Why Anupama needs the nudge

Anupama needs validation from Baapuji as he is the father figure she has looked upto for years. There are several women in India who still need validation.

It is interesting to see how Kantaben acknowledged Anuj s role in Anupama s life. As someone who has lost loved ones and struggled to eke a living her thinking is in keeping with times, her perspective balances the regressive thinking of Leela.

To Anupama Baapuji is the moral compass. Reassuring her she is treading in the right direction. He understands her and seeks out those who can give her a shake when she needed one. She is confident he will understand and thinks it necessary he should know the confession and it's consequence.

Anupama had earned the love of some shah's and Baapuji knew that is the strength that kept the shah's together.he didn't want her serving as a maid as many blame him. Yes he didn't think how tough it is to live with ones Sautan in ones former home. We see anupama jumping in to solve problems and do things and deliver her baashans it is necessary for her to sever her ties in time. Leela and Ladla Sr were inept at holding folks together as they are too self centered.

For the Shahs to realise Anupama was the glue Kavya the bulldozer, Leelas unleashed verbal tirade and Ladla Sr and Jr's kaands were essential.

His mother must have been like Anupama or nurtured Anupama which was the reason Leela resented Anupama all the time she was around. She took her goodness for granted. The aghe Bad and don't allow the pinjara to restrain you was essential for her to move out of the mad house.

People say why have the makers not showed things fall apart with her exit.

When Leela, ladlas and MBA think the world thrives for and because of them untill their world comes crashing they will not see the worth of what they lost.

Selflessly giving, treating others problem as hers, grieving with them, rejoicing with them and caring for their need are her redeeming qualities. It distinguished her from other women in her mohalla.

Baapuji is not giving her the permission but to Anupama he represents right direction. She needs the push from him as she has concluded that love and respect are not for her. Anuj was a harbinger of hope of respect of appreciation and unconditional love and support. It has come her way and she should not allow it to go by.

Beautifully written!!

Yes, for a woman, who has been suppressed her entire life and who has been under a conservative mind frame, this is a needed validation.

Yes, if she really doesn't feel any love for Anuj, It might be right on her part to stay friends and given Anuj's character arc, he will respect it. But if she is suppressing her own feelings just because of the society, then this is a much needed push.

Beautifully put and jn a way agree to the point u made here

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Selflessly giving, treating others problem as hers, grieving with them, rejoicing with them and caring for their need are her redeeming qualities. It distinguished her from other women in her mohalla.

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Absolutely correct. But in that process she was fooled, people took her for granted. She didn't get respect or regards, abused, mentally and emotionally tortured..... even now nobody miss her for her sake ... they miss her for their own interest.... So is such mahan behaviour required at all?

call her naive, foolish for trusting the wrong people. We do come across people like her who give unmindful of how others treat them as it is in their nature to give. She has not forgiven Vanya for the EMA. yet in the stalking matter Anupama reached out to her unlike Kavya who would have celebrated it.

Folks didnt love and appreciate her the way she did. What should she do start acting like Leela or Kavya? She will then not be Anupamaa.

I agree that Anupama charector basic is giving which can't be change people expecting her to change that will not happen it has to be accepted by us only . Though she has come long way from start if people want her to love anuj on her own which I also want but Anupama as a charector always need a push and still there are girls and ladies who do things after there parents approval is zamane main abhi bhi shadi sirf isliye hoti hain because parents wants not they want . Every one still don't have that confidence . It's not that they are not allowed they are happy in that only so Anupama will be Anupama can't beus or anyone else

so beautifully written! ❤️

&& might I say, objectively, too.

These ties that bind, in reality, are not ones we loosen so quickly. Hopefully, with time, these years become a moment of reminiscence for Anu; and looked upon as a moment where she recognizes that she might have moved forward in the expected course of life but stagnantly lived her own. Let her 50s be her 20s 😆

It takes a village and it's fine that those who support her journey contribute the best they can.

I've come to view her arc as such .. and with the viewpoint that (mostly) the stubborn 4 need to burn more for a new chapter to arise in Anu's life is what keeps me continuously analyzing and viewing her story with cautious patience.

I have seen posts where people are worried she'll be "made to understand that she needs/loves/can't do without Anuj" but I think the show has done a good job in hinting one thing and doing another. Lots of the scenes have a somewhat organic progression so that helps keep things positive in terms of the storytelling and plot narrative.

I also naively hope that in keeping with the slightly fast/slow pace - the show will organically depict that soulmates/OTP/end game have no choice but to irrevocably meet, connect and progress together (just more romantically than the current state of things 😆☺️)

Yes Moksha Women like Anupama who have endured violence and abuse of every kind can turn meek, bitter, become abusers themselves or be resilient. What matters is that move they will. like the instant noodles we think Anupama should change immediately and progress should be shown in the next episode. For her change to be long lasting it has to be organic.

very well said Vidya, yuvaa, and moksh.... I completely concur. I think now that the seed is planted in Anu's mind she might atleast think. otherwise she never would have even thought. And it is very natural for her to think that whether she is worth it as we all know where does she weigh herself in that aspect.