Why be mad at Armaan? He is absolutely correct - Page 3

Your perspective is on point. That is how any normal person would behave. But, I think, when it comes to the show, if Abhira stays away from these issues, there won't be any high voltage drama which they want to show.

Originally posted by: Aashiqanafan

Agree with you eventually they will end up hating these dialogues but as of now Abhira is the one of has started to feel some hurt and Armaan has not much impact. Though I feel like in initial days after marriage it was Armaan who was not fond of this deal and it was Abhira's initiative to start the deal and say such dialogues.

Abhira needs to get attached to armaan & the family to get hurt when soulmates secret is out. Also, abhira has no one now as family, so it is natural if she gets attached to poddars. This is the first time she is seeing the vulnerable side of poddars which she can connect to because of her loss.

I believe these scenes will be used as fb once she gets to know the truth.

That was the same thing being proposed to Akshara by Armaan. And she might not have known Armaan for long personally, but she had seen his family, and also he was a popular lawyer, that's how it happens in arrange marriages also.

And if a guy comes all the way leaving his brother's wedding to safeguard his teacher and daughter, also helping them in getting Yuvraj inside jail, then clearly that person is good in nature.

Not saying it's the most appropriate thing to do, but as a mother what she thought was the best for her daughter at that point of time, she tried to do. It's easy as a viewer to judge every action of a character, and nothing bad in it, since the show is written to viewers, but some not so ideal situations also demand not so ideal solutions.

Originally posted by: fantasyshowfan

A slightly different perspective. It is Armaan who is sacrificing by being in this unwanted relationship. Abhira is still getting something out of it - safety and security. Armaan gets nothing - not even the time to mourn his lost love (it was love for him and he is not looking for Ema as shown in the show). He could have simply walked away saying no to Akshara but he did not. Akshara saved his life but he got into this whole mess also because he cared to help them. We don't blame Abhira for this because she is not responsible for Yuvraj's abducting her then how can we blame Armaan for Akshara's death when clearly Yuvraj is the culprit.

By Abhira's own admission, she is not his wife and by extension she is not his family.I absolutely hated Abhira interfering between Armaan and Rohit - I would hate it if I fought with my sister or best friend and my husband fought with them on my behalf, however well-meaning he might be and I would similarly respect his relationships and not pitch in unless asked. That whole drama was followed by Rohit leaving the family - which is a big thing. How was th

e family and Armaan wrong in lashing out at Abhira (esp since they know nothing about Armaan and Ruhi)? Every angry word is not abuse. And we should not use these words so lightly.

I love Abhira's cuteness (and I loved Abhinav earlier) but I absolutely hate all fls on itv who are busybodies going around telling the world how everyone should behave. As if they have a copyright on morality - and they justify and stick to their self righteousness even when asked to stay away. Why can't Abhira stick to her room and focus on studying, treat this home as a safe house? I understand her loss and loneliness as well as her need to have someone by her side in her extreme grief. But logically she has a higher chance of getting that support from Armaan as long as she does not intrude and pick fights with his family. And she can slowly build friendships in his family without all this drama - younger cousins anyways like her enough.

Initially maybe Armaan did a self less act due to misplaced guilt of Akshara taking bullet for him. So he thinks he owes her his life the way same way he thinks he owes gratitude and is indebted to Vidya for accepting him, loving him and raising him like a son. Again misplaced guilt. The same way he feels he owe Ruhi his loyalty after kind of pushing her into a marriage with Rohit. Do you see a pattern here. Misplaced sense of guilt in every scenario.

I absolutely hate all fls on itv who are busybodies going around telling the world how everyone should behave. As if they have a copyright on morality - and they justify and stick to their self righteousness even when asked to stay away.

I agree. I also detest this ITV super mahan bahu trope all FLs goes through. Although Abhira was wrong to speak between brothers but she has never stayed with a family or sibling. When you live in a nuclear family you are so used to voicing your opinion and standing up against unfairness and up for truth. She doesn't know the filter to process she doesn't need to stand up for Armaan. She saw Rohit was being unfair to Armaan the elders were not reprimanding him nor standing up for Truth in that case Armaan getting slapped by his brother. In her eyes she was not meddling but standing upto injustice being done to Armaan. Armaan has asked her to stay away from Ruhi so Abhira has stuck to that or stay in the room for Christmas she stuck too that too. She is not imposing on them.

Originally posted by: Shubh23

That was the same thing being proposed to Akshara by Armaan. And she might not have known Armaan for long personally, but she had seen his family, and also he was a popular lawyer, that's how it happens in arrange marriages also.

And if a guy comes all the way leaving his brother's wedding to safeguard his teacher and daughter, also helping them in getting Yuvraj inside jail, then clearly that person is good in nature.

Not saying it's the most appropriate thing to do, but as a mother what she thought was the best for her daughter at that point of time, she tried to do. It's easy as a viewer to judge every action of a character, and nothing bad in it, since the show is written to viewers, but some not so ideal situations also demand not so ideal solutions.

Akshara never took marriage seriously so she thought same for her daughter. She married Abhinav for Abhir and was ready to marry Abhimanyu for Abhir and Abhira..so I am not surprised she asked Armaan to marry her daughter because for her love was not required for getting married.. poddars are powerful and Armaan as a human being was wonderful and that was enough for her daughter's protection from Yuvraj..

But why hasn't phuphasa informed yuvraj about Abhira I wonder...

Originally posted by: fantasyshowfan

A slightly different perspective. It is Armaan who is sacrificing by being in this unwanted relationship. Abhira is still getting something out of it - safety and security. Armaan gets nothing - not even the time to mourn his lost love (it was love for him and he is not looking for Ema as shown in the show). He could have simply walked away saying no to Akshara but he did not. Akshara saved his life but he got into this whole mess also because he cared to help them. We don't blame Abhira for this because she is not responsible for Yuvraj's abducting her then how can we blame Armaan for Akshara's death when clearly Yuvraj is the culprit.

By Abhira's own admission, she is not his wife and by extension she is not his family.I absolutely hated Abhira interfering between Armaan and Rohit - I would hate it if I fought with my sister or best friend and my husband fought with them on my behalf, however well-meaning he might be and I would similarly respect his relationships and not pitch in unless asked. That whole drama was followed by Rohit leaving the family - which is a big thing. How was th

e family and Armaan wrong in lashing out at Abhira (esp since they know nothing about Armaan and Ruhi)? Every angry word is not abuse. And we should not use these words so lightly.

I love Abhira's cuteness (and I loved Abhinav earlier) but I absolutely hate all fls on itv who are busybodies going around telling the world how everyone should behave. As if they have a copyright on morality - and they justify and stick to their self righteousness even when asked to stay away. Why can't Abhira stick to her room and focus on studying, treat this home as a safe house? I understand her loss and loneliness as well as her need to have someone by her side in her extreme grief. But logically she has a higher chance of getting that support from Armaan as long as she does not intrude and pick fights with his family. And she can slowly build friendships in his family without all this drama - younger cousins anyways like her enough.

When Armaan accepted the marriage his guilt played into it but I feel he too wanted to protect Abhira based on the threat from Yuvraaj. And one has to have immense kindness to take that step (guilt or no guilt).The scene where he was getting ready for marriage was done too good. The acting was also spot on. Some people feel that Armaan's acting is not on the mark but I feel most of the times he does good acting and some scenes (marriage and immediate aftermath of the marriage) he did superb.

But I am of the belief that though it was the biggest favor that anyone could do to Abhira, it does not give Armaan the right to shout at her at every opportunity . After Ruhi's accident his anger was expected but over the top. And the height of his misbhaviour was after Rohit's disappearance. I too absolutely did not like her interfering between the brothers (but since she is a ITV FL she will made to do all these ). But everyone heard what she said and her words no where gives any hint that Rohit will take the step of leaving the house because of that. Manisha just started the drama without hearing properly whatever Aryan was saying. But still I understand the anger of the family members but Armaan's allegations have no justification when he knew that it was him that Rohit was angry in the first place and unless you are super stupid, you should suspect that your ema should be the most probable cause for triggering Rohit who is otherwise so calm and loving.

Husbands getting angry at wife is normal but shouting at her in front of loads of people based on just hearsay can not be accepted.

Originally posted by: Randomlurker

From the precap, I don't get the feel that Armaan is a little upset. I just feel he's just taken aback or feels a bit bad because he said to Abhira that she isn't his family, and she said she's only here for one year. I feel abhira feel little bit upset but I don't get that vibe from armaan hearing one year contract.

Your DP Is it Viru, the original vada boy

This deal marriage , staying for one Yr oe until studies finish all the type of stepping stones of a relationship on ITV

Deal marriage , hate marriage , promise and deal marriage , the The farz marriage all very popular marriages of leads normal marriages only happen with other characters

Originally posted by: Rosh4rose

Your DP Is it Viru, the original vada boy

This deal marriage , staying for one Yr oe until studies finish all the type of stepping stones of a relationship on ITV

Deal marriage , hate marriage , promise and deal marriage , the The farz marriage all very popular marriages of leads normal marriages only happen with other characters

Agreed that Armaan should not shout at Abhira in public (or even in private) and there are many graceful and mature ways to voice your displeasure. But if we give that leeway to Abhira that she is itv fl and hence will meddle, we should offer that to Armaan as well that he is itv ml and hence will be clueless most of the times and will shout at fl in public occasionally 😄. But considering only the in universe situation - I agree his reaction was ott but his brother was missing ( and he didn't know if he would come back) and he believed (or wanted to believe) in his own innocence and hence blamed only Abhira. I know he gets a lot of flak for Ema but I think there is no Ema or even intention of Ema from his side and that is why this thought does not occur to him that he could be the reason Rohit left. He does not know inner workings of Ruhi's mind and his moping is just disappointment / sadness of losing his first love and leftover affection. If I am proven wrong, I would happily stop watching the show as he would disgust me - I can accept mistakes but not willfull cheating and I need to have a basic goodwill for lead characters to watch any show.

We viewers are desensitised with people missing or dying in shows. But, in universe, a child of the house missing is a huge deal esp when no one knows where that person is and if he would come back. In fact, I empathized with Goenkas as well when they broke ties with Akshara after she accidentally killed Arohi - killing someone even if by mistake is irreversible and they lost Arohi forever; not many parents would be able to forgive one kid for killing another even if it's an accident.