My thoughts about Simi

When the show started, I was really attracted to Simi in more ways than one. I could relate myself in many ways. So long i have been and i still carry this hope that Simi is actually what i have tried to analyse. In spite of my frustration and cribbing, i was and still hope Simi is actually the same what i understand about her.

Perfectly said Mesimi. and its the same views i had about simi also. one thing is i wonder if the writes has the same opinions. I hope they do, and they bring our old simi back.

Mesimi,

Originally posted by: mesimi

When the show started, I was really attracted to Simi in more ways than one. I could relate myself in many ways. So long i have been and i still carry this hope that Simi is actually what i have tried to analyse. In spite of my frustration and cribbing, i was and still hope Simi is actually the same what i understand about her.

I thought i will post it now, because probably ...i dont know ...i may not be able to appreciate Simi. So i decided might as well pen down what i thought Simi actually is. With Smriti essaying the complex character with the most powerful eye language, i have known Simi this way.

Though this girl never tells, i feel she loves Abhi like crazy. Simi has never been shown to express her feelings or desire for that matter. She has always been the loser being the eldest, that's what they detailed earlier. She resolves sibling fights, she cares for them, she has fed them, and she has saved up chocolates for giving others. So right from start she has been in the giving end and others at receiving end. She has never had any wants and needs to call it her own. She has always taken the blame and covered up for her sibs.

So far the only thing she wished to have in life was Abhi. She appreciated the person who took care of her, consoled her, who never forced his person or his thoughts on her and behaved as her best friend.

She never said yes to Nakul first hoping Abhi will manage to officially ask for her hand. so she kept postponing. then she decided she has to forsake her love for family honor.

Simi's has been a complex character. She just knows she has to save the situation and its her duty and so long since she never had a need of her own, her decisions were okay. Her dilemma starts because Abhi is involved be it marriage with Nakul or now RB incident.

She has never been the one to discuss issue because she feels it will hurt her own people more. Now Abhi is also in her list.Earlier also, she never told the family about RBs attempt to rape.

Now she is worried Abhi will go to jail because she knows his temper.

I think it will take a while before she realizes her own decisions will start affecting her own married life. She has got a glimpse of it when Abhi got mad at her. And she will learn a little late that it is important to discuss issues with ones own husband and start treating him equal.

I feel she reciprocates love in her own way(joining her own hand with Abhi when he was electrocuting himself, saving him when she realizes he is gonna be killed). She only retaliates when pushed to extremes.
And physically also she does reciprocate his closeness in the kitchen scene, in the park, when he kisses her on the cheek and recently again after their outing.So she loves him in all ways. Just that her priorities in life are different since she has been this way.

Unfortunately Abhi is younger to her. So somewhere that remains in her mind and so subconsciously she feels he is impulsive in his decisions when actually he is not. Well that is the issue in question. She should learn to cope up with age issue. So that is the hard point. She should learn to respect him and his decisions. It will take some time. Since they are very much in love, i don't think it will be a permanent separation if ever, they will resolve their fights. Well that is what life is all about.

As independent thinking women we are irritated at her behaviour. But in the environment Simi is brought up with taunting and suppression of her feelings for a good 30 years and always being the giver and care taker, it will take some time before she actually blossoms and opens up.

In all terms I mean.

Somewhere I still support Simbhi because of all this. Simi not telling Abhi each time...

I love you

I am happy to be with you

I am lucky to have you

I feel that is the way she is. Not expressing openly. And since she has only Abhi to call her own, she expects he understands her all the time. Probably because she has too much faith in him. Subconsciously in her mind she says Abhi is my love, my husband, my everything, why am I hiding the truth. She knows she is making a mistake.

LETS SEE WHAT MONDAY HOLDS FOR US.

If she says yes, somehow a part of myself which i saw in Simi and enjoyed watching will be lost forever. So i thought this is the best time to write here what I liked about Simi

Completely disagree with your analysis of Simi. Abhi plays a secondary role in her life. Her family takes priority hence the reason she was willing to marry Nakul and tell Abhi to take a hike. I don't know where you got the idea behind her reason for postponning her decision to marry Nakul; she was NEVER waiting on Abhi, she actually told him she didn't want to go through with the marriage even though Abhi was quite willing. She knew the family was interested and waiting on HER decision and she kept postponing it because she didn't have the guts to stand up to her family and for the guy she loved.

She is not responsible for saving any situation; if she was THAT important her family would not have chosen to marry her off a long time ago. Her character was initially written to appreciate Abhi but the minute she got him, her whole character was redesigned; no longer was she the podgy girl who could not get a guy, instead she became the maha super sacrificial girl who had a hard time keeping guys away from her.

MeSimi, I understand that you love the character Simi and struggle to see what the writers have done to her, but the character whom we all liked in the beginning is finished. She's gone and we all need to move on and accept the fact that this is NOT the show we first started watching last year. It will take you a couple more months and you'll be there.

Simi is going to RB on Monday and she is going to agree to sleep with him and Abhi will come to the rescue and beat up RB - what else is going to happen? Have these writers done anything different in the six months of watching the show?

Originally posted by: mesimi

When the show started, I was really attracted to Simi in more ways than one. I could relate myself in many ways. So long i have been and i still carry this hope that Simi is actually what i have tried to analyse. In spite of my frustration and cribbing, i was and still hope Simi is actually the same what i understand about her.

I thought i will post it now, because probably ...i dont know ...i may not be able to appreciate Simi. So i decided might as well pen down what i thought Simi actually is. With Smriti essaying the complex character with the most powerful eye language, i have known Simi this way.

Though this girl never tells, i feel she loves Abhi like crazy. Simi has never been shown to express her feelings or desire for that matter. She has always been the loser being the eldest, that's what they detailed earlier. She resolves sibling fights, she cares for them, she has fed them, and she has saved up chocolates for giving others. So right from start she has been in the giving end and others at receiving end. She has never had any wants and needs to call it her own. She has always taken the blame and covered up for her sibs.

So far the only thing she wished to have in life was Abhi. She appreciated the person who took care of her, consoled her, who never forced his person or his thoughts on her and behaved as her best friend.

She never said yes to Nakul first hoping Abhi will manage to officially ask for her hand. so she kept postponing. then she decided she has to forsake her love for family honor.

Simi's has been a complex character. She just knows she has to save the situation and its her duty and so long since she never had a need of her own, her decisions were okay. Her dilemma starts because Abhi is involved be it marriage with Nakul or now RB incident.

She has never been the one to discuss issue because she feels it will hurt her own people more. Now Abhi is also in her list.Earlier also, she never told the family about RBs attempt to rape.

Now she is worried Abhi will go to jail because she knows his temper.

I think it will take a while before she realizes her own decisions will start affecting her own married life. She has got a glimpse of it when Abhi got mad at her. And she will learn a little late that it is important to discuss issues with ones own husband and start treating him equal.

I feel she reciprocates love in her own way(joining her own hand with Abhi when he was electrocuting himself, saving him when she realizes he is gonna be killed). She only retaliates when pushed to extremes.
And physically also she does reciprocate his closeness in the kitchen scene, in the park, when he kisses her on the cheek and recently again after their outing.So she loves him in all ways. Just that her priorities in life are different since she has been this way.

Unfortunately Abhi is younger to her. So somewhere that remains in her mind and so subconsciously she feels he is impulsive in his decisions when actually he is not. Well that is the issue in question. She should learn to cope up with age issue. So that is the hard point. She should learn to respect him and his decisions. It will take some time. Since they are very much in love, i don't think it will be a permanent separation if ever, they will resolve their fights. Well that is what life is all about.

As independent thinking women we are irritated at her behaviour. But in the environment Simi is brought up with taunting and suppression of her feelings for a good 30 years and always being the giver and care taker, it will take some time before she actually blossoms and opens up.

In all terms I mean.

Somewhere I still support Simbhi because of all this. Simi not telling Abhi each time...

I love you

I am happy to be with you

I am lucky to have you

I feel that is the way she is. Not expressing openly. And since she has only Abhi to call her own, she expects he understands her all the time. Probably because she has too much faith in him. Subconsciously in her mind she says Abhi is my love, my husband, my everything, why am I hiding the truth. She knows she is making a mistake.

LETS SEE WHAT MONDAY HOLDS FOR US.

If she says yes, somehow a part of myself which i saw in Simi and enjoyed watching will be lost forever. So i thought this is the best time to write here what I liked about Simi

hi dear,what ever u wrote about simi was very true ,protecting her family is good as she is elder,but love is a feelings,expressing it is the only way to feel ur partner that u love him the most.s one time recently she told her mom ,"maine sirf abhi se pyar kiya hai",which i liked so much ,and when abhi takes all blames on him,she holds his hand.

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Thanks for posting somthing which needs great discussion !!

Thanks Shanti,

Mesimi wonderful post and Daboo I truly hope that you are right about the part where she is in with the police and are trying to trap Balla. I so want that to be the case and not for her to loose her dignity and to agree to Ballas request. Simi is in so many ways a child herself. When Abhi yelled at her the other day about if she feels he is a child and she has an issue with age she should leave him. You know what sometimes I wish that they would actually seperate not because I want them to be apart but for her to realise that although Abhi might be 8 years younger to her he is way beyond her age in thinking. He has seen a lot more heartache living away from home and if you really think about it although she is the sacrifice queen she really is not street wise. She has lived a sheltered life at home with Papa and Manju. She really doesnt know how to show love at all as a wife to her husband and once Abhi had to ask for 2 minutes so he would be able to have her attention. She has no people skills at all. She is very respectful towards elders etc. but as far as letting her emotions or feelings shown to others well there is simply none. She was a lot more caring of Abhis feelings before marriage than after even though she made him go through hell with all her sacrifice dramas. In another way I can only imagine how it must feel to be rejected all your life about the way you look and your age so that perhaps has had a big part to play on simis life as to the reason why she acts the way she does at present. I do feel that she needs to realise that she is actually creating this monster in Abhi to come out. Not intentionally but she needs to realise that trust and communication and love go hand in hand in a marriage and until she realises that I dont think she can go forward. Being with Simi would make a person very frustrated as to how she acts sometimes. I personally dont think she appreciates Abhi for what he truly stands for. She is in her cocoon and is being protected by Abhi and she treats him as if he is her security blanket as a child does when they are insecure except in their case it is a toy or something similar. SIMI PLEASE SHOW ABHI MORE OF YOUR LOVE AND ACTUALLY TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

very weelll said guys , they neveer showed her side of love for abhi , like ppl say love doesnt mean u have to show and shower it openly , its like a air , silent yet always with u

Originally posted by: ginac

Mesimi wonderful post and Daboo I truly hope that you are right about the part where she is in with the police and are trying to trap Balla. I so want that to be the case and not for her to loose her dignity and to agree to Ballas request. Simi is in so many ways a child herself. When Abhi yelled at her the other day about if she feels he is a child and she has an issue with age she should leave him. You know what sometimes I wish that they would actually seperate not because I want them to be apart but for her to realise that although Abhi might be 8 years younger to her he is way beyond her age in thinking. He has seen a lot more heartache living away from home and if you really think about it although she is the sacrifice queen she really is not street wise. She has lived a sheltered life at home with Papa and Manju. She really doesnt know how to show love at all as a wife to her husband and once Abhi had to ask for 2 minutes so he would be able to have her attention. She has no people skills at all. She is very respectful towards elders etc. but as far as letting her emotions or feelings shown to others well there is simply none. She was a lot more caring of Abhis feelings before marriage than after even though she made him go through hell with all her sacrifice dramas. In another way I can only imagine how it must feel to be rejected all your life about the way you look and your age so that perhaps has had a big part to play on simis life as to the reason why she acts the way she does at present. I do feel that she needs to realise that she is actually creating this monster in Abhi to come out. Not intentionally but she needs to realise that trust and communication and love go hand in hand in a marriage and until she realises that I dont think she can go forward. Being with Simi would make a person very frustrated as to how she acts sometimes. I personally dont think she appreciates Abhi for what he truly stands for. She is in her cocoon and is being protected by Abhi and she treats him as if he is her security blanket as a child does when they are insecure except in their case it is a toy or something similar. SIMI PLEASE SHOW ABHI MORE OF YOUR LOVE AND ACTUALLY TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!