What is wrong with what Kavya said? - Page 4

Originally posted by: Rohil.ban12

Yes that is true for Our society… but yahan Anupama help le sakte the ya serial main Kinjal ne ya Pakhi tak ne ek baar bhi nahi bola ki hum help karenge ya bana denge aap baith jao… who can was quite oddd…. Areh cancer ke operation se thik hokar she came back just like everyone and after lot of drama outside their house but Samar kinjal tak ne kuch kaha ki rehne do bas hun pani pee lenge ya bahar se kuch aa jayega… sab apne demands dekar baith gay….

Chalo uthna bhi thik the irritating part was when she said Kavya yes for making her tea and told her to rest so 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

Yes kavya ko rest karne bolna was wrong and mahanta, I agree. Samar bhi sirf mummy mummy karta hai, kabhi help karte nahi dekha usko anupamaa ki. If you see yesterday Rakhi while explaining Kinjal asked her why is Kavya not helping you, she didn't ask why is Toshu not helping you. I expected her to atleast bring that. Today when Toshu was telling kinjal to keep maid, kinjal said ki ye kitchen ke mamle hum auraton ko suljhane do tum mat pado. Here also I didn't expect such reply from Kinjal.

I am a working woman.

I had never hired a maid until last year, even after I got married, because we wanted to fasttrack our apartment EMI payments and most importantly I was able to manage.

But I was not the superhuman that Anupamaa is being projected.

My husband shared chores almost equally. He exclusively made breakfast and either mopped floors or did dishes while I did the other job.

Now I am doing MBA with my job which takes up 4 additional hours of my time, so I have hired a maid to cook and clean. Yes she didn't cook as per my husband's exclusive taste, but after a month of practice she caught on.

And I am improving my career and qualifications without overtiring myself.

My husband still makes breakfast, because he has time and is happy to do it.

I don't find anything wrong or to feel guilty about if my husband doesn't eat my delicious hand cooked meals everyday, because I am doing something constructive instead, my husband is supportive of me and most importantly he can survive without the fancy food for two years, but my MBA opportunity won't return.

I am, in no way, being a bad wife or displaying lack of affection to my husband. So if the show's makers are glorifying an obsessive multitasking streak in Anupamaa and making a woman like me look bad in the process, it is difficult for me to support or like this show.

Originally posted by: neo7

If you see yesterday Rakhi while explaining Kinjal asked her why is Kavya not helping you, she didn't ask why is Toshu not helping you. I expected her to atleast bring that. Today when Toshu was telling kinjal to keep maid, kinjal said ki ye kitchen ke mamle hum auraton ko suljhane do tum mat pado. Here also I didn't expect such reply from Kinjal.

True that… Kinjal sabse modern(with thoughts), cool, good natured and bold hai in sab main and usne bhi nahi dekha…. But makers aisa lag raha hai galat society promote kar rahe hai… they are promoting bas women hi kare and men nahi… voh order karte rahe kabhi Bete banke kabhi pati banke kabhi baap banke kabhi kuch 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

Originally posted by: Rohil.ban12

True that… Kinjal sabse modern(with thoughts), cool, good natured and bold hai in sab main and usne bhi nahi dekha…. But makers aisa lag raha hai galat society promote kar rahe hai… they are promoting bas women hi kare and men nahi… voh order karte rahe kabhi Bete banke kabhi pati banke kabhi baap banke kabhi kuch 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

Yes, thank god bapuji is shown to be helping whatever little he can help, only if he had taught that to Vanraj.

Also see I agree when Anupama is wrong, she was also wrong when she did not take her kid's help in paying hospital bills. And had commented also here in forum.

She was also wrong in lecturing Kavya on clothes, should have left on baa and vanraj to do that.

So its not like I always think Anupama is right.

you do not have to justify your self because we discuss the issues which we do not like ,every one have to say how it feels him or her .

Originally posted by: Rohil.ban12

Yes that is true for Our society… but yahan Anupama help le sakte the ya serial main Kinjal ne ya Pakhi tak ne ek baar bhi nahi bola ki hum help karenge ya bana denge aap baith jao… which was quite oddd…. Areh cancer ke operation se thik hokar she came back just like everyone and after lot of drama outside their house but Samar kinjal tak ne kuch nahi kaha ki rehne do bas hum pani pee lenge ya bahar se kuch aa jayega… sab apne demands dekar baith gay….

Chalo uthna bhi thik the irritating part was when she said Kavya yes for making her tea and told her to rest so 🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️🤦🏻‍♂️

Keeping everything aside I just want to say this is the result of years n years of habit ,taunt said to make the household work a certain way ,it has nothing to do with right or wrong....yes what is happening is not correct but to understand that what is going wrong one needs to be corrected n told this is not how things work but who will do that?

N if they get to the part where they know things r to be made right it will take all efforts to unlearn the things which is installed all these years in their system ,which will take a very long time

Its easy for us to pass the comments as we disagree with what is been shown because we r seeing it from a third person perspective ,but the person who is in the situation will not see the wrong

Regarding Anupama my personal opinion is that there might have been more changes if she was a little away from family but that didn't happen ...nothing changed for her it's just kavya was added to the mix ,so for her saying or doing things is regular (adat too jo itni jaldi nahi jayega) n she is speaking in the matters which involves the family n herself not vanraj or kavya,she doesn't go to their bedroom n poke her nose there,this has nothing to do with being mahaan ,she just want peace her baa babuji n kids well that's it .

Now coming to the maid ,if the maid comes it will affect the entire family because it's not part time maid it's full time .maids if u get a good one is blessing but anything but good maid will be a headache

*What if she steals

*what if she breaks stuff

* Maid not working properly

*Maid being disrespectful

*there kids at home male n female,n bad maids do create controversy in that section

Etc etc n if full time maid then more issues like who look after what she does/how to handle her when all working people r out

The biggest question where will she sleep... Anupama ko bhi store room ko convert karna pada tha for a room..so literally there is no room for her

There have been cases where maids brother sister friend or boyfriend gang up n kill the elderly to steal stuff when others r not at home

There r lot of things to discuss n look out when considering getting a help

So it's understandable for getting ones inputs in the situation

N I don't know why but this maid thing feels like will majorly back fire....

Personally I feel the person who actually needs to change is not Anupama or kavya...it's vanraj

He is the jadd of all the problems

Ps:I didn't tag each of the post I just gave all my pov in just one 😭..I feel so tired because of the sickness

Originally posted by: kooki07

i think she could not digest it how Anupama type of woman got everything in life so she just wanted to snatch it away every thing from Anupama and now from the family as well lets see where she we end up into the mental assailum or can grab every thing from the family ,because she is not a normal person . i think .

Mujhe yeh baat samjh nahi ati ki why is kavya after Anupama ...I mean she is no longer her sautan ...usse dikha dikha kar kaam karna is super childish . Anupama uski tarah idiot nahi hai ki vanraj ki bekaar personality jaan kar bhi woh wapis usko paane ki koshish karegi.yes jo adat se concern hai uss insaan ke liye woh jaate jaate jayega but she will never want him in her life after how he treated her as it did take long but once she woken up she has woken up

Kavya is behaving like a child jisko kisi aur ke khilone pe nazar thi aur jab woh usne cheen liya she wants to dance in the glory n tease the previous owner without understanding that the previous owner has no more attachment to the doll n happy to it give away

Meri mami ke yahan full time nanny rakhi thi mami ki beti ke liye aur ghar mami ke do betiyaan plus mama maami aur nani rehte hain

Full time nanny isliye ab age ke According mama maami nai se cousin ki beti nahin sambhal sakta

Cousin doctor hai aur uska job ke liye hospital maayka ke paas mein hai isliye woh mayke mein rehti aur husband job ke liye alag rehte hain

To cousin job ki wajah se apni beti ko poori tarah dekh nahin paa rahi husband bhi job ki wajah se doori hai

Mama maami nani utna dekh nahin paa rahe

Isliye full time nanny rakhi but aaj tuk usne chori nahin ki

. Waise aaj kul log maid ya servsnt hire karne se pehle uska police verification liya jaata hai uska aadhaar card ki photo copy bhi li jaati hai

Aur yeh poocha jaata hai ise pehle kahin kaam kiya hai aur wahaan kyon choda

Originally posted by: NiharikaMishra

I am a working woman.

I had never hired a maid until last year, even after I got married, because we wanted to fasttrack our apartment EMI payments and most importantly I was able to manage.

But I was not the superhuman that Anupamaa is being projected.

My husband shared chores almost equally. He exclusively made breakfast and either mopped floors or did dishes while I did the other job.

Now I am doing MBA with my job which takes up 4 additional hours of my time, so I have hired a maid to cook and clean. Yes she didn't cook as per my husband's exclusive taste, but after a month of practice she caught on.

And I am improving my career and qualifications without overtiring myself.

My husband still makes breakfast, because he has time and is happy to do it.

I don't find anything wrong or to feel guilty about if my husband doesn't eat my delicious hand cooked meals everyday, because I am doing something constructive instead, my husband is supportive of me and most importantly he can survive without the fancy food for two years, but my MBA opportunity won't return.

I am, in no way, being a bad wife or displaying lack of affection to my husband. So if the show's makers are glorifying an obsessive multitasking streak in Anupamaa and making a woman like me look bad in the process, it is difficult for me to support or like this show.

This is so encouraging ❤️ Absolutely! You are doing very constructive thing and you should feel proud for yourself.

Just like you , I had once hired cook for 10 days and she did good job . First the first 2 days I had to explain her things on call but after 2 she picked up my husband’s taste and it was very helpful. I had hired cook for 10 days for my husband when I went to my mother’s place.
It was nothing like anupama was describing masala training . She just understood our taste with my few points.
I am also no super women like they are projecting anupama. I am working women and I do domestic work but not like anupama and I never want to do either.

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Meri mami ke yahan full time nanny rakhi thi mami ki beti ke liye aur ghar mami ke do betiyaan plus mama maami aur nani rehte hain

Full time nanny isliye ab age ke According mama maami nai se cousin ki beti nahin sambhal sakta

Cousin doctor hai aur uska job ke liye hospital maayka ke paas mein hai isliye woh mayke mein rehti aur husband job ke liye alag rehte hain

To cousin job ki wajah se apni beti ko poori tarah dekh nahin paa rahi husband bhi job ki wajah se doori hai

Mama maami nani utna dekh nahin paa rahe

Isliye full time nanny rakhi but aaj tuk usne chori nahin ki

. Waise aaj kul log maid ya servsnt hire karne se pehle uska police verification liya jaata hai uska aadhaar card ki photo copy bhi li jaati hai

Aur yeh poocha jaata hai ise pehle kahin kaam kiya hai aur wahaan kyon choda

Achi maid bhi hoti hai aur buri maids bhi (have u seen pune couple nannys footage torturing the baby was captured in camera) ,ab apke mathe kaun aayi hai yeh toh rabb hi jaane .kaash show mein bhi yeh dikhate about police verification n everything but makers ko drama lana toh unfortunately woh nahi hoga

Makers ko drama jo dikhana hai...and galat sabit karna hai maid ghar par rakhna...