Rajvansh Sadan - the house that failed to become 'home' to Abir

"Everyone needs a house to live in, but a supportive family is what builds a home."

-Anthony Liccione

A home is supposed to be a safe place where you least expect to be judged or betrayed, a source of endless encouragement, of comfort, of assurance, of backing and emotional strength.

The past week in the Rajvansh house has been the week for revelations, treachery, and heartaches. While we all were certainly aware of the fact that the family was far from being perfect, before last week, the extent of the clear dysfunctionality in the family had never been so glaring. We have always wondered what pushed Abir into being the 'nomad' that he is. Why did he have to look for refuge elsewhere while there was an entire family of his blood relatives who seemed to care for him genuinely despite their shortcomings? After a week of bald-faced lies, ulterior motives and absolute selfishness, the answer has never been more obvious.

A mother that cares more about controlling her son and his life more than his happiness. A Grandparent that promised to be his father-figure, who clearly seems to have chosen his side and his priorities that do not involve his wishes or happiness especially when they contradict a certain daughter's wish. A brother who refuses to see past the box that his mother cleverly crafted to keep him closer to herself & way farther from the rest of the world, who chooses to remain blind to everything-feelings, and people that he either cannot or refuses to understand. An uncle who doesn't really have an existence separate from the sister that he worships. An aunt whose opinion has never and will never be sought. Another aunt that clearly prioritizes her own son's security and happiness over everything else. Someone so dependent on a certain relationship she calls friendship, that she has time and again refused to take a stand for truth despite knowing of it, desperate to cling to the leader-follower collusion between his mother and herself, a clear mockery of relationship called friendship. Let's not forget the newest addition to the dysfunctionality, his sister-in-law. The sister-in-law who tried (and continues to try) every last trick in the book to ensure he doesn't succeed in gaining the one thing he considers his biggest source of comfort. The sister that continues to try to sabotage his chances at winning the girl that has constantly been the source of his endless smiles and genuine happiness, a love he considers above everything else, a girl that comes above everyone else. A sister-in-law he considers an ally, a friend, unaware that the said sister doesn't understand the first thing about being someone's friend.

Not a single person in the family tried to understand the plight of a boy in search of his dad that had abandoned him at the innocent age of 5. Forced to forget and being discouraged to ask any questions, the boy grew up without any closure. Having to grow up seeing his mother continuously try and manipulate the situation to her advantage. Having to resist his mother's control and fight to hold on to the memories and especially learnings that were instilled in him by his father. Having to wait and pray every single day since he was 5 to get a glimpse of the man he still adored & loved as his father.

It was easy to see how the entire family treated the subject. A mere annoyance, an insignificant 'thing' that did not deserve their attention or response. The last nail in the coffin was them sending a desperate son with false hopes and promises, to search for his long lost father, a father he still clearly adores, towards a destination that would only crush his hopes and heart yet again especially on his birthday? Was it only me who saw the irony in them preparing for his big-day bash while they prayed for him to fail? Reducing him to actual tears on his birthday?! The one person in the entire family to always put a smile on everyone else's face - sobbing on his big day. How can they still call themselves his family when they have so failed him and continue to fail him colossally?

"Having a place to go – is a home. Having someone to love – is a family. Having both – is a blessing"
-Donna Hedges

Unfortunately, the Rajvansh house failed to be either of those for Abir. We all know who became his blessing. The girl that always manages to stop him, ground him, anchor him. While the same house tries their best to take it all away. It's true what they say, a family makes a man/woman. A true family guides, inspires and uplifts one to great heights while others only leave irreversible damage and immense pain in their wake.

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A/N: So I'm thinking the post doesn't come as a surprise to a lot of you. It was in fact long due but I've been patiently waiting to see how low the family stoops down to. It's safe to say, I've reached my threshold. Apart from Jugnu and maybe Ketki(does she even count, though?), no one in that house, they want Abir to call his home, have ever truly put him first or truly cared for his happiness the way he deserves to be, if it came in the way of their own selfish motives. Abir deserves so much better than being a 'Rajvansh'.

P.S As always, haven't proof-read. I usually lose patience as soon as I put down something. I will proof-read as soon as I am up for it. Until then, please forgive the mistakes, stray thoughts, and sentence structuring.

Perfectly written... Every one in that so called family call on Abir only when they need him... I absolutely loathed naanu when Abir came up to him and asked him to talk to BP and he said he would but then reminisced that only he should choose between Kunal and Mishti and even went all the way and told Abir that he will talk to BP and that Abir should talk to Kunal first... If BP hadn't called Abir directly naanu would definitely not have spoken to him...

Parul tho.. I don't even want to say anything Abt her... She says she loves Abir equally but never once has even tried to understand his pain..

Am fed up with this lot... Abir should have left home... They don't deserve him at all..

Add Baba in the list too

The way he behaved in the starting of the episode it was as if "chalo chalo isse pehle Abir papers padhe mein apni Safai de deta Hun" also in the end of the episode the way he says "Abir meri side hai n all" that was also selfish...kind of gave me feels that he wants to use Abir to prove his innocence

Why can't they solve their issues without involving Abir...like mature adults..ohh I guess thoda zyada maang Liya 👻

Originally posted by: Fauzi

Perfectly written... Every one in that so called family call on Abir only when they need him... I absolutely loathed naanu when Abir came up to him and asked him to talk to BP and he said he would but then reminisced that only he should choose between Kunal and Mishti and even went all the way and told Abir that he will talk to BP and that Abir should talk to Kunal first... If BP hadn't called Abir directly naanu would definitely not have spoken to him...

Parul tho.. I don't even want to say anything Abt her... She says she loves Abir equally but never once has even tried to understand his pain..

Am fed up with this lot... Abir should have left home... They don't deserve him at all..

I know right? I guess the post is more a rant than an analysis? I'm not even sure at this point because the Rajvansh family is such a bunch of morons that don't deserve a son as amazing and caring as Abir is.

I really don't get how any family could be as thankless and heartless as they are. They made the one boy who constantly tries to put a smile on everyone else's face in that family, cry like never before. I lost it when I saw Abir break down the way he did. I absolutely despise Naanu and Kunal who keep claming how much they love him but always let him down when he needs them to stand up for him.

I never believed for a second that Naanu would help Mishbir. That man has always been only talk and no walk. He never gave me a reason to believe he had the authority to make that kind of decisions anyway. He was his daughter's man through and through right from the very beginning. I've never respected that character at all. So it doesn't come as a surprise to me that he didn't come through for Abir when he needed him to.

Parul also as always prioritizes Kunal over everyone else. What did annoy me was the fact that in orde to protect her own son, she doesn't think twice about breaking another son's heart. But then again when the said son's own mother (in all terms) doesn't give a damn about his feelings or his heart why would another man's mother care?

It's Meenu and Kunal that are the main culprits to Abir's pain. Everyone else has played their part but Meenu and Kunal take most of the blame since it is these two that Abir expects more from.

Awesome post dear

And sooooooooooooo true, I really hate rv family for this

Galat koi bhi it doesn't matter, but why lie, pehle to hum soch bhi sakte the ki to not hurt abir by spoiling the perfect image of his baba he has in his mind, but of course it was not a reason as birthday ke din hi use sabse zyada dukh diya Sabne, how can they be so insensitive towards him

Kaam ho to abir dikhta hai sabko, but abir ke liye koi Stand nahi le sakta, of course he would find his home in mishti, kal ki aayi Hui ladki jisne abir ko uska ghar, sukoon Aur Uske hisse ka pyaar de diya

Geetha don't even get me started on this good for nothing spineless RV fam. You see I don't care if Baba was a criminal , a cheater or a fraud what I care is that every child has a right to get to know his father and than form an opinion. When Baba conveniently ran away he didn't realize that he was robbing Abir of his childhood. Added to this the way BB and co tried to handle Abir was wrong on so many levels , Kunal was introduced as a distraction in Abir's life so that in his big brother role Abir might abandon his quest of finding his father. I am still shocked that in such a toxic environment wirh pathological liars like Parul and BB and spineless character's like Nanu , Abir turned out to be the gem we all admire today. I loved how he admitted that he is aware that he might be wrong or his father could be wrong but the way Nanu and co have been treating him his whole life and the lies they continue to weave around him is not right either. It's not something normal families do because your family is suppose to be honest and upfront to you. Sending him on a wild goose chase knowingly was such a despicable thing I felt even more enraged because Nanu called Abir at the bus station and did some melodrama but still didn't tell him the truth and after misleading their own son knowing that he would be hurt they were all like lets prepare for his bday. They wanted to celebrate his faliure, tears and the victory of their lies I am glad Abir called out everyone for their hypocrisy. No wonder this boy considers Mish to be his home because that girl has always understood him she doesn't care about the mask he shows the world rather she knows about the boy underneath the mask and she accepts him with both his merits and demerits.

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Add Baba in the list too

The way he behaved in the starting of the episode it was as if "chalo chalo isse pehle Abir papers padhe mein apni Safai de deta Hun" also in the end of the episode the way he says "Abir meri side hai n all" that was also selfish...kind of gave me feels that he wants to use Abir to prove his innocence

Why can't they solve their issues without involving Abir...like mature adults..ohh I guess thoda zyada maang Liya 👻

Although I must admit, he really doesn't deserve forgiveness for leaving Abir either so basically he hasn't really earned the right to be his family. He only came into his life yesterday so I didn't include him on the list. However having said that, I am still not entirely convinced that he is evil. I still hope he isn't. I sincerely hope the makers don't turn the one man Abir has always been inspired from into someone selfish and manipulative like Meenu.

So unless he really gives me a reason to mistrust the person that he is, I won't put him on par with Rajvansh house yet. He's a very mysterious character so far. He can go either way and I'm crossing my fingers for him to go the right way, Abir's way. Abir deserves at least one of his parents to not be selfish or manipulative. I have given up on Meenu, I won't give up on Baba just yet.

But I do agree with you that he shouldn't threaten Meenu with Abir even though I kinda saw that scene more as him being confident about his relationship with his son. I might be wrong but right now, I choose to believe in Abir's baba like Abir. Mature adults is poore show mein sirf BP aur BM hain with Mishbir. I guess I have ranted enough about the others on my post. I'm gonna stop now😆

Loved reading it...

Whatever you have written about rv Sadan is so true

Will come back to read it again and the replies

Originally posted by: misaki

"Everyone needs a house to live in, but a supportive family is what builds a home."

-Anthony Liccione

A home is supposed to be a safe place where you least expect to be judged or betrayed, a source of endless encouragement, of comfort, of assurance, of backing and emotional strength.

The past week in the Rajvansh house has been the week for revelations, treachery, and heartaches. While we all were certainly aware of the fact that the family was far from being perfect, before last week, the extent of the clear dysfunctionality in the family had never been so glaring. We have always wondered what pushed Abir into being the 'nomad' that he is. Why did he have to look for refuge elsewhere while there was an entire family of his blood relatives who seemed to care for him genuinely despite their shortcomings? After a week of bald-faced lies, ulterior motives and absolute selfishness, the answer has never been more obvious.

A mother that cares more about controlling her son and his life more than his happiness. A Grandparent that promised to be his father-figure, who clearly seems to have chosen his side and his priorities that do not involve his wishes or happiness especially when they contradict a certain daughter's wish. A brother who refuses to see past the box that his mother cleverly crafted to keep him closer to herself & way farther from the rest of the world, who chooses to remain blind to everything-feelings, and people that he either cannot or refuses to understand. An uncle who doesn't really have an existence separate from the sister that he worships. An aunt whose opinion has never and will never be sought. Another aunt that clearly prioritizes her own son's security and happiness over everything else. Someone so dependent on a certain relationship she calls friendship, that she has time and again refused to take a stand for truth despite knowing of it, desperate to cling to the leader-follower collusion between his mother and herself, a clear mockery of relationship called friendship. Let's not forget the newest addition to the dysfunctionality, his sister-in-law. The sister-in-law who tried (and continues to try) every last trick in the book to ensure he doesn't succeed in gaining the one thing he considers his biggest source of comfort. The sister that continues to try to sabotage his chances at winning the girl that has constantly been the source of his endless smiles and genuine happiness, a love he considers above everything else, a girl that comes above everyone else. A sister-in-law he considers an ally, a friend, unaware that the said sister doesn't understand the first thing about being someone's friend.

Not a single person in the family tried to understand the plight of a boy in search of his dad that had abandoned him at the innocent age of 5. Forced to forget and being discouraged to ask any questions, the boy grew up without any closure. Having to grow up seeing his mother continuously try and manipulate the situation to her advantage. Having to resist his mother's control and fight to hold on to the memories and especially learnings that were instilled in him by his father. Having to wait and pray every single day since he was 5 to get a glimpse of the man he still adored & loved as his father.

It was easy to see how the entire family treated the subject. A mere annoyance, an insignificant 'thing' that did not deserve their attention or response. The last nail in the coffin was them sending a desperate son with false hopes and promises, to search for his long lost father, a father he still clearly adores, towards a destination that would only crush his hopes and heart yet again especially on his birthday? Was it only me who saw the irony in them preparing for his big-day bash while they prayed for him to fail? Reducing him to actual tears on his birthday?! The one person in the entire family to always put a smile on everyone else's face - sobbing on his big day. How can they still call themselves his family when they have so failed him and continue to fail him colossally?

"Having a place to go – is a home. Having someone to love – is a family. Having both – is a blessing"
-Donna Hedges

Unfortunately, the Rajvansh house failed to be either of those for Abir. We all know who became his blessing. The girl that always manages to stop him, ground him, anchor him. While the same house tries their best to take it all away. It's true what they say, a family makes a man/woman. A true family guides, inspires and uplifts one to great heights while others only leave irreversible damage and immense pain in their wake.

~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-~-

A/N: So I'm thinking the post doesn't come as a surprise to a lot of you. It was in fact long due but I've been patiently waiting to see how low the family stoops down to. It's safe to say, I've reached my threshold. Apart from Jugnu and maybe Ketki(does she even count, though?), no one in that house, they want Abir to call his home, have ever truly put him first or truly cared for his happiness the way he deserves to be, if it came in the way of their own selfish motives. Abir deserves so much better than being a 'Rajvansh'.

P.S As always, haven't proof-read. I usually lose patience as soon as I put down something. I will proof-read as soon as I am up for it. Until then, please forgive the mistakes, stray thoughts, and sentence structuring.

Originally posted by: Onyourface

Add Baba in the list too

The way he behaved in the starting of the episode it was as if "chalo chalo isse pehle Abir papers padhe mein apni Safai de deta Hun" also in the end of the episode the way he says "Abir meri side hai n all" that was also selfish...kind of gave me feels that he wants to use Abir to prove his innocence

Why can't they solve their issues without involving Abir...like mature adults..ohh I guess thoda zyada maang Liya 👻