My thoughts about Simi

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Bana

@Bana

Dazzler

+ 2

Posted: 15 years ago

#11

Me too - very busy that is, but can't lose this chance to get it all off my chest 😊.

I agree with some parts of what you say Mesimi - that we should judge Simi in the context of her social background and upbringing. I feel she has a peculiar mix of inferiority complex (esp regarding looks, exposure to men) and superiority complex (I am the big didi and I can take care of my brood). The latter prevents her from taking Abhi's help in decision making (she uses him only for executing her decision) - it makes her pompous, overbearing and unpopular.

I don't think Simi lacks courage or confidence at all - all her poor decisions were taken not because she was afraid or diffident but because she rightly or wrongly believed that this is the best way. Again a peculiar kind of gumption - "I know what has to be done and I am going to do this for my sister and I will face whatever comes after that". But this kind of courage is stupid - it makes her blind to the loopholes in her decision.

Obviously she cares deeply about her family - so when she thinks it is in her power to rescue one of them she feels responsible to personally do it and closes her mind to other options which seem less sure.

I also think she cares deeply about Abhi, but doesn't yet respect him the way she does her father. Secondly, with her big didi hangover she was not ready for a wife role - even if she had married some other man she would have been mentally in 12/24 all the time though mechanically doing her duties at her in-laws place, coz that is conventional. If she was accepted by the Ts and living there normally, a typical scene in the Tarneja kitchen would be Simi stirring doodhi ka halwa thinking about Anuj's job. With Abhi she hasn't felt any pressure to play wife/bahu, thus she is fully involved at 12/24. Also since it is an unconventional marriage her family has not realised they should keep their distance. I bet RS would not have asked her to come that fateful day if she were in the T mansion as bahu.

Some questions remain unanswered - how can any sane person not realise how mature and sensible Abhi is? It is puzzling how Simi is so lacking in judgement that she thinks he is sometimes immature. Also someone like her would be brought up to mind her tongue in front of people - so how come she freely criticises her husband in public?

Good stimulating topic Mesimi.

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ramas

@ramas

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+ 5

Posted: 15 years ago

#12

mesimi I agree with most you said. But even if simi is shy she never shows shyness getting close to him to get comfort even the first time when she was running away from bhalla. Even abhi was shocked and he always hesitated till he was sure thir rishta will decide soon.

Simi hides all her emotions and live for others espeically her family. But then why double standards for Abhi. Abhi is now her family and most important person she claimed to love most.

How can she sacrifice him and his happiness for her other family?

I had always expected Simi to keep balance and give abhi all he deserved. The guy worships her and what she does? deprive him of all the happiness asks him to give up everything and run after her problems.

Simi should be the one solve her problems with Abhi's support/

Madam goes to work while Abhi takes care of her problems.

Trust me I have been in Simi's place many times in my life being an eldest daughter with no parents solving problems of my family running between 2 worlds. But as a woman you have to learn to keep balance that way neither side feels that you are beng unfair to any one or love any one less.

simi is blessed to have huby like Abhi. she loves him dearly I agree. But she is missing biggest point Abhi is younger like nitu, mili and anuj and needs to be handled same way caring for him providing him the same love. and comfort.

Abhi mentioned many times it is not easy for him espeically when he was angry when she callled him baccha. All she does is tell him you will get a job. That is not enough. how much interest she took in him or ever ask him Abhi how do you feel or Abhi waht do you need? Poor guy shed tears without her knowing so he won't add to her problems. For Simi, It is always demands after demands put on him.

She is a biggest hypocrite running after her family ignoring poor husband.

Simi likes to provide more help to ppl who kicks her and cries for them. She is always crying with problems. ppl face worst probems in life but have to keep smiling so your loved one does not feel pain.

I really feel sorry for Abhi and his likes who gets married to woman like Simi. Who is totally ungrateful, unromantic, selfish I know it is harsh word for Simi. But she has so much evolved in her family problems and became totally ignorant about abhi and his problems. At times it feels like she has only married him to make his life miserable with her problems.

I am not even mentioning that she may go to RB to get his house back and sacrifice her love and herself. I don't know how would I feel then.

Edited by ramas - 15 years ago

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Laila Banu

@Laila2009

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 15 years ago

#13

Originally posted by: ginac
Mesimi wonderful post and Daboo I truly hope that you are right about the part where she is in with the police and are trying to trap Balla. I so want that to be the case and not for her to loose her dignity and to agree to Ballas request. Simi is in so many ways a child herself. When Abhi yelled at her the other day about if she feels he is a child and she has an issue with age she should leave him. You know what sometimes I wish that they would actually seperate not because I want them to be apart but for her to realise that although Abhi might be 8 years younger to her he is way beyond her age in thinking. He has seen a lot more heartache living away from home and if you really think about it although she is the sacrifice queen she really is not street wise. She has lived a sheltered life at home with Papa and Manju. She really doesnt know how to show love at all as a wife to her husband and once Abhi had to ask for 2 minutes so he would be able to have her attention. She has no people skills at all. She is very respectful towards elders etc. but as far as letting her emotions or feelings shown to others well there is simply none. She was a lot more caring of Abhis feelings before marriage than after even though she made him go through hell with all her sacrifice dramas. In another way I can only imagine how it must feel to be rejected all your life about the way you look and your age so that perhaps has had a big part to play on simis life as to the reason why she acts the way she does at present. I do feel that she needs to realise that she is actually creating this monster in Abhi to come out. Not intentionally but she needs to realise that trust and communication and love go hand in hand in a marriage and until she realises that I dont think she can go forward. Being with Simi would make a person very frustrated as to how she acts sometimes. I personally dont think she appreciates Abhi for what he truly stands for. She is in her cocoon and is being protected by Abhi and she treats him as if he is her security blanket as a child does when they are insecure except in their case it is a toy or something similar. SIMI PLEASE SHOW ABHI MORE OF YOUR LOVE AND ACTUALLY TELL HIM HOW MUCH HE MEANS TO YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree with a lot of what you say. Before Abhi said "I love you" she did care about him. Then afterwards she didn't give a damn about him or the possiblity that she might not end up getting married him once the Nakul proposal came her away. Also, she does not act like a person who has been rejected because of the way she looks or her age; she acts the total opposite especially with Abhi. If you know it is so hard to get someone you like to love you, you would never risk the chance of losing them. Simi has been doing that for the past six months. This tells me the writers themselves are not able to think from that mind set because they themselves have never faced rejection in their lives.

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Shanti

@shanti05

Stunner

+ 3

Posted: 15 years ago

#14

My only annoying side of Simi is
She says to Abhi " Mujey tumari zaroorat hai !!"
Now what exactly according to Simi's dictionary does this dialogue mean

Can anyone explain to me 😔

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rama

@rama6

Navigator

Posted: 15 years ago

#15

At the beginning episodes simi was very sweet but now she has become the mahan simiji who does every thing for herself...solving problems creating problems....😡 now has a famous dialogue app nahi somjoghe.....😡 who wants to understand her now.... 😭

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Jenila

@Jenila

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#16

Hi friends, i have read every one's wonderful comments.

My comments.

We know that Simi loves Abhi and she was the best before her marriage with Abhi.

But, we can't blame simi, because the CVs are making her the worst.

Both Simi and Abhi are one of the best characters with great potentials, but CVs are putting them in the low level.

As per the story line, a girl of 30 years marrying a 22 year boy, i mean the story line is the best. But the CVs are simply showing all the dramas of KB, rather than Simbhi's story.

Intially i was so impressed by the role of Simi, but now i have started to dislike her character. Hope CVs will do the needful, and will make again worth watch.

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ssree

@ssree

Voyager

Posted: 15 years ago

#17

the thoughts I have ad about simi from last weeks episode:

seems like simi has started valuing abhi more now ( hopefully). It was nice to see simi taking the initative to be with abhi, also her expressions were very good.

seems like shes doubble minded at some things and even if she feels like doing something she is shy of it or shy to express it also. like when she came near abhi she wanted him to call her but when he diddnt she felt offended and made an excuse, On the dining table she like the way abhi cought her hands, but she was shy coz it was in front of her family, and when she went into the kitchen she was cooly smiling at her self as if she enjoyed it.

Hope she gives abhi more time and dosent underestimate abhi another time, and incaser she does it another time, MY BELAN IS READY TO HIT HER.

poor guy really requires some love.

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Ganga

@Avatarana09

Dazzler

Posted: 15 years ago

#18

And i want to believe this is what i understood of Simi.

Hope CVS dont have other plans in her characterisation

I initially liked her helplessness. But her big ego in thinking she is always right in deciding for her people irritates me.

Problem with her character is she wishes good for all but because of her immaturity she does not know how she goes about it. She thinks she is older and can decide for all. But actually she is a little child and only Abhi can bring that change in her.

When after getting stay order she goes to abhi, hugs him in spite of being in public and asks him crying...kahan chale gaye the abhi...it shows she is a kid who needs to be emotionally taken care of and only abhi can support her and none else. just once he gets mad at her...who wont when you constantly nag them as bachcha when he is not. Somewhere though its a fictional character i was worried about the writers mentality, i had felt simi is actually a poor thing...her problem being she cant see her people in pain and she feels abhi is her own so he too should think and act the way she wants.

Well thats immaturity. Even now she has not yet confided in Abhi. She thinks she is doing the right thing if not Abhi will be in trouble by harming Bhalla. She is just not being wise.But she cant take him for granted always. he is human too with feelings within him in the form of love, care, aspirations and life in general. No man should get treated the way Abhi was. I dont know if its changed for good.Lets see.

Edited by mesimi - 15 years ago

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Shankar

@-Shankar-

Inactive

+ 4

Posted: 15 years ago

#19

I respect your views of Simi and also agree. But she cannot decide between priorities.

Abhi ya parivar? Pyar ya zimidaari?

For a middle class girl, I respect her picking family. But on a biddaai, a maayka would tell the dulhann to keep her sasural happy. Simi doesn't have a sasural so her prime "zimidaari" goes to her husband. It probably isn't easy - picking family or husband. The years of luv (and hate) her family gave her cannot be compared with that love of her husband. So whatever decision she takes should be respected

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