Much awaited Pakhi and Anupama conversation but....

So finally even after sleeping at 1 am I woke up at 6 in the morning to watch the very episode we had all been waiting for. The moment where Anupama finally calls out to Pakhi for being the mean person she is. I actually completed my data pack for it as I don't have wifi. They are doing some construction work and we have no wifi for some days. I had to add a top-up but enough about that. The point is I sat and I watched the episode. I loved the way Anupama showed her place to Vanraj as it was needed. Everything is not Anupama's fault, he, as a father is just as responsible for all Pakhi, is doing and behaving right now.

Then coming to the most-awaited conversation between Pakhi and Anupama. It was needed and it laid the facts completely right. Pakhi cannot be expecting everything to be her liking. It just doesn't work that way. Then to that part where Anupama showed Pakhi the reality and told her the correct things

- It is not always a woman's job to cook the food and household chores and if that is so she being a girl she should know all this also

- That the affair was just not Kavya's fault. It was her father who was equally responsible then why hate only Kavya

- Today she is not liking Kavya as she cannot cook food. Someday's ago she hated Anupama because she only knew how to cook food. That she was not stylish and outgoing like Kavya then what happened suddenly today.

- She is not a child anymore that she not understands these things

- what every woman goes through each day and something that she would be going also through

and in no simple words to suck it up.

I loved that scene and it was needed for a long time. But..... But...... But.....

yes there is a but. Was this so-called talk needed today when Pakhi was already hurt by his father, hurt by what Kavya had said to her? The divorce has been most harsh on Pakhi as she was shuffled between father and mother and Kavya. She was the one who felt like she didn't belong anywhere at all. Anupama said right that there is a time and place to tell a person the truth and she for me herself forgot that. This whole talk she should have done when Pakhi was still insulting and taking his father's side all this while. The time when she decided to stay in Kavya's house with Vanraj and gave a cold attitude to Anupama. At that time she didn't remember any of this, at that time she didn't call out her mean behaviour. All this talk about a woman are not meant to just cook and all, you are the one who engraved that in her head. You are the one who showed her every day that woman is meant to cook at home.

In a way that is what happens in every household of India where girls are pampered when they are kids and given all the love and asked to be strong but in the end, they are asked to be married and do the same thing that they have criticised all their life. As they say, you get more close to your mother when you are married as you understand her better.

Vanraj and Anupama are the ones who confused and fed Pakhi with these notions. I wanted Pakhi to be called out for her behaviour more than anything but today was not the day and maybe it could have done in a better way.

Yes it is right time that anupama talk about this to pakhi because pakhi herself raise issue and complain about kavya at vanraj birthday

When pakhi herself complain about kavya at vanraj birthday then anupama will also talk about to pakhithis in same day only

And no where anupama told that girl job is only to cook. In pakhi birthday anupama told pakhi that u should study and stand on ur own feet

Originally posted by: surabhi01

Yes it is right time that anupama talk about this to pakhi because pakhi herself raise issue and complain about kavya at vanraj birthday

When pakhi herself complain about kavya at vanraj birthday then anupama will also talk about to pakhithis in same day only

And no where anupama told that girl job is only to cook. In pakhi birthday anupama told pakhi that u should study and stand on ur own feet

I never said that Anupama told Pakhi that the girl job is to cook. I have not said anywhere. In fact she said the exact opposite and also agreed with what she said. But the way she behaved all these years and let herself being run over by everyone else gave Pakhi that message.

No anupama told pakhi then u forget i am ur mother u Dont know how to talk to mother

This was shown when anupama took decision for divorce

Even anupama told to toshu ki jub main tumhare kinjal ke liye lad rahi thi tub mera ladna bura nahin tha aur aaj jub main apne liye lad rahi hai to mujhe ladne ka shauk ho gaya , mera ladna bura hai???

And Even told pakhi and toshu that maa ki degree nahin dekhi jaati, maa ka pyaar dekha jaata

So anupama did show mirror to pakhi and toshu in earler episode also

Originally posted by: surabhi01

No anupama told pakhi then u forget i am ur mother u Dont know how to talk to mother

This was shown when anupama took decision for divorce

Even anupama told to toshu ki jub main tumhare kinjal ke liye lad rahi thi tub mera ladna bura nahin tha aur aaj jub main apne liye lad rahi hai to mujhe ladne ka shauk ho gaya , mera ladna bura hai???

And Even told pakhi and toshu that maa ki degree nahin dekhi jaati, maa ka pyaar dekha jaata

So anupama did show mirror to pakhi and toshu in earler episode also

Yes, she has but I just felt that the points that Anupama pointed out today and the things that she said today was maybe not correct for today. She said nothing wrong it was needed to be said but maybe this whole how a woman is treated and how she is wrong was not meant for today.

Beccause vanraj blame anupama for pakhi UP bringing just like anupama is batmeej and so way pakhi is batmeej to yeh anupama ka jawaab tha at right spot and right time i think

Op, i also felt same it was not needed to be said today when she is already down.

Yup Agreed!👏 Very well written.

Today was not the day, I have also waited for this conversation for a long- long time. But Pakhi's mental state was not at all ready to take that in after what happened.

I had the same thought, Anu just explained to Vanraj that Pakhi is frightened, confused, and insecure. So no matter how right the conversation was - but it was not appropriate for the time.

Kavya nicely manipulated the conversation and Pakhi although being right this time - couldn't prove her point. It would have been nice if any elder noticed the desperation she had when she accused Kavya of lying.

There were many times when Pakhi had crossed the line, this whole conversation should have started back then only. But most of the time Anu never raised any objection when Pakhi was being mean.

You are also right about the notion of what women are supposed to do and what men are to do. Even today in the house, the only people working in the kitchen are Kinjal and Anu. You never see Toshu entering - or Anu encouraging any man of the house to get their own dish, or even serve their own food.

So it is quite obvious for all children to feel that it is a quite normal lifestyle.

PS: Vanraj is equally responsible for correct parenting if not more in the case of Pakhi. I avoided mentioning him - because there is a long list and he is disappointment.

Pakhi is not small kid. She looks above 15.

Iss age par at least sahi or galat ka fark pehchan na ana chahiye.

Basically 15 saal ki bacchi ko extra marital affair ,maa ki sautan, baap ki girlfriend inn sab ko aakho ke samne dekhne ke baad bhi itna bhi sahi galat ka samaj nai tha ki maa sahi hai , baap galat hai, maa ko disrespect kar k baap ke sath uski girlfriend ke waha rehne gayi.

Muje aj anupama ka itna sab hone baad sahi galat kya hota hai samjana bahot late laga. Jiss din uski beti ne pehli bar kavya ke liye usko disrespect kiya, jis din uski beti ne pehli bar extra marital affair karne vale baap ke liye anupama ka insult kiya tha ussi din isko 2 rupees ka akkal dena chahiye tha.

Anupama ka disrespect pakhi ne itna baar kiya fir bhi anupama ne kabhi pehli bar mai apni beti ko nai bola ki i am your mother and you can't do my disrespect like this just because you blindly love your father. Meri jaise maa to jab baccha pehli baar meri disrespect kare tabhi sahi galat ka fark samja de.

Bahot LATE kar diya pakhi ko sahi galat ka fark samajane mai🤢

Jab pehli baar pakhi ne kavya ke liye uska disrespect kiya ussi din pankhi ko bestie chahe kitni bhi pasand ho i am your mother you should not disrespect me yeh baat batana chahiye tha.

Jab pehli bar pankhi ne baap ke extra marital affair ke baad bhi maa ko blame and disrespect kiya tab bhi anupama ne usko insult karne diya, ek bhi anupama ne pankhi ko yeh nai bola ki i am your mother and you should not disrespect me.

Basically pakhi ko time time par jab woh apni maa ki insut kiye ja rahi thi tab uski maa ne usko sahi galay kya hota hai woh baat nai samjaya.

Bacha jis bhi umar ka ho, maa ki respect karna aana he chahiye and agar bacche ko maa ki respect karna nai aata ho to maa ko immediately bacche ko sidha karna chahiye. Itna late nai karna chahiye.