I dont get Anu

I seriously dont get Anupama..I get it " she is too nice and naive" but she acts like a dumb parent..There is a difference between being dumb and nice..She keeps babysitting her kids when they are all grownup..As a parent, you dont have to be nice all the time to your kids but tell them the difference between Right and Wrong...Pakhi acts like a selfish girl all the time, instead of letting her know what's right and what's not, Anu keeps pampering her and is somewhat spoiling her too..When Anu clearly knows what an evil person Vanraj is, its high times she shows Pakhi the mirror..

I Dont see anupama pampering her children she too point out her children mistake when they are wrong like toshu came drunk in home she scold toshu for this and when she see cigarette in pakhi school bag . She question about this pakhi too

Yes anupama does not shout on children always but that does not mean she is pampering her children

And Even anupama question samar ( when samar come home after birthday shopping) that itne paise kharch ki kya zaroorat thi . Anupama children ke khushi ke baare mein sochti hai pur anupama ko yeh bhi pata hai ki khushi ke liye limit nahi cross nahi karni chahiye

Anupama ne kabhi pamper nahi kiya children . Bus toshu and pakhi anupama ki helplessnees nahi samahte

Whtaever pakhi it is her own doing . Anupama never ask and pamper pakhi to take 80,000 from. Vanraj .. Anupama never en courage to buy dress out of budget . She never told vanraj pay bill for pakhi dress which out of budget

It is all doing of vanraj and pakhi . Fact is that it is vanraj pampering pakhi not anupama .

It is vanraj who by his own wish paye bill for pakhi costly dress and himself transfer costly fees for pakhi

Anupama never ask vanraj to do so for pakhi

So it is vanraj should stop pampering toshu and pakhi

Anupama wants her children's happiness may be that's why she can't see pakhi is wrong. She only thinks that if pakhi would be happy then she also. May be that's why she can't see other side.

If we see yesteday episode where pakhi is saying to grand father kitna Boring gift hai then anupama did not like pakhi calling gift Boring

Anupama said to pakhi shaadi to theek hai but padhai jyaada zaruri hai

Anupama told pakhi ki tumhe self dependent banna hai , apne pairon mein khade hona hai

Anupama do give nice and useful guidance to her children like she gave tp samar like koi jaroori nahi ki hum jisse pyar karein woh bhi hamse pyar karein

So I Dont think anupama is dumb parent when she gave useful advice to pakhi ki tumhe self dependent banna hai

If Anu and Vanrat had been good parents you wouldn’t have their kids insulting their mother or putting her down prior to EMA revelation. Their behaviour was abhorrent and Anu silently took most of it. She never set a boundary and taught them to respect HER ...just respect everyone else in the house

She is babying Toshu and Samar

What the hell does Samar do all day ..this manbaby just mopes around going mama mama...get a REAL job and support the family

Toshu just walks around in Kinjaldom ...get a damn job !

kids in Canada get jobs at 16 and go to school. Most of us work throughout University. Yet it’s hilarious how these ITV desi kids are shown as mahaan for sitting around until their 20s obsessed with kitchen politics ...jobless and useless
worst of all Anu is supporting her manbabys sit at home while she works

Nonsense!

Samar does part time job like anupmaa coz he can see tension in house so he is doing something although not studying like toshu

i have not been watching it from the beginning started only just before their 25th anniversary but i have not seen the boys and girl been told off for anything how they are going to learn difference between right and wrong it should have been taught from the early age thats why it been said that your first school is your mum .

@Silvermoonlight - it is true across the globe people as young as 16 work as soon as they are able. In Asian countries some kids work at even an younger age. At the same time, it is also true that people at their 20’s don’t work. It goes both way.

Samar wants to pursue a dancing career and if that means that he cannot do a normal job like others, then so be it. He does not need to be reprimanded for this. There are so many careers where people have to do other things than a normal job and that is fine. The same goes for Toshu, if he is studying and taking his exams then working may not be possible. I normally work when time allows but when it comes to studying or taking exams, I would happily leave my job and just focus on my studies.

As for a reply to the original author of this post, Anupamaa as a mother is allowed/entitled to behave however she wants with her children. Whether she needs to discipline her child or not, whether she needs to slap her kids or not, what to say to them or make them do, is all her personal choice. Who are we to say a mother is wrong or dumb to act in a particular way to their child? Every mother decides for themselves what is right for their child. Anupamaa is obviously doing this. Of course, as other people we usually have our own point of view, but this does mean that we are right.

Parents are usually forgiving. In fact, they are often described in comparison to God for their benevolent characteristic. Parents love you even when you hate yourself. Parents love you even when you are wrong (at least a considerable amount of parents).

Also, we cannot disregard that no matter how much socialisation, discipline, morals we are instilled by our parents, all of us at the end of the day are conscious beings. Even if Anupamaa had spent her whole life reprimanding her kids they could have still turned out to be horrible people out in the social world. Even if Anupamaa had slapped Pakhi, she could have still turned out to be selfish!

We must accept ourselves as responsible for our own choices. If we cannot blame other people for the consequences we face from our actions, then surely we cannot blame Anupamaa for the consequences that follow from Pakhi’s actions. Anupamaa clearly faces the consequences (negative) from the way she is with her children, is this not enough that we all feel like that on top of her excruciatingly painful circumstances we must paint in her even worse light?

I want to depart with one thing: no good deed goes unpunished. Even if Anupamaa was to be in the way that you are all expecting her to be, her life could have still been upside. There is no winning in life, just a reasonable compromise.

Best wishes,

The Philosopher

Originally posted by: angelic_charm

I seriously dont get Anupama..I get it " she is too nice and naive" but she acts like a dumb parent..There is a difference between being dumb and nice..She keeps babysitting her kids when they are all grownup..As a parent, you dont have to be nice all the time to your kids but tell them the difference between Right and Wrong...Pakhi acts like a selfish girl all the time, instead of letting her know what's right and what's not, Anu keeps pampering her and is somewhat spoiling her too..When Anu clearly knows what an evil person Vanraj is, its high times she shows Pakhi the mirror..

I know right!

I do fail to understand her. They are showing her as a perfect, responsible parent. But is she one? Nope don't think so.

This whole chapter of Pakhi - there were so many questionable things. Her telling Pakhi - 'Bado ke bich me na pde and respect Kavya'.. I mean WT*?

First, she is not a toddler. Respect for elders differs from person to person. Are you teaching her, to respect a marriage wrecker who created the distress in the house and turn blind eye to it?! How she is not in the equation? She is a teen, if she doesn't understand how a big issue is EMA - it is Anu's job to explain the situation.

And putting the entire expensive gift/party thing on Vanraj and Kavya is not helping at all. At least let her know what happened was wrong! Anu telling her she can't get upset on Pakhi's Khushi --- Dude like is that supposed to be the point? Shouldn't she point out - Pakhi is finding so-called happiness at the wrong place and in the wrong thing.

For today's episode, I think even Toshu was more sensible than Anu. I wrote it in another post as well, Anu should have learned hard way by now, what that kind of parenting could do from Baa- Vanraj's example.

They do point out what Vanraj is not supposed to do as a parent, well completely agree there. But what about Anu's parenting duties!!

Pakhi specifically is lacking an entire emotion called empathy - shouldn't that be a red alert already!