Originally posted by: DeepaBhatia
That what I said. Why didn't Kavya ask Vanraj to share equal responsibility towards household chores. She has many times called out Vanraj for his sexism. Yet she was shown quiet today. Why ? They should have shown her giving him a befitting reply. But I think the makers themselves believe that women who are multi taskers and manager home and work all by themselves are great. But women who try to rely on house helps are apparently bad daughter in laws and bad wives.
But they have maid jhilmil, its just that she is on leave, its not like they don't have. Jhilmil has been working there for long time. So if they wanted to show that DIL who rely on maid are bad DIL, then they would have never shown jhilmil. The issue was not with having maid, but with taking the responsibility of how the maid is behaving with everyone. And the one brought her should take that responsibility. Kavya was not even considerate enough to guide her where she should sleep and hence she slept wherever she felt.
Also it is more about the mindset, where people think that doing household chores is a menial job or no job at all, and we do have such people in society. Kavya thinks if she does household chores her status will decline to being mere naukrani. It is nothing to do with her being working women or not.
So this maid issue is no where related to being working women or being a good DIL / wife, it is just reflecting the mindset some people like Kavya or Vanraj have around household chores, irrespective if they are working or not. Not once in her argument Kavya said that she cannot do household chores because she gets tired, but she said she doesn't want to do because then she will become naukrani by doing the work. For that matter even Rakhi dave argued that her daughter used to be college topper and here she is making chutney and doing house work. From when did your educational qualification or your academic performance became criteria for deciding whether u should be doing household chores or not. And Anupamaa has always asked kinjal to concentrate on her career and bot to neglect it for her family responsibility. Isn't that showing a positive outlook. And kinjal is doing with her own will. And they are managing together till jhilmil returns. Isn't it what we do at our homes also when maids are on leave, or go to their native place for a week or two. Yes I agree they should show men of the house also working, which they are not showing. But just bcoz they aren't that doesn't make anupamaa or kinjal mahaan. I don't know why doing household chores in absence if your maid equated to being mahaan, than that way everyone here who manages the house in absence of their maid are mahaan.
I am sure everyone here also have maid at home because they get tired not because they feel its not their job to do. So how is this a working woman issue.
And Anupama has also never managed it single handedly, jhilmil was always there, so she is no exception. And if Anu and Kinjal are not able to manage afterwards, they will show that they are unable to manage, I am sure.
Edited by neo7 - 4 years ago