nahi tum kog jor jor se rona nahi uss koi cheej cheena nahi is baat ke liye anupama aine bade adult bachon ko prepared karti?.

Anupama और anuj kis cheej ke liye pehle se bachon ko prepare karte jo yeh bache baar baar apni mummy se complain kar rahe है कि pehle se bataya nahi

Aisi kya preparation karni. Thi in bachom jo. Pehle se inform karna bahiut important tha i don't think it is necessary for mother to report her children immediately . Anupama और anuj ki apni marji bhi to hai

Har cheej bachon ke hisaab se thodi hi chalegi

Honestly, the root cause of all these problems is the severe dependency the Shah kids have on the family.

Toshu and Kinjal, please move out of the house and get away from Ahemdabad. Toshu please focus on your career and bring up your kid together while you share all responsibilities. Usually, I would say the grandchild should grow up with the love of their grandparents but in this context the whole family, mostly Vanraj but Anuj and Anupama as well, is toxic. I can already the imagine the anxiety that kid would feel.

Samar, you are stupid for turning down your job in America. Throughout your whole life, your priorities have revolved around your mummy and now that mummy has other priorities you feel left out. Go to Mumbai full-time, go to a full time dance institute and date around and live your life.

Pakhi, just go to America. Your parents are not obliged to give you any money so take loans, study hard, date, party, get tattoos and live your own life.

I have always been a proponent of a joint family because of how close I was with my grandparents. But here, Anupama has succeeded in showing me that nuclear families are not bad. Vanraj and Anupama both have been incredibly bad parents (albeit in different ways) and I feel suffocated when I watch the show, can only imagine what individuals who live in that household would feel.

Toshu, Samar and Pakhi, distance yourselves from your parents because at the root of it even if they say otherwise your happiness does not matter to them.

Root of every problem and our detachment from the show is because Anu is still going back to the house where she was abused for 25 yrs and nothing has changed but still she puts them as first priority. Kavya is the lady of that house but still is not able to get that position or respect. Well, none of the Shahs know what is respect!

Shah tamasha has given them trp so far and writer has creative limitations to think of any other ideas that can fetch trps so she brought a kid and made it a center of tamasha.

Kids behave and learn from the environment they grow up in. They thrive on the love and attention they receive from their family. Mom and dad both have a role in shaping up a kid's life and if one of them is not there, it takes forever to bring that balance back.

Here little anu being an orphan, has been deprived of it all. Writer can focus on her bond with her new parents, how she compares with her old life in orphanage and in the process how she appreciates MaAn for giving her own home and family.

And maybe even make Anu's kids realize how fortunate yet ungrateful they have been all these years.

But yes in all of this, there won't be focus on Mr. Shah so writer can not get her salary for writing this.

Originally posted by: TianaWrites

Me butting in though I don't watch or have not much idea on what exactly is happening 😆

Firstly I think Anu and Anuj have the right to decide whether they want to adopt or not a child.

Secondly Anuj is in no way wrong to want a child adopted or biological with Anu now or at any point in life.

What I missed is this.

I wanted Anuj to talk... to talk openly to Anu not on his honeymoon but before the wedding about having a child... I wanted a discussion on this and then they could have gone ahead and adopted a child. It was all too rushed up and totally out of his character. Maybe because of the sudden plot change and the necessity to add whitewashing.

Next the kids. I don't know what exactly they said so I cannot comment correctly but just my pov is that they should have sat and talked to the children about the arrival of the kid before the kid actually came in. You see even if we are having a second child biologically the doctors advise us to prepare the first kid well in advance. Throughout the 9 months of pregnancy we keep mentioning about the new addition to the family preparing them and involving them in everything. If the child is very young we train them to be a bit more independent. Nowadays gynecologists ask us to bring the other kid to all scans etc so that the kid is involved and many doctors provide counseling also. During adoption process in India if there is another child in the family, there is a mandatory counseling session where the child will be prepared for the addition of the new kid. I would have wanted the couple to let the kids know. They needn't ask their permission but they should have prepared them. I know they are adults yet they just now got used to the idea that their mother can't be available for them and this would be a shock.

Now if they talked about property or nonsense like that I really don't support them... I was just talking from a realistic perspective. Again I don't know what happened in the show... so all this is a real life perspective.

I am disappointed with this track only because it came at this point of time. I wanted the couple to be explored more... something like let me kiss... vulnerabilities etc etc... they could have waited for this... oh well... we can't do anything

BTW I liked this topic😆

If Anuj says Baa I am going out to get milk, do u permit? She will reply, at this age u will go get milk urself? This is the age to sit outside in front yard and look at Vanraj's grandkids play. While Anupama prepares tea for Vanraj and his fifth girlfriend.🙄

While she continues to romance bapuji with gajar in her hands!

If I were in Anuj's place I wouldn't even...forget it I can not be in Anuj or Anu's place coz am sensible.

Originally posted by: Koms9

Thanks T. What you said is so true and like u said it is for the real world scenario. But here we are talking about a hellhole scenario.

If Anuj says Baa I am going out to get milk, do u permit? She will reply, at this age u will go get milk urself? This is the age to sit outside in front yard and look at Vanraj's grandkids play. While Anupama prepares tea for Vanraj and his fifth girlfriend.🙄

While she continues to romance bapuji with gajar in her hands!

If I were in Anuj's place I wouldn't even...forget it I can not be in Anuj or Anu's place coz am sensible.

Ah...that's why I stay away😆MaAn? VanYa.... Move away... this is HasLa lub story😆 Turu lob lies with Bapu always...😆

@bold: My poor Anuj🤔

Originally posted by: Koms9

Kids behave and learn from the environment they grow up in. They thrive on the love and attention they receive from their family. Mom and dad both have a role in shaping up a kid's life and if one of them is not there, it takes forever to bring that balance back.

Here little anu being an orphan, has been deprived of it all. Writer can focus on her bond with her new parents, how she compares with her old life in orphanage and in the process how she appreciates MaAn for giving her own home and family.

And maybe even make Anu's kids realize how fortunate yet ungrateful they have been all these years.

But yes in all of this, there won't be focus on Mr. Shah so writer can not get her salary for writing this.

BV can actually make that man a villain... it would fetch excellent trp for drama and he would get the necessary screenspace... the whitewashing is what is revolting.

I always wanted the kids to value Anu instead of seeing her as a work maid... but all that can't be done if they have to whiten the mooch. Because V and Baa had a major role in the kids disrespecting their mother. So kids starting to respect would make them wrong in criticizing Anupama for so long.

About the little kid... I really didn't watch anything related to her as it was very upsetting for me... so I can't comment about the show... but if I were to show an adoption process in my fiction... this is how it would go... the kid would initially be hesitant about accepting the new parents and they would work hard.... she would have her insecurities... maybe real issues like bed wetting, hiding from dark, stealing food because there never was enough food in the orphanage so she wants to hide it... so many things... but the parent's love will bring her out of her insecurities and she would blossom beautifully... oh she won't be a copy of Anupama... she would have her own personality wherein some characteristics of both her parents would be added...

Originally posted by: TianaWrites

About the little kid... I really didn't watch anything related to her as it was very upsetting for me... so I can't comment about the show... but if I were to show an adoption process in my fiction... this is how it would go... the kid would initially be hesitant about accepting the new parents and they would work hard.... she would have her insecurities... maybe real issues like bed wetting, hiding from dark, stealing food because there never was enough food in the orphanage so she wants to hide it... so many things... but the parent's love will bring her out of her insecurities and she would blossom beautifully... oh she won't be a copy of Anupama... she would have her own personality wherein some characteristics of both her parents would be added...

This is what I have seen in mostly all the adoption vlogs.

About family reaction to Anuj and Anupama’s decision to foster a child, the less said the better. They both are in the mid forties so the constant age shaming makes no sense to me, the “iss Umar mein baccha kaise sambhaloge”, It is Anuj and Anupama’s decision. People now-a-days get married in their mid to late thirties so having a child that is below the age of 10 in early- mid forties is not a world ending scenario.
Barkha’s “Mujhe yeh thik nahi lag raha”- Barkha lives in their house and if that was not the case, she has no right to comment on or give an opinion on Anuj and Anupama’s decision to foster, adopt or have a biological child, it is their decision.

or V commenting “tum log paagal ho kya”, people how does your opinion matter?- V is a NON-ENTITY in Anuj and Anupama’s life.

Anuj and Anupama are wealthy and own their business/ academy they can adjust or adapt their work hours to suit the child’s schedule or can afford to hire help to account for sometime when both are busy. If Kinjal and Paritosh can have a child after just 1 year of marriage why cannot Anuj and Anupama decide to foster. I do think this track was introduced too early, as they did not show any discussion between Anuj and Anupama regarding children before marriage, but still there is nothing new in a married couples desire for a child. With Anuj longing for love, family and happiness for years, there is nothing wrong with his desire to adopt now that he is married to his love.
Instead of being happy for the couple, the family has to show their selfishness and greed. But then how will you have the ITV drama if the family would just congratulate the new couple on their decision and happiness.

Originally posted by: Koms9

Root of every problem and our detachment from the show is because Anu is still going back to the house where she was abused for 25 yrs and nothing has changed but still she puts them as first priority. Kavya is the lady of that house but still is not able to get that position or respect. Well, none of the Shahs know what is respect!

Shah tamasha has given them trp so far and writer has creative limitations to think of any other ideas that can fetch trps so she brought a kid and made it a center of tamasha.

I sometimes think Anupamaa needs therapy. Her constant need to ingratiate herself to Baa and Shah house members and their whims is bewildering. I don’t know what writer are trying to show, whether to call it Stockholm Syndrome or some form of PTSD that is manifesting in the form of Anupama’s people( Shah family) pleasing ways, after years of being demeaned by them and it is specific to Shah household because Anupama does deny or ignore Anuj’s request and feelings, who has only shown her love and support.