Originally posted by: ddsoaps
Surabi thank you for your POV. And I commend you for
putting down your thoughts. I love that you write in frustration over Shobha's
stupidity...
And no you are not rare, every woman would think the same way. So would I. I
have daughters as old as Garima and a 24 year solid marriage. The first lesson
I give my girls is Respect before Love! Never compromise on this.
We would be mad that how stupid can she be? Cant Shobha see through Samarth's
evilness. Someone who would not spare his own sister? He was giving Garu away
to another Samarth. These are the questions that run through our minds.
But I am seeing why the CVs chose to show Shobha this way.
Now lets look at Shobha's characterization. She is highly educated but was
never independent before this job. Her life started and ended with Samarth. She
was someone who could never take her own decisions. Samarth too has said that
about her.
Yet we see a slow, subtle change happening every day. And that is character
growth. It does not take place overnight. Its your daily experience and how you
deal with the lemons throw at you that makes one stronger day by day.
You fall, you get up, and you slowly pick up the pieces and work towards
mending things. For Shobha her children are her priority. She finds it scary to
think of robbing them of their biological father. It would be too
traumatic for the kids thinks Shobha. She is ready to become the sacrificial
lamb in this relationship just for her kids. And she is right in thinking so.
Because after Shobha, who is for the kids? Should anything happen to her, whose
responsibility are they? Shardha, Garu, Riddhima, her own ill mother, Mahesh,
Vikram, who? Shobha is weak but wise.
She sees Samarth decision of a divorce as a spur of the moment decision.
Not something they both sat down, discussed and decided upon. Like custody of
kids, alimony, identity, the children have their rights too. What do they want?
Even if a an estranged couple were to go to a counsellor, the first thing they
would be told is to work on their problems. Depending on the severity of the
situation, mutual decisions are taken
eventually.
When she comes back heartbroken, dejected and torn, her
little babies give her that solace when they wound their arms around her. Their
words of encouragement slowly build up her confidence, that may be it won't be
that hard to let go. Her kids will support her.
Shobha will emerge stronger eventually, but its
a daily growth of her character. It's a
slow and steady ongoing battle that she has to fight with herself (to let go of
her marital status) and realize she can do it on her own.
Even Samarth can turn around and say one day, we could have worked it
out. Now she has done everything from her side and yet this marriage
failed completely. Neither society nor Samarth or his khandan or her family or anyone
can point fingers at her as to what she did and did not do to save her
marriage. So what the CVs are portraying about Shobha goes well with the kind of person she is shown to be.
Hope this helps in accepting as to why Shobha did what she did.
hugs
dd
