Intersting conversation, I'm a Gen3 viewer but have gone back to Gen2 episodes to the Goenka siblings, to try and understand what was exactly the problem, Alas I realised Gen 2 legacy that stayed was all a whole problem. Akshara and Kairav are both pretense to a large extent, however Legacy Bhaiya knows some reality, perhaps has had more parental guidance. Akshara is the pure middle child of family, add to it not been paid attention to with everything else going on. So the Kaira kids in gratitude start playing parents to Aarohi, mind us not one of these kids know what to expect or look upto from parents, when to reach out, what to share. Nothing. So Kairav looks for care-concern-support , Akshara looks for attention/ acknowledgement to her actions (not limelight) and Aarohi limelight,she's the kid you can lie I'm giving you best lollipop to and would keep quiet
Also these kids don't get this almost ever. Credits Salsa Couple Ghoomar specialist Goenkas in retirement mode running an orphanage,if I may say so. Closest semblance of couple kids see is Manish-Swarna . They are old school Manish is levelheaded chauvinist to a large extent,still controlled by his mother, Swarna is I don't know how to say it , yes Manish ji please Manish ji has nothing more to offer than glamour in his life. I'm not talking about Gen2 purely base for Gen 3. In addition to this Kairav has seen/ experienced Kaira relationship, Akshara knows Kaira story just like any other fairytale and Doll is self consumed to make it her puppet land to understand anything but limelight.
Make this an extravaganza with grown-up Goenka siblings with Sirat death fiasco - blames , all kids expectations were toppled, they just don't get what they want. Kairav immerses himself in responsibility/ art , Akshara runs away to play hide and seek, Aarohi fights for everyone to give her limelight
Abhimanyu is a child with emotional quotient, extremes but also very visual medium of learning, looks at things black and white, evidence based actions. His idea of relationships is broken but he believes in love, his mother has had unconditional love for her husband and her son, he has immense respect and gratitude for the life his mother has lived for him, according to him. But he lacks being the centre of someones life so his expression of love is to literally center everything around them. I will admit his love is overwhelming to watch, to receive would be burdening because you can just never return enough. That's the truth.
His black and white was struck with soul connection to his soulmate Akshara. Somehow Abhimanyu intentionally unintentionally but definitely with his love and attention makes Akshara a better version of herself, with his love.
She was not shown to be doing this with Abhimanyu, however she understood that Abhi craves the attention too and started to give him the same.
Lightining strikes again to create havoc this time. Let's go back to what they saw in relationships and what broke.
Abhimanyu wanted Akshara so he can love her to no extent while he expected her to make him priority. The day he felt he can now no longer withhold for the both of them he let her go
Akshara on the other hand was becoming someone who can lover herself and prioritise what is rightfully hers, broke half developed.
Again' she doesn't understand any relationship expectations completely, she doesn't know what she wants. This is a harmful state and suddenly she became responsible for a baby by herself.
She does indeed take wreck less decisions by going with the flow , ofcourse because she has no strong choices.
This is my reasoning for why she found someone who gave her attention to be responsible for her. I can fathom no other reasons she rubs on so much of financial emotional responsibilities on her current pati ji despite Abhir actually being her son , does she have gratitude yes she does but more importantly she has least understanding of expectations. I will also conclude that she is a self proclaimed empath and selfless person, her actions are otherwise
What to say about Pati ji, he's equally as stupid as her, he's an orphan or introduced so , self proclaimed good man in not indeed so. Just as other half. If you get a cow on road that looks hurt and is about to give birth, yes please by all means help. The the cow gives you milk, calf, status ( moh maya ) maybe licks you affectionately indicating make me yours , you don't make it yours . Let alone let mohini dance on your head. Anyways the day he put label as his , good deeds cancelled out everything later is begged borrowed stolen presented . But is all inappropriate. A good man will try to find out truth of how the cow was hurt what is best for calf then even rationalize labelling
He as an orphan has seen no relationships , at Max Neela and Muskaan are his extent who have their own burdens in life. Making ends meet doesn't let one hold too many emotional requirements or perhaps what they want to show with hadh mein rehne wala middle class man .
Family is sense of belongingness and procreation if anything.
Mix these two messed up no sense of relationship experts, you get Kasauli Couple. My my i wonder how people don't see the manipulation Gaslighting this couple does to eachother, the relationship is not convenience it's requirement of habit and cohabitation
Poor Abhir is paying price for all the adults toxic upbringing, congratulations to him he's entering his toxic phase , all thanks to his mumma, unfortunately I won't blame anyone else here because it was her concious decisions that have lef them all here
Hoping DKP makes her an adult first, then a mother. Desperate need for redemption
Apologies in advance if anyone is hurt with opinions. AbhiRa FD has had endless suffering and are definitely all toxic by now.
CID
Anupamaa
Iss Pyaar Ko Kya Naam Doon
128