Why u ppl hate vanr? - Page 3

Vanraj family was never happy. Vanraj never value love and care for anupama . He always think that anupama is not doing great thing by taking care of family. It is her duty

And vanraj keep blamimg scolding every time anupama of her no fault

It was from just from anupama side who was making effort to make family happy. There is no try from vanraj side to make family happy

So firstly, it's not about hating Vanraj for who he is as a person, we don't hate the person but we hate his personality and what he did. I would say he is an intelligent man, hard-working, and does care about his baa and bapuji to some extent at least (wouldn't consider him a good son, to be honest, but sure I'll give him some credit).

What we actually hate about Vanraj is his EGO and his behavior. We hate him for what he did to Anu. And on top of that, he did not apologize, did not feel ashamed or guilty of his doing. Moreover, instead of accepting his mistake, he accuses Anu! How dare he raise his voice.

Now let me ask you on a serious note, would you stay with a man that did this to you? Would you continue as if nothing happened? Why you go arguing and fighting with the third person (Kavya)? Would you ask that third person to leave your husband alone and even if she does break up, would you just happily accept your husband back? When you have no idea how many times he lied to you in the last 8 years and how many times he slept with another woman. Would you not feel anger toward this man, for whom you compromised everything, you gave your everything to this one man, you gave up your own dreams, all you cared about was his likes and dislikes, you never had your own identity, and then suddenly you realize, he doesn't even feel the same way for you. So, please give me reasons why we should continue to love someone like this?

For me, all his other good qualities are useless in this situation, they do not make up for the "mistake" he made. This so called mistake is much much bigger than all the good deeds he did in life till now. One cannot forgive a man like Vanraj, no matter how good he was before. So please don't justify his behavior as if he is a good man. 🤢

@Poojaa_P

I totally agree. He may be good in certain aspects but what he did can neither never be justified nor he can be forgiven and forgotten.

Why should Anupama live in that suffocating relationship where she can't have her own decisions, actions and can't even live life according to her will. He never respected her ,never loved her so what is the point of accepting him back and getting back together.

What Vanraj did is much bigger mistake than all his good qualities and actions.

What he did is wrong and wrong and nothing could justify or change it now.

Originally posted by: Krrish4You

Kavya being married though separated still started eyeing paraya mard who is married.. Cudnt she just avoid falling for married man? Fact is Kavya is gold digger. She took full advantage of vanraj's missing friction with his wife. Upper class guy joh hai.

If she was so desperate to get hooked with new guy in life she cud hv easily put her bio in matrimonial advertisement service or look for some unmarried or divorced guy but no she went for someone didn't want break his marriage life even after going through hardship which many of you all in comments mentioned but Kavya used her illicit spicy life to get vanraj completely out of Anu life.

Lol I doubt 8 years ago this 21-25 year old girl Kavya would have been the one to start "eyeing" her male 40+ boss at work... since when do subordinates initiate affairs with their bosses?? And that too female subordinates in India 😆

But of course she could have avoided getting involved with him, I'm not denying that, or defending Kavya. And I do agree that she must have initially agreed to the affair mainly for Vanraj's money and more than that his high position at work, (which could have helped her gain many perks, bonuses, promotions)...

But after her husband eventually decided to divorce her, she decided she was going to make Vanraj divorce Anu as well so he can marry her, as her reputation will be totally lost if both her husband and Vanraj leave her... Kavya is a scheming bitch for sure, telling lies that her husband beats her to gain sympathy from Shah family and stay in their house (to split Vanraj from Anu), but Vanraj is still a worse person than her as he helped break Kavya's marriage, but won't leave his wife and marry her... Kavya ko na yahan ke na vahan ke chod diya uss ne...

Blame for the affair still goes to both of them (if anything more to Vanraj as he was her boss), not just Kavya is what I'm trying to say.

So the TM comes from that school of thought that blames the women and absolves the man's wrong doing.

Itni raat ko Bahar kyun gayi thi, skirt kyun peheni it should be the girl who shall be blamed for wearing revealing clothes and roaming at night hamare ladke ne Aisa pehle Kabhi Nahi Kiya 😭

Originally posted by: piyu008

Oh at first I thought you were being sacraristic 😊

Nevermind, So these are the reasons I dislike Vanraj more than Kavya.

(Keeping in mind - CVs started showing Kavya going extreme negative from a week)

@Bold - Well Vanraj was never a child or mentally vulnerable for Kavya to manipulate. He was a fully grown man, the father of 3 when he cheated on Anu. I don't necessarily call him smart, I stopped even criticizing him - because all he says is BS. He doesn't make any sense 90 percent of the time! His reasons and lack of acknowledgment that EMA is wrong are clear evidence.

@Underlined - That rather depends on your definition of happiness. Did he give her everything? I disagree - apart from money to run the house, 3 kids ....that peace of * gave Anu nothing.

I will list down why she was unhappy and why Vanraj is a terrible being..

1). A 40+ year old women have to take permission to go somewhere or do anything. That is called the life of a slave, not a wife. (She never went out, and once she did - she was thrown out!!)

2). She is not allowed to have her own money apart from what is needed to run the house, (remember her searching the Kitchen for saved money when her mother's surgery was needed)

3). He disrespected her and bashed her for no reason all the time.

4). She did not have any say in their kids' future and her own.

5). He deliberately made her lose her job.

6). Why Anu was behaving all happy, despite all these - let's face it she was kinda delusional that Vanraj Loves her! And Vanraj was taking advantage of that openly and shamelessly.

7). He never allowed her to grow and kept blaming her that she is nothing.

I would rather have a stranger hate me, over a close person disrespect me for who I am!

EMA is a huge separate matter. While coming to the topic of why hate Vanraj more, compare to Kavya. (Ignoring last week's episodes)

1). Kavya was not actively double-timing, she was already in her process of divorce. I haven't seen all episodes but I believe she was always open about her relationship with Anirudh and Vanraj.

2). She supported Anu on multiple occasions.

3). Kavya is not the one who is refusing divorce, Vanraj still doesn't want to divorce Anu. He would have kept the EMA secret forever if these people never found it out.

4). Kavya was affected when Anu had that breakdown, and Vanraj - despite being a husband he still remained shameless.

5). Vanraj lies to literally everyone, kavya doesn't do that.

6). He was shameless enough, to being Kavya to his house at every damn opportunity.

Above all, Kavya is an outsider to the family. A family member's actions hurt more than an outsider's.

I have many other reasons, and I am pretty sure I am forgetting some but Vanraj is trash. Period.

I blame Vanraj and Kavya equally for EMA. But Vanraj Shah wins the trophy without any competition when it comes to being a terrible being!

Originally posted by: Krrish4You

Hi!

Why do you ppl hate vanR?

The real hate should go to Kavya. She spoiled vanr decent family life by interference in anu & van married life. She knew vanr is married yet tried to sprinkle her rainy rose water on well settled, smart, happy married man. Isn't it bad? If yes, why blame only vanr for it?

Anu too was very happy with him, he gave her everything, she too gave him everything in return as wife, mother, family happiness.. even though now things are bit different but she still will be wholeheartedly accept him back if vanr throws out Kavya.

It is Kavya who manipulated him that anu is too inferior, she purposely tried to show her typical city based office going attitude in favour that it will put Anu in bad light. Tried to get in good books of his kids as they r his life lines..

Nah, ALWAYS see who was bound by a relationship, who was bound by trust. That person is accountable. That person had pledged their loyalty at the time of marriage, and loyalty is expected from them only, thus only they are accountable. Anupamaa had literally nothing to do with Kavya, it was Vanraj who was bound to her by a trust bond. And thus Vanraj would be questioned as to why he broke the trust. As simple as that.

Originally posted by: Krrish4You

Hi!

Why do you ppl hate vanR?

The real hate should go to Kavya. She spoiled vanr decent family life by interference in anu & van married life. She knew vanr is married yet tried to sprinkle her rainy rose water on well settled, smart, happy married man. Isn't it bad? If yes, why blame only vanr for it?

Anu too was very happy with him, he gave her everything, she too gave him everything in return as wife, mother, family happiness.. even though now things are bit different but she still will be wholeheartedly accept him back if vanr throws out Kavya.

It is Kavya who manipulated him that anu is too inferior, she purposely tried to show her typical city based office going attitude in favour that it will put Anu in bad light. Tried to get in good books of his kids as they r his life lines..

Lol clearly you are a typical regressive thinker.

Lets always blame the woman for any marital issues. The other women is always the person that sways the married man.

its BLATANTLY obvious Vanraj has manipulated both women for his DISGUSTING WHIMS. KAVYA is not innocent i agree but she is not the solo person at fault. And to say she is .. is regressive.

Originally posted by: piyu008

Oh at first I thought you were being sacraristic 😊

Nevermind, So these are the reasons I dislike Vanraj more than Kavya.

(Keeping in mind - CVs started showing Kavya going extreme negative from a week)

@Bold - Well Vanraj was never a child or mentally vulnerable for Kavya to manipulate. He was a fully grown man, the father of 3 when he cheated on Anu. I don't necessarily call him smart, I stopped even criticizing him - because all he says is BS. He doesn't make any sense 90 percent of the time! His reasons and lack of acknowledgment that EMA is wrong are clear evidence.

@Underlined - That rather depends on your definition of happiness. Did he give her everything? I disagree - apart from money to run the house, 3 kids ....that peace of * gave Anu nothing.

I will list down why she was unhappy and why Vanraj is a terrible being..

1). A 40+ year old women have to take permission to go somewhere or do anything. That is called the life of a slave, not a wife. (She never went out, and once she did - she was thrown out!!)

2). She is not allowed to have her own money apart from what is needed to run the house, (remember her searching the Kitchen for saved money when her mother's surgery was needed)

3). He disrespected her and bashed her for no reason all the time.

4). She did not have any say in their kids' future and her own.

5). He deliberately made her lose her job.

6). Why Anu was behaving all happy, despite all these - let's face it she was kinda delusional that Vanraj Loves her! And Vanraj was taking advantage of that openly and shamelessly.

7). He never allowed her to grow and kept blaming her that she is nothing.

I would rather have a stranger hate me, over a close person disrespect me for who I am!

EMA is a huge separate matter. While coming to the topic of why hate Vanraj more, compare to Kavya. (Ignoring last week's episodes)

1). Kavya was not actively double-timing, she was already in her process of divorce. I haven't seen all episodes but I believe she was always open about her relationship with Anirudh and Vanraj.

2). She supported Anu on multiple occasions.

3). Kavya is not the one who is refusing divorce, Vanraj still doesn't want to divorce Anu. He would have kept the EMA secret forever if these people never found it out.

4). Kavya was affected when Anu had that breakdown, and Vanraj - despite being a husband he still remained shameless.

5). Vanraj lies to literally everyone, kavya doesn't do that.

6). He was shameless enough, to being Kavya to his house at every damn opportunity.

Above all, Kavya is an outsider to the family. A family member's actions hurt more than an outsider's.

I have many other reasons, and I am pretty sure I am forgetting some but Vanraj is trash. Period.

I blame Vanraj and Kavya equally for EMA. But Vanraj Shah wins the trophy without any competition when it comes to being a terrible being!

Thank you.

Originally posted by: Krrish4You

Hi!

Why do you ppl hate vanR?

The real hate should go to Kavya. She spoiled vanr decent family life by interference in anu & van married life. She knew vanr is married yet tried to sprinkle her rainy rose water on well settled, smart, happy married man. Isn't it bad? If yes, why blame only vanr for it?

Anu too was very happy with him, he gave her everything, she too gave him everything in return as wife, mother, family happiness.. even though now things are bit different but she still will be wholeheartedly accept him back if vanr throws out Kavya.

It is Kavya who manipulated him that anu is too inferior, she purposely tried to show her typical city based office going attitude in favour that it will put Anu in bad light. Tried to get in good books of his kids as they r his life lines..

We never say kavya is right she is wrong too but why we hate vanraj more because of his male ego and his rude and wrong attitude toward anupama

And what u said anu too was very happy with him what ur trying to say ? If anu is happy thats mean vanraj get green signal to cheat on her ? And what u said she get everything in return as wife as mother as family ? U mean loyality in marriage doesnot matter if ur getting everything ? Agar trust or loyality nahi matlab kuch nahin in relationship thats the pillar in every relationship . Yes anupama get everything but she didnt get that one thing jis pe ek relationship tikte han