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@Onyourface: Yes, AM did progress in terms of communication and telling things to each other....it was good that Abir instantly tried to tell Mishti. Remains to be seen if they are able to keep communication channels open in the future also 😆

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

🤗🤗 aww you're welcome, looove you too yaara❤️

Would you like some amul ice cream?😛😆

Sure, I completely understand you. I don't deny anything you've said above😊🤗 Summed it all up perfectly, got nothing more to add.

Yeh valentines day aur 15th feb ke chakkar mein,

all the functions are in fast forward mode. If they were going to cut down the functions so much, they might as well have just bhaag ke shaadi straight at the temple, rather than having that stupid meenu drama I still can't get over that over dramatic natak by meenu at the temple🤔

Yes please 😃 Ice creams and chocolates any day 😛🤗😆

Bhaag ke shaadi is still on the cards I feel 😆 Ans this time meenu flip is to make mishbir in mishbit house ....if they don't do this then sach mein sasuma had a change of heart ....which I won't believe even if ambe maa tell me 😆

Originally posted by: AreYaar

@Onyourface: Yes, AM did progress in terms of communication and telling things to each other....it was good that Abir instantly tried to tell Mishti. Remains to be seen if they are able to keep communication channels open in the future also 😆

I hope they do ....I have struggled a lot to find something in the episode 😆.....

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

But don't get me wrong. I agree to disagree with you on this @Bold: when a family member is upset during a happy occasion like a shaadi, if they have a monologue about why kuhu looks upset, it doesn't seem right that they will immediately cheer her up by pampering her. It would be more realistic to stop and ask her questions, what's bothering her. THAT is the real attention Kuhu is craving for, she is so lost in her divorce tension that mishti's shaadi celebrations and the family's excitement are fuelling her frustration and worries that her family doesn't seem to notice her. It's a mixture of jealousy and plain cowardice to not own up to her mistakes and not brave enough to speak to her parents/family about her problems.

don't mistaken me, I don't agree with Kuhu's illogical hatred against mishti. Her words and behaviour are completely out of line.

I'm just trying to explain Mishti's side, it's quite a complicated situation.

It can actually be a little of both in a GENUINE family situation....but I don’t consider either of the families in this story genuine 😆....they are all written in a half baked and inconsistent manner.

In a realistic situation, if you see someone is upset, you will try to diffuse the situation subtly, not through OTT pampering gestures that look so put on. Then you will try to talk to the person to understand what they are feeling. Of course in real life also many families are so dysfunctional that after some time people just give up talking directly and think if someone wants to be a party pooper, just give them some gifts and importance and they will be fine 😆

Kuhu has convoluted her situation with her own cowardice and she can’t face her failures so she blames Mishti. Hiding the divorce is all Kuhu’s decision but now she will suddenly put the full blame of her marriage’s failure on Mishti 🙄🤷‍♀️.....I honestly don’t have much patience or sympathy for her vicious cycles.

As for Mishti, yes I know in the past also she’s switched from being sad to suddenly singing and dancing for Kuhu 😆....that’s part of the reason I stopped watching the show.

One of the most bizarre things in this show is the way the sisters fight in one scene and start doing giddy dancing in the next scene. It has never been convincing to me and no explanation of “compartmentalization” can justify it. It’s just poor writing to accommodate the constant family functions.

No matter what kind of “happy face” people try to put on in between family disagreements, it’s not this half baked.

Anyways, if it was normal levels of Mishti moving on from Kuhu’s taunts, I’d be ok. Like the way she teased Kuhu about why she’s not taunting her. But the writers took it too far with showing Mishti saying things like Kuhu makes life a KJo movie. And I really dislike seeing a Mishti considering herself inferior in front of Kuhu. As if Kuhu’s constant bakwaas is not enough, that now we have to see Mishti devaluing herself too? 😕

Then what’s the point of all this anyways? Abir is anyways busy with his Nanko....so who is around to even pull Mishti out of such nonsensical thoughts?

It’s bizarre how they flip between showing a strong Mishti who firmly sticks up for her self respect and one who utterly loses her spine in thinking she is some bechaari daily soap waali? What bakwaas, man.

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Ok as much as I disliked today's episode for my own reasons😛 , there is one thing related to mishbir that I observed today which I am super happy with

Mishbir's progress in communication levels

I remember during the IT raid track , mishti asked abir that why did he hide the IT raid thing from her and he replied something like "main aisa hi hun, apno ko dard mein nahi dekh sakta, unhe takleef ho yeh mujhe pasand nahi " .... so that time he somewhere believed in hiding things because he doesn't want to hurt anyone and he tried to solve the matter on his own

Straight coming to today's episode, as soon as he got to know about kuku's divorce , he immediately messaged mishti about the seriousness of the situation and tried to involve mishti and her opinions in this matter

That time he was just a friend who wanted to help his friend without hurting her , this time he was a perfect partner , because he wanted to involve his partner in the decision making process

Not sure if the message will be read by mishti or not , but he atleast he tried , that's a good progress for me , communication thing is the only problem they have actually and I am glad there is some progression there

Till then , this much is enough for me to survive through the episode...

Haha ....I was really salty about the episode but i am happy i found something to feel good about 😛

Wow Uru first i read your highlight and though ok guruji is upset with execution... i totally understand you today is not your day but here you are back to mood with the small positive post on today epi... 👏🤗

i too liked that small message scene... he was so confused on what to do after knowing about the divorce news and immediately thought of mish and like a good partner sharing everything with her... on the date fixing pooja he said to mish here after whatever we do we will do it together... and these small progression are so endearing yaar.. 👍🏼 and this parallel you mentioned shows the amount of improvement in their communication level 👍🏼❤️

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

THIS! THIS smile and excited jumpy Mishteee was the missing piece in nishmish rishta!🥳

how the hell did mah family not notice this missing precious, radiating smile?

Just look at her joy, she just cannot hold it in! It's Abir afterall🥳

n.b jas's face in this last pic above🤣 Seriously she doesn't have to force herself to be happy. She is a mother, and if she wants to be with her Nannu the LET HER GO! Go jas jee bhar ke apne bete ko nahaake pamper karo😛

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

uff kya lag rahi hai madam protect that smile

Too pretty, too gorgeous, just stunning

If Shah's colour is white...

then Rhea's colour has to be PINK

hayeee nandu i'm posting this in shaadi thread dear.... such cute moments

Originally posted by: yrhpk_aus

Everyone please try to cool down🤗

I understand your frustrations and annoyances. Inserting Kuku between Mishbir is a bit of pain..but just hear me out.

Abir saying that he cannot afford to get married when Kuku's rishta is hanging on a thread, is not new. THAT is Abir. Don't jump to conclusions yaar. Just because he says he doesn't feel right celebrating mishbir shaadi, doesn't mean the marriage will stop. No! mishbir and the makers are giving us numerous moments to hint to us that mishbir will not back down this time. They will get married rain hail or shine.

Abir has always had a soft spot for Kunal. He's always felt guilty for pushing Kunal into the marriage, after coming to know the truth of their marriage on navratri day. He always left felt bad for Kuhu after what Meenu and Kunal did, and he supported her to learn to build self-respect and individuality.

Both mishti and abir are personalities who never celebrate their own happiness when they know and see their family/siblings are going through pain. It's just not in their dna. Which brother will be happy to celebrate his marriage when he knows his little brother's marriage is on the edge? Which sister can be wholly happy when she can clearly see something is wrong and constantly faces Kuhu's anger? (but I do agree, Mishti invading privacy is 100% wrong. Picking up Kuhu's calls or opening letters are obviously not going to help their already shaky relationship It just going to add more fuel😒)

Sure abir's choice of words today weren't the best, but his intentions are still right. He knows he cannot and will not afford to lose Mishti for Kunal this time. Like Abir 1.0 said to BP - ek rishta un do haaton me hein jo likhir hoti hai. If two people genuinely want to stay together nothing can stop them (mishbir). and if two people really don't want to stay, they will separate no matter what (Kuku)** but the twist now is that Kunal doesn't want the divorce, Kuhu too deep down wants to stay. But she's never got the attention from kunal. So she's given up. Now that Abir knows Kunal also doesn't want the divorce, he'll surely be the bigger brother and return the support and favour Nanko gave him a few days earlier when nishmish rishta was happening.

Please remember post-leap, both mishbir do not know that Kuku are still on the divorce path. Kuku had both covered up that they worked things out. Kuhu's 'keep it separate' theory has always been respected and applied by Abir. He only helps and guides Kuhu and Kunal when he personally observes or hears something directly.

hope I made sense. Didn't mean to hurt anyone. Just sharing my views🤗👍🏼🤗

superb post nandu... 👏🤗totally agreed with you n even i had similar opinion... actually Abir never wanted anyone being sad in any function remember even with all problem going around he knew mish wanted to be part of kuku shaadi function n made sure she was there n happy... even on wedding day he bought her back n said to everyone it was her right to be there on her sisters wedding... and abir follows the we cant be happy when someone else is going through pain.. even mish would've felt the same panic.... 😆

and imagine what the family would've done when they know this directly they would gone for cancelling the wedding, or put a hold... abir just want to make sure kuku are ok before the wedding can happen.. .he wants to solve this with minimum damage to everyone... its not wrong...

like uru said the execution is the problem... today i didnt wanted to comment bcoz i was upset with the jet speed abir haldi otherwise i liked the episode n didnt mind the dialogue of abir too lol after baba track from abir, mishti, bp/m, meenu, kuku everyone had such lame dialogue which makes you doubt whether its the same show 😆

Originally posted by: LetThereBeLight

Wow Uru first i read your highlight and though ok guruji is upset with execution... i totally understand you today is not your day but here you are back to mood with the small positive post on today epi... 👏🤗

i too liked that small message scene... he was so confused on what to do after knowing about the divorce news and immediately thought of mish and like a good partner sharing everything with her... on the date fixing pooja he said to mish here after whatever we do we will do it together... and these small progression are so endearing yaar.. 👍🏼 and this parallel you mentioned shows the amount of improvement in their communication level 👍🏼❤️

Diyaaaa🤗🤗 It all tumhari wajah se 🤣 you weren't present here ...it happened all because of you ... haan yaar somehow the episode didn't click with me at all ... i was expecting more detailing, somehow it looked unconvincing to me ... I don't mind if abir helps kunal , of course he should

But I am happy for kunal, finally he accepted 😆 .... now dono meenu ke munnas are on girls patao misson 😆😆 benba toh gayi 🤣

And yes some nice communication progress from abir's side ..😳

For all his love for Mishti, it’s pretty likely that even if Abir sees firsthand the horrible vile things Kuhu says to Mishti almost daily, he will STILL try to find excuses and brush aside whatever Kuhu says as her “naadaani”.....lol

So much for intaaanse love😆.....jab mood hota hai, he becomes a Mishti defender, jab mood change toh he’s like oh it’s ok, what’s the big deal if Kuhu treats you like trash.....woh toh meri “bro” hai🙄😆.....and Mishti will be like you’re right Abir....aao hum dono milke Kuhu ki pooja karein 🙏

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Diyaaaa🤗🤗 It all tumhari wajah se 🤣 you weren't present here ...it happened all because of you ... haan yaar somehow the episode didn't click with me at all ... i was expecting more detailing, somehow it looked unconvincing to me ... I don't mind if abir helps kunal , of course he should

But I am happy for kunal, finally he accepted 😆 .... now dono meenu ke munnas are on girls patao misson 😆😆 benba toh gayi 🤣

And yes some nice communication progress from abir's side ..😳

Guruji 🤗🤗🤗ohh abh sab meri galti hai 🤣🤣 thoda kya busy hogay n guruji lost interest in episode 🤣

haan the execution n dialogues were so lame, it didnt have the depth like before but it has become a habit now the crap writing...

haha just like his brother cant express his feeling at time 🤣 yaar your saas is gonna loose it seeing both her munna going out of hand but she is getting new munnis in form of her bahu's who are always ready to be controlled by her 🤣

haan i hope soon both get such communication progress yaar every much important in a relationship... 😳