Dysfunctional family dynamics

Akshara and Arohi were nemesis since childhood, they never lived like siblings. Siblings fight all the time but they don't hate each other like Arohi and Akshara did for years, siblings do feel insecure but their insecurity is not validated by their parents/guardians

Ruhi and Abhir are paying for this dysfunctional family dynamics which is not allowing anyone to think that there can be 2 kids in one house.

Abhimanyu on the other hand had good relationship with all his brothers and sisters, Neil was like a son to him and Neil's daughter is like daughter to him, so he can imagine Ruhi and Abhir living together like Neil and he did

If Ruhi is insecure of Abhir, Arohi shouldn't use that insecurity to separate Abhir from Abhimanyu. Arohi grew up hating Akshara and she is making sure, Ruhi does the same because she won't accept Abhir in Abhimanyu's life

Abhimanyu went for Ruhi's PTM over attending lawyer's meeting for Abhir's custody and Abhimanyu is ignoring Ruhi 🤦‍♀️

I'd never understand this narrative

Yeah, I agree, but it's more complicated than that.

Ak, Arohi issues were because of the Naira, Seerat issue. Arohi was always insecure and wanted to be the only one that mattered. Even when Ak herself treated her like a princess, she was not satisfied with any attention given to Ak. The Goenka should have resolved this but they didn't and Ak bore the brunt of it. If either Ak or Arohi's parents had survived they would have resolved these issues. Giving the kids the proper love and attention they need.

Abhi-Neil situation was very different. Abhi brought Neil into the house and treated him like his own child. Tried to shield him from PB etc. But at the end of the day Neil had no issues with Abhi because he considered him a father figure, and Abhi had no insecurities because he was the only child of Manjari and her only priority. The issues between them started when Neil realized that he is also a Birla and he has been treated unjustly. Then you do start to see all of the insecurity and issues that Arohi had. Arohi also influenced Neil at that point, and we all know how that ended.

In short, both families have had dysfunctional sibling relationships. There really isn't much of a role model. Even btw, Parth and Abhi, the issues remain where Parth is constantly compared to Abhi.

Originally posted by: lagjagale

Yeah, I agree, but it's more complicated than that.

Ak, Arohi issues were because of the Naira, Seerat issue. Arohi was always insecure and wanted to be the only one that mattered. Even when Ak herself treated her like a princess, she was not satisfied with any attention given to Ak. The Goenka should have resolved this but they didn't and Ak bore the brunt of it. If either Ak or Arohi's parents had survived they would have resolved these issues. Giving the kids the proper love and attention they need.

Abhi-Neil situation was very different. Abhi brought Neil into the house and treated him like his own child. Tried to shield him from PB etc. But at the end of the day Neil had no issues with Abhi because he considered him a father figure, and Abhi had no insecurities because he was the only child of Manjari and her only priority. The issues between them started when Neil realized that he is also a Birla and he has been treated unjustly. Then you do start to see all of the insecurity and issues that Arohi had. Arohi also influenced Neil at that point, and we all know how that ended.

In short, both families have had dysfunctional sibling relationships. There really isn't much of a role model. Even btw, Parth and Abhi, the issues remain where Parth is constantly compared to Abhi.

Arohi's issues were because family validated her issues so did Akshara out of guilt or trauma and they are doing this to Ruhi now, instead of explaining things to Ruhi, everyone is asking Abhimanyu to let go of Abhir, would they do the same if it was Arohi and Abhimanyu's child? Would Arohi abort because Ruhi can't share her family? Wouldn't they try to explain it to her?

It is serving their purpose and the only one in pain would be Abhimanyu so none cares about it. He has to fulfill the promise made to his dying brother

Being selfish is one thing, ruining lives is another

We expect a 6 yr old to understand everything but grown ass adults must have their way ? He should have thot abt it when ruhi asked him to marry arohi. He gave in to all her demands but marriage is not a joke , n yet he went ahead blindly..now he is thinking to discipline ruhi when her demand clashed with his wish?😆 It never works that way

Yes there can be 2 kids in the same house but when arohi is not ready to accept abhir what can abhim do? It's her choice n she is entitled to it. He has the choice to have abhir and let go of ruhi.

The truth is that abhim didn't give 1% thought to arohi , ruhi and promises he made to both of them , from the time he learnt abt abhir. He was acting shocked when ruhi showed her insecurity in camp . What sort of a father / poopy is he to not know what his child is going through?

Abhir and ruhi spent hardly a few hours together and we expect them to have a normal sibling relationship? Arohi and akshu were brought up together and bec of sirats death, arohi held a grudge against akshara. Neil and abhim shared a loving relation bec Neil was treated like an orphan in the house but manjari and abhim treated him well..the three can't be compared ..

Originally posted by: Krinya

We expect a 6 yr old to understand everything but grown ass adults must have their way ? He should have thot abt it when ruhi asked him to marry arohi. He gave in to all her demands but marriage is not a joke , n yet he went ahead blindly..now he is thinking to discipline ruhi when her demand clashed with his wish?😆 It never works that way

Yes there can be 2 kids in the same house but when arohi is not ready to accept abhir what can abhim do? It's her choice n she is entitled to it. He has the choice to have abhir and let go of ruhi.

The truth is that abhim didn't give 1% thought to arohi , ruhi and promises he made to both of them , from the time he learnt abt abhir. He was acting shocked when ruhi showed her insecurity in camp . What sort of a father / poopy is he to not know what his child is going through?

Abhir and ruhi spent hardly a few hours together and we expect them to have a normal sibling relationship? Arohi and akshu were brought up together and bec of sirats death, arohi held a grudge against akshara. Neil and abhim shared a loving relation bec Neil was treated like an orphan in the house but manjari and abhim treated him well..the three can't be compared ..

@Bold

Yes. Kids can't dictate adult life. You don't say that you won't have another child because your daughter will be insecure, you make her understand that she is going to have siblings.

Kids want thousands of things from not going to school to doing every wrong thing, since when a 6 year old's demands are more important than an adult's life?

Grown a$$ adult should have his way because it is about HIS life, he is being forced to let go of his son because Ruhi can't share her poppy

People are not parents since day 1, parenting is something they learn as it progresses, they make mistakes and correct it, like Abhimanyu is doing, trying to talk to Ruhi, trying to explain things to her

Abhir is a new chapter in Abhimanyu's life, Abhimanyu hasn't ignored Ruhi, didn't forget about Ruhi, he literally chose Ruhi's PTM over lawyer's meeting, how much more can he prioritise her? 🤦‍♀️

Basically, everyone is expecting him to let go of his son to fulfill his promises made to Ruhi instead of saying that Arohi shouldn't encourage Ruhi's insecurities. So Ruhi's insecurity is absolutely right because the ultimate result is in Akshara and Arohi's favour 😆

A father leaving his son because his daughter is insecure 🤷‍♀️ Make it make sense

We are expecting logic from that show where fl the legacy kid is justifying her marriage saying abhir ko papa chahiye tha abhir tog janam lethe hi akshu ke liye decision lene lag gaya without his knowledge 😆

Where as her justification should be mujhe abhinav pasand tha ya phir mujhe abhinav ke saath zindagi guzaarni thi. Mujhe abhimanyu ko apne dimaag se bahar fekna tha.

The first question she asked after giving birth to abhir was kya aap mere bacche ke papa banenge 😆

What are we expecting from such pathetic show. The only difference i see between abhir and roohi is this.

Roohi verbally karwa rahi hai but abhir unknowingly uske maa se karwa raha hai where as he never asked or wished for her to do it. She has kept a different version of abhir in her mind.

Like how arohi gives justification maine sab bacche ke liye kiya hai akshu gives justification too.

Below is one of the wierdest justification a mother can give.

We did not had SR because abhir fell ill.what was she doing all these 6 years and 1 day kid fell ill and she is telling everyone that he is the cause of not moving on.

And akshu subconsciously staying with nav because abhir loves nav. Abhir can't live without nav.Abhir ko raath main nav ke bina neend nahi ayegi.

Arohi and akshara both made their kids dependent on some one who was really not needed in their life. Now both are stuck and they both had a choice to avoid but they let it happen.

And i agree. They both are irritating and illogical with their words. Abhi can have both the kids. They are acting as if abhi is getting married to akshu and arohi. 😵‍💫

Originally posted by: NoraSM

@Bold

Grown a$$ adult should have his way because it is about HIS life, he is being forced to let go of his son because Ruhi can't share her poppy

😆

A father leaving his son because his daughter is insecure 🤷‍♀️ Make it make sense

He is being forced ? Lol 😆 nobody is forcing him. He will have to choose 1 and he can choose abhir who's stopping him ? He anyways can't do justice justice both abhir and ruhi and arohi so it's an easy way out of this complication. Aise bhi mummy ne keh diya hai arohi ko ke abhir will come to bh, tum dekh lo. How easily she picked abhir. Why can't abhim do it ?

If he wants ruhi , he will have to marry arohi and then arohi will also have a say in abhirs matter since it's her life too.

A father leaving his son not bec his daughter is Insecure bec he promised to be her poopy. He always went by her whims so she is doing what she is used to. If ruhi agrees arohi won't so abhim won't have his way. This is not normal sibling thing . There will be step relations forced to share a space ... and it's wise on arohis part to not let history repeat itself ..it will be arohi akshu repeat , nobody will be happy.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

We are expecting logic from that show where fl the legacy kid is justifying her marriage saying abhir ko papa chahiye tha abhir tog janam lethe hi akshu ke liye decision lene lag gaya without his knowledge 😆

Where as her justification should be mujhe abhinav pasand tha ya phir mujhe abhinav ke saath zindagi guzaarni thi. Mujhe abhimanyu ko apne dimaag se bahar fekna tha.

The first question she asked after giving birth to abhir was kya aap mere bacche ke papa banenge 😆

What are we expecting from such pathetic show. The only difference i see between abhir and roohi is this.

Roohi verbally karwa rahi hai but abhir unknowingly uske maa se karwa raha hai where as he never asked or wished for her to do it. She has kept a different version of abhir in her mind.

Like how arohi gives justification maine sab bacche ke liye kiya hai akshu gives justification too.

Below is one of the wierdest justification a mother can give.

We did not had SR because abhir fell ill.what was she doing all these 6 years and 1 day kid fell ill and she is telling everyone that he is the cause of not moving on.

And akshu subconsciously staying with nav because abhir loves nav. Abhir can't live without nav.Abhir ko raath main nav ke bina neend nahi ayegi.

Arohi and akshara both made their kids dependent on some one who was really not needed in their life. Now both are stuck and they both had a choice to avoid but they let it happen.

And i agree. They both are irritating and illogical with their words. Abhi can have both the kids. They are acting as if abhi is getting married to akshu and arohi. 😵‍💫

I make it a point to not talk about Abhinav and Akshara as I don't want to be attacked or called names for being against Acha Admi

One can see that Arohi didn't say that Ruhi won't accept Abhir, she said that she won't accept Abhir, she wasn't happy when Abhimanyu was trying to talk some sense into Ruhi, she is just using Ruhi for her gain.

Originally posted by: Krinya

He is being forced ? Lol 😆 nobody is forcing him. He will have to choose 1 and he can choose abhir who's stopping him ? He anyways can't do justice justice both abhir and ruhi and arohi so it's an easy way out of this complication. Aise bhi mummy ne keh diya hai arohi ko ke abhir will come to bh, tum dekh lo. How easily she picked abhir. Why can't abhim do it ?

If he wants ruhi , he will have to marry arohi and then arohi will also have a say in abhirs matter since it's her life too.

A father leaving his son not bec his daughter is Insecure bec he promised to be her poopy. He always went by her whims so she is doing what she is used to. If ruhi agrees arohi won't so abhim won't have his way. This is not normal sibling thing . There will be step relations forced to share a space ... and it's wise on arohis part to not let history repeat itself ..it will be arohi akshu repeat , nobody will be happy.

They are forcing him to choose one between Ruhi and Abhir, using Ruhi's insecurity for their personal gains. If it was about Ruhi's happiness, I would understand it but here, it is more about Arohi's insecurity regarding Akshara than Ruhi's insecurity with Abhir because kids fight and get back together in 2 hours, it doesn't take a lot to change their minds

None would let go of one child for another and none should be forced to do it.

Abhimanyu has to correct many things, first being breaking this engagement because there's no point keeping Arohi and himself in a loveless marriage for a 6 year's old

Originally posted by: NoraSM

I make it a point to not talk about Abhinav and Akshara as I don't want to be attacked or called names for being against Acha Admi

One can see that Arohi didn't say that Ruhi won't accept Abhir, she said that she won't accept Abhir, she wasn't happy when Abhimanyu was trying to talk some sense into Ruhi, she is just using Ruhi for her gain.

Yes true, as a mother she could have tried telling roohi to accept abhir. When abhimanyu can accept a child which is not bilogically related to him. Arohi also had an option to accept abhir who is not biologically related to her.

She herself knows her husband whom she claimed as she loved him was also a step son of manjari and irrespective of what manjari did she loved neil. Even she has a example of sirath loving kairav too. But here both sisters want to ignore those examples and pretend as if they are blind to the world. And think abhi is not a good dad and he will ignore roohi for abhir and she Don't want to accept abhir not for roohi but because if accepts abhir she will be called as second wife in his life. As first wife ka son is standing infront of her and the guy whom she is marrying still loves his ex which she want to ignore and accept this marriage.