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riya

@chrissa

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Posted: 16 years ago

hi, i recently took this guys number,as ithort we cud be friends, but nw it has been about 4 mths since we been chatting on the fone, and nw i have got a bf , i told this guy we cud still be frendz, but he wants to be more and nw he does nt leave me alone.hw cn i get him 2 back of, i dnt wnt to lose a friend becoz i gt a bf. any help me 😭. he keeps teling me 2 dump my bf or he wil cause misunderstandings between us

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persistence

@persistence

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Posted: 16 years ago

Hmm, I think you should tell your boyfriend about this friend, and how he is threatening you and your relationship. If your boyfriend already knows how this "friend" of yours is pressuring you, there won't be any harm to the relationship especially if the other guy tries to ruin it.

Of course, you also need to know how supportive your boyfriend is/how trusting of you.... before you talk to him.

You can also not receive his calls anymore.

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Mahi

@-Mystery-

Stunner

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Posted: 16 years ago

Just be frank and really clear to the other guy that you are fine to have as friend but you love your boyfriend and will not leave him.

I think he's doing that because he thinks there's still hope but as soon as your are very clear about there's no possibility that he can be more than a friend he will leave you alone.

If he still doesn't you can threaten him that you will talk to your parents or the police.

-Mahi

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riya

@chrissa

Explorer

Posted: 16 years ago

😭 i spoke to my friend, he goes he will still come in mine and my bf's way. i cnt tell my bf, coz he will cause a fight and i reail dnt wnt tht. 😕

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Mahi

@-Mystery-

Stunner

+ 6

Posted: 16 years ago

You told him clearly but he still doesn't agree?

Then tell him that if he continues to act like that he will even end up finishing the friendship that you two have.

Then stop answering his calls/messages. If he is still being foolish, tell your parents to deal with him.

Hopefully soon the message will get to his head.

-Mahi

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@Robsessed.

Dazzler

Posted: 16 years ago

I think you should tell him clearly that your not interested in him, and if he is threatening you ... then tell him if he continues acting like a physco freak (no offence) you don't want to be friends with a guy like that.

Also, try to tell you boyfriend of what your friend is doing to you... maybe your bf can convince you friend to stop or somehow realise that you don't love your him and only your bf.

hope that helps x

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Krishna

@snowflake0555

Stunner

+ 4

Posted: 16 years ago

Just ignore his calls and don't pick up. You two only know each other through the phone right? It's not like he knows where you live and stuff....or does he? Keep telling him you don't wanna be more then friends and if he wants you to break up w/ your bf, stay strong and say NO.

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dream

@dream

Voyager

Posted: 16 years ago

i think u should directly tell that guy that u dont love him n he cant force u to love him & do clearify this to ur bf that this guy is just a frnd who's disturbing u ryt now.

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Jia

@Jiannax143

Inactive

Posted: 16 years ago

ignore him to the fullest..if he really was ur friend then he wouldnt threaten u...u odnt need someone like tht in ur life
and i really think u should tell ur bf be honest cause when he finds out it wont be good if he didnt hear it from u

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KAVYA VIDYARTHI

@dmg_fanatic

Sparkler

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Posted: 16 years ago

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hey

this is one common problem faced by many people.....

the best advice i can offer is that you should clear it out to your boyfriend because if you know that you are right then you shud not fear dis and if ur bf really loves you he wud never create a fuss bout dis and if he does then he never loved u coz love lies on basis of trust......that guy has some hope that might be his luck shines but ur bf...he does not knowwat he wud lose by committing tht mistake...if he is committed to u he wud never doubt u and as for that guy might be he is serious and if he is threatening u ....u can stop taking his calls but running away from the situation shud not b done coz in future if ur bf comes to kno about dis then his entire trust wud be droken...u need to make him understand the situation and convince him to trust u n b by ur side...there r many ways of putting up things like u can say tht this guy has been after u for sometime wid sweet talks but u never thot of him more than tht of frends....but his mind wandered elsewhere.....

dis was my advice but the decision shud b urs bcoz after all it is ur life nd 2morrow u shud not bear pain coz of otherssssssss

do reply n tell if sum problems occur

love

kavya