How do I move On? It was for Better or for Worse! (updated)

I am adding this update as I see many viewers were mad at Shobha's stupidity of going back to the prison to plead and beg with Samarth.

I full understand this. Every woman would think the same way. So would I. I have daughters as old as Garima and a 24 year solid marriage. The first lesson I give my girls is Respect before Love! Never compromise on this.

We would be mad that how stupid can she be? Cant Shobha see through Samarth's evilness. Someone who would not spare his own sister? He was giving Garu away to another Samarth. These are the questions that run through our minds.

But I am seeing why the CVs chose to show Shobha this way.

Now lets look at Shobha's characterization. She is highly educated but was never independent before this job. Her life started and ended with Samarth. She was someone who could never take her own decisions. Samarth too has said that about her.

Yet we see a slow, subtle change happening every day. And that is character growth. It does not take place overnight. Its your daily experience and how you deal with the lemons throw at you that makes one stronger day by day. You fall, you get up, and you slowly pick up the pieces and work towards mending things. For Shobha her children are her priority. She finds it scary to think of robbing them of their biological father. It would be too traumatic for the kids thinks Shobha. She is ready to become the sacrificial lamb in this relationship just for her kids. And she is right in thinking so. Because after Shobha, who is for the kids? Should anything happen to her, whose responsibility are they? Shardha, Garu, Riddhima, her own ill mother, Mahesh, Vikram, who? Shobha is weak but wise. She sees Samarth decision of a divorce as a spur of the moment decision. Not something they both sat down, discussed and decided upon. Like custody of kids, alimony, identity, the children have their rights too. What do they want? Even if a an estranged couple were to go to a counsellor, the first thing they would be told is to work on their problems. Depending on the severity of the situation, mutual decisions are taken eventually.

When she comes back heartbroken, dejected and torn, her little babies give her that solace when they wound their arms around her. Their words of encouragement slowly build up her confidence, that may be it won't be that hard to let go. Her kids will support her.

Shobha will emerge stronger eventually, but its a daily growth of her character. It's a slow and steady ongoing battle that she has to fight with herself (to let go of her marital status) and realize she can do it on her own.

Even Samarth can turn around and say one day, we could have worked it out. Now she has done everything from her side and yet this marriage failed completely. Neither society nor Samarth or his khandan or her family or anyone can point fingers at her as to what she did and did not do to save her marriage.

So what the CVs are portraying about Shobha goes well with the kind of person she is shown to be.

Hope this helps in accepting as to why Shobha did what she did.

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Honestly, I watched the first part where she goes to samarth and begs for another chance and I switched the TV off.. I couldnt watch any more. What is the boundary between self-respect and marital adjustment ? I am surprised many here find it close to reality and touching. I wish I could too... ... I can understand her being unable to move on from the nine year old relationship.. I can understand her wanting to have a proper family.. I can understand her adjusting for the sake of children... but at what cost? Do you want this if you find out your husband is someone like Samarth? If Samarth can do that to his own sister, what does that speak of him as a aperson. If he can treat Shobha or garima like that, what kind of a father figure is he to Jiya? Does Shobha think about it? Or she is just blindly beleiving once samarth comes out of jail, everyhting will be fine. he can have his share of girl frriends and she can have a father figure for the kids. Dont you as a woman stop and think? I cannot really understand what the mentality of that person is. I can imagine her upset about the whole situation and being unable to move on and dealing with it in a hard way byt cant imagine begging him for another chance after all that talk from the MIL. If Shobha was such a person, she would not have taken the job and tried to stand up for her independence against such opposition from her MIL and husband. Now they are showing her suddenly as a very weak person.

main tho 1st day say yehi bolrahi hoon, this just cannot be a desi soap ! surely we r seeing things, the logo of the channel is tricking us🤣

rehan !! oh sweet heart... he is mother's saviour knight ! remember when samarth was about to inflict that blow to sobha...it was 1st rehan's screaming " nehi papa'' stopped him in his tracks...he actually came running in between them to rescue his mother...he acted when every one else was frozen in shock and disbelief. he would grow up a great gentleman one day. and together jiya and rehal will help sobha taking baby steps towards new life again.

Well put .

Beautifully written DD, Sherya I have to write in your post too Sorry I was at school and did'nt get to write I will write later today !!

The Scenario of Shobha's and Vikrams would like to throw light on !!

Initially When I saw that Shobha rushed back again to Samarth Begging Him I was like WTH , But then again this was THAT Day the day Morning the afternoon and the early evening still on looking at the turn of events Shobha was devistated with the way she had unwillingly sign the divorce papers she Shobha is too good at heart her heart was too big & she was ready to forgive Forgive that MAN as he was the FATHER of her KIDS... YES he has done adultery the MAN who never loved his wife respected or kept her FAITH But then the LAST straw was keeping her HOLD on to this thinking for her KIDS he will put everything behind & SHE wanted to START a new Life !! There are those people who are looking at the bright rainbow behind the dark clouds still during that DAY of events BUT alias YES IT was not happening for SHOBHA he SAMARTH was NOT who would listen and she walked out in dismay !! Yes she had hit the rock bottom again JUST to KEEP this MARRIAGE FAMILY for the KIDS>..
Thats why when she got back HER MIL who once was seeing her SON as PRIDE saw that he was a ShAME and why why would you SHOBHA want to get disrespected.. Where is ur dignity here a MOM & MIL was talking to her DAUGHER & DIL BUT the family which this daughter DIL made was her universe she failed she failed to keep it was her argument... Maybe Shobha is doing wrong by going & begging Samarth it was stupid of her BUT there again as we try to keep that last straw on that DAY of the CRUMBLING TOWER was what SHOBHa tried.. for whom ONLY for her KIDS as the FEAR of LOOSING them was hitting her ...THIS DAY will be pricking her for the REST OF HER LIFE YET HOPE IS ALWAYS THERE to see a new LIGHT in LIFE a NEW CHAPTER So the Following DAY Rise and see that was what her MOM MIL wanted her to do and this ONLY HAPPNED MORE with the help of her wonderful KIDS THEY R HERS & ONLY HERS as She has groomed her values into THEM at this age and they will be with her LONG WAY !!!
THE POSITIVITY of HER GOING TO MEET SAMARTH AND GETTING A LOW response & BACK HOME THE STRENGHT SHE GATHERED WITH her KIDS talking to her BROUGHT that assurance that THEY r with HER all along Being still minors and seeing what was happening absorptions is always there and they understand the right over the wrong for the strength their mom needed from them...

Now Vikram !! He came to give the file to Shobha and seeing Sharda pacing up and down he asked what happened & as she was to asnwer Shobha came and Sharda was disspointed by what she did justified also Vikram had seen Samarth's Behaviour & his disrespect for Shobha & equally he also told her that Samarth was not someone who would listen to her even if she wanted to explain and requested her to see the brighter side close the phase which hurts her and walk ahead.. But in vain she pricked his sensitive nerve which was what he had buried and closed the eruption agitation & anger was very visible in Vikram whose love was broken down into so many pieces that trust respect & understanding had taken that back seat when he travlled that phase again...
The man who saw sweetness saw happiness & joy in the Phrase of LOVE had turned DARK & DISHEARTENED and would NEVER beleiev in that institution again ?????

The words said by her his ex was haunting him and that request he had done was never taken into consideration never kept that patience he wishes & she walked out on him ... The Man in him had turned into a heartless person who was looking for various ways to avoid and leave aside the phase of LOVE which is a colorful rainbow of LIFE...

So we see two different people with their boundaries who wished they had that STRENGTH I say STRENGTH since they fought their LOVE BUT ALIAS IT NEVER STAYED with them ...

MAYBE TODAY Was that CLOSURE from both sides and we can open a NEW LEAF a NEW PHASE as they both were away both wanted to connect each other SHOBHA repeatedly trying to inform Vikram about her absense speak to him WHILE VIKRAm was disturbed in OFFICE as HE was unable to streamline things in SHOBHA's absence !!

As Vikram reached home He refused to talk to Shobha whom Naani had seen he would go all out to help and that quality of his she appriciated...as she Shobha was growing on him questioned him abt his behaviour and if he missed SHOBHA...

So Yes DD How do I Move On is what both were swining clinging on !! YEt as we have to see a new rising SUN as we need to see a rainbow of colors for a smile we wish for ourselves & dear ones lets see a Better ahead ...

Hope Vikram & Shobha see a better ahead !! Their Bond is beautiful and this very bond with groom them to see the comfort in each other and a new phase they need for each other...

Lets see how their story tellin unfolds.. I love the presnetation & dialogues & the way they bring these aspects ... Yeah its individuals ways of thinking Yet I see these dynamics which when dug bring out the strokes...

^ Fabulous post by u, Diana! 👏

Originally posted by: surabi

Honestly, I watched the first part where she goes to samarth and begs for another chance and I switched the TV off.. I couldnt watch any more. What is the boundary between self-respect and marital adjustment ? I am surprised many here find it close to reality and touching. I wish I could too... ... I can understand her being unable to move on from the nine year old relationship.. I can understand her wanting to have a proper family.. I can understand her adjusting for the sake of children... but at what cost? Do you want this if you find out your husband is someone like Samarth? If Samarth can do that to his own sister, what does that speak of him as a aperson. If he can treat Shobha or garima like that, what kind of a father figure is he to Jiya? Does Shobha think about it? Or she is just blindly beleiving once samarth comes out of jail, everyhting will be fine. he can have his share of girl frriends and she can have a father figure for the kids. Dont you as a woman stop and think? I cannot really understand what the mentality of that person is. I can imagine her upset about the whole situation and being unable to move on and dealing with it in a hard way byt cant imagine begging him for another chance after all that talk from the MIL. If Shobha was such a person, she would not have taken the job and tried to stand up for her independence against such opposition from her MIL and husband. Now they are showing her suddenly as a very weak person.

MY humble opinion.. I cannot stand this Shobha and is finding the whole scenario very repulsive. Maybe I am rare in this group!

No dear, you're not alone on this. Even I was terribly disgusted when Shobha went to the jail and began begging Samarth to give their marriage a chance. Her non-stop mantra, "Samarth please, please Samarth," really sickened me. Well, I can understand it's difficult to wipe away the nine years she's lived with her husband, it'll not go away so easily but it doesn't mean that she forgets her self-respect and self-worth and accept him as a husband again. Especially, that man who has raised hands on her in front of his children and outsiders, and has blatantly told her that he cannot stand seeing her face and having her around him. Nine years she's lived in a bubble and in spite of it bursting, she wants to go back into that bubble, using the children as an excuse to cling to him. Besides,does really want the children to have such a father, who doesn't care an iota for them? He only wants them as a medal he's won in his fight against her.

I am not sure how many people who are saying Shobha was wrong in going to meet Samarth are married, believe in the relationship they have and have atleast one children...!

well post. yes it is irritating to see shobha begging in front of samarth. but slowly everything will be right. shobha will forget samarth. It cannot happen one day.

Awesome post di Shobha should understand dat her kids doesnt deserve a father like Samarth how a criminal father can do any good to his children his presence will affect her kids future drastically moreover they had saw how he had behaved wid their mother he had already set a bad example doing dat d CVS should highlight d bonding of Vikram wid d kids especially wid Jiyu she will realize what a perfect father should be n her misunderstandings will be cleared I think ketan will help her to get custody of her kids