Originally posted by: shravanfan
wow... i never knew that she called her father a driver... Um... i mean it is understandable for an adolescent who is suffering from inferiority complex because of her background for which she was not in fault.
while listening to radio i heard a confession which broke my heart.. in that show everyone was confessing their guilt and biggest regret.
a man called and confessed there. he work as a software engineer. he said when he was young he got admitted in a renowned iit engineering college in kharakpur. once he left his project in home and his father came to give it in his campus. the father called but he ignored as his father was not dressed properly. his father pull auto rickshaw.
his friends his him that someone is calling him but he said to them that he don't recognize the man. later his father sent the project assignment by a peon's hand.
he said that his father thought he didn't hear him that day and died thinking that and in the last day also he couldn't gain enough courage to confess it to his father and ask for forgiveness. he is still running his life under the heavy weight of guilt and regret of that day.
as a youngster we often make simple mistake to fit in the convenience but that simple mistake eat us alive from guilt in future.
When her father came to college to check on her, she was embarassed. When Gunche asked her who he was, her driver? She replied that yes he was driver!
The story you told is very sad. There are two sides of each coin. On one side, for teenagers, their parents can be an embarrassment, especially if they come from different/poor background. On the other side, it can be really hurtful for the parents who had spent their entire life in building a life for their kids and then those same kids forget about them when they grow up. There can be no simple solution to it. I have myself felt this kind of embarrassment, although I never lied about it to anyone. There were times, I felt the inferiority complex in school, college etc, and especially in teens. I used to cry a lot back then. Most people from my school were quiet rich. Whenever their parents would come in PTA meeting, they would all be so modern, English speaking and what not. And then, I would enter with my parents, who were much sober and down to Earth comparatively. There was this one time, when one of my friend visited my house, which was quiet small. I had felt so ashamed that day. But that was those times. I was 13 or something and stupid. I don't feel like that any more. I love going out with my parents and there is no embarrassment. But those times as teenagers, things are very different. You feel so much and every small thing starts to bother you.
Probably Feriha also felt the same. She was hurt and felt bad about her background. She wanted to make a new life without her past and her background. Nothing will change the fact that she was wrong at so many levels, but I can also understand why she did so!
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