Originally posted by: moonwearer
Loved the bolded points in your analysis.
When we value and love someone deeply we do it without expecting anything in return. We are happing loving. If others dont value it, we dont compromise on our love. That is the kind of love we see in A& A. We see it in GK, Baapuji, Samar to some extent in Kinjal and Nandini.
Despite setbacks they are able to be in peace for precisely that reason.
Vanya see love with reference to the importance it gives them. They look at their self worth with reference to that. It makes them feel in control. They dont look at how they get it the fear and insecurity it unleashes. They assume control is value, importance and do anything to be in control. MaAn on the other hand derive purpose by giving unmindful of what they get in return. There is no insecurity or jealosy as their purpose of loving and caring for others is not related to what is in it for me. They dont look at what can i get but at what can i give.
Kavya has never had any ounce of giving in her. It was all about snatching and blaming others. She shiftes all blame to Rakhee in the house papers matter and on Anupama in the divorce matter.
There has to be maturiry in accepting others. The maturity one sees in MaAn, Baapuji, Samar and Kinjal. They may suffer in the hands of others but in time they grow indifferent to it as they are at peace with themselves.
Their magnanimiry/ generosity is classified as Mahantha by others that can't give this way. To them it isa reason for insecurity. They can't give that way so they try to foist reasons for the kindness.
hey Vidya, rightly said!! Sorry was tied up last evening and hence could not write back. So are you right about Kavya. Even with education in her pocket she behaves like this, which is very sad to see. Basically her mind is still small, thinks of only her benefits and can change sides in a jiffy!! People like her can have momentary happiness, not the lasting ones as she has to work for that. Plus she is absolutely not sure or confident in herself at all!!
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