Manjari - My pov

May be unpopular opinion .i have not seen this scene completely. If manjari has only done this much i don't see anything wrong in it.

I am using my cats as an example as i consider them as my kids. I have lot of cats. And i also feed some other cats which are not ours they are outsider. I started feeding them out of courtesy and even loved them equally but slowly the cat started scaring our cats. They started picking up a fight and hurting my kittens. Now my choice is to choose between outside cats and my cats. Obviously i will go for my cats. As they will have higher preference and slowly i started feeding them less and started splashing water so that they can find another source of food and place to stay and start relocating from my place so that my cats are safe.

Here manjari is also feel threatened as she feel her family may break apart. She has to choose between her family and abhir. It's difficult and manjari did the same thing which any other person would do. She is feeling guilty of doing it but she don't have any other choice.

https://twitter.com/naima_shen/status/1654029991330414592

Ignore if you disagree. But this i felt from my own experience so i don't see anything wrong here. She is just trying to maintain distance from abhir so that he don't influence her decision and she can ensure that her son moves on and stays happy.

I am posting it here to know if any one feels the same.

Since most of the posts calling out this action i wanted to make this post.

Well said diya 👏

Manjari doesn't hate Abhir she always feels some connection with him. But here she is worried about her family i.e Ruhi, Abhimanyu and Arohi. So obviously she will give priority to her family first.

And yeah all are having their own POV. But I agree with your post. 😊

Originally posted by: Bhavisweet03

Well said diya 👏

Manjari doesn't hate Abhir she always feels some connection with him. But here she is worried about her family i.e Ruhi, Abhimanyu and Arohi. So obviously she will give priority to her family first.

And yeah all are having their own POV. But I agree with your post. 😊

Chote bhai ke biwi-bacche ko bade bhai ke sath settle karne ka manjri ka zidd he bahot galat hai jab pata ho ko bade bhai ko chote bhai ki biwi mai koi interest nahi hai.

Mere 32 saal ke jethji 2 saal pehle covid mai chal base , unka ek 3 saal ka beta hai and now taiji apni bahu ki dusri shaddi ke liye suitable candidate search karne mai busy hai kyunki woh chahti hai ki bhabhi and unka beta fir se apna life start kare. Bhabhi is also ready.

Yaha toh manjari itni selfish hai ki aarohi and Ruhi ke liye aisa sochegi bhi nahi except bada bhai as groom.

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Chote bhai ke biwi-bacche ko bade bhai ke sath settle karne ka manjri ka zidd he bahot galat hai jab pata ho ko bade bhai ko chote bhai ki biwi mai koi interest nahi hai.

Mere 32 saal ke jethji 2 saal pehle covid mai chal base , unka ek 3 saal ka beta hai and now taiji apni bahu ki dusri shaddi ke liye suitable candidate search karne mai busy hai kyunki woh chahti hai ki bhabhi and unka beta fir se apna life start kare. Bhabhi is also ready.

Yaha toh manjari itni selfish hai ki aarohi and Ruhi ke liye aisa sochegi bhi nahi except bada bhai as groom.

I agree but she knows akshu apne zindagi main aage bad chuki hai and abhi roohi se pyaar kartha hai. Roohi ke bina uska dil nahi lagtha aur woh anxiety pills bhi letha hai. Pichli baar jab akshu gayi thi woh soya nahi tha theek se ek saal. Iss bar bhi waisa hi situation ho aur abhi roohi ke wajah se zinda ho.

Isiliye roohi ka vaastha dekar hi shadi karwayi ja rahi hai.currently she is only considering abhi's happiness which is in roohi.

Woh selfish hai apne bete ke kushi ke liye. Woh kuch bhi kar sakthi hai abhi ke liye main usse support nahi karthi.pagal bhi. But mujhe is scene main kuch galath nahi laga kyunki abhir uska pota hai ye usse patha nahi hai.

Usko patha hai abhir ke wajah se roohi dukhi hai toh woh thoda rude behave kar rahi hai thaki abhir uske wajah se hi distance maintain kar sake.

She could have urged her son to focus on his priorities and avoid contact with his ex's child; however, making another child feel less wanted or making it appear that his existence is the source of the problem is not an appropriate way to resolve difficulties between her family members .

Abhir did not in any way harm Roohi; it was AbhM who did so; why should she condemn Abhir for that?

Even if you use the cat instance, those cats harmed yours; in this case, Abhir did nothing; it was AbhM's erratic behaviour that caused problems, so realistically she should go & penalise him.

Tell your 40+ year old child to maintain distance from Abhir ; why involve an innocent child in this?

Originally posted by: sweet_tania

Chote bhai ke biwi-bacche ko bade bhai ke sath settle karne ka manjri ka zidd he bahot galat hai jab pata ho ko bade bhai ko chote bhai ki biwi mai koi interest nahi hai.

Mere 32 saal ke jethji 2 saal pehle covid mai chal base , unka ek 3 saal ka beta hai and now taiji apni bahu ki dusri shaddi ke liye suitable candidate search karne mai busy hai kyunki woh chahti hai ki bhabhi and unka beta fir se apna life start kare. Bhabhi is also ready.

Yaha toh manjari itni selfish hai ki aarohi and Ruhi ke liye aisa sochegi bhi nahi except bada bhai as groom.

Ye karne k liye bahot bada Dil chahiye .!! My best wishes with your family 💞.

Log samajhte h ki aisi situation me sahi kya hai , lekin apni Bahu k liye aisa sochna n karna bahot himmat ka kam hai , aur jab sath me bacha bhi involved ho .kyuki dusri shadi k baad bacha bhi usk new father ki family ka hissa hoga aur log apne pote/ poti ko , apne khoon ko dur ni bhejna chahte .

Manjari ka bhi yahi scene hai . Jab arohi abort karwana chahti thi .

Tab mahima shefali infact Mimi ne bhi kaha ki akele life guzarna mushkil h , akele bacha palna mushkil h . But manjari was like main hu na .. sab ho jayega . Main palungi n all . She did not thought about arohi ki wo ready ni h is responsible k liye . Infact jab dusri shadi ki baat ayi tab bhi manjari was reluctant . It's very obvious ki manjari ni chahti h ki arohi shadi kark ruhi ko kisi aur family me le jaye .

To isiliye abhimanyu se shadi karwa k ghar me rakhna chahti h dono ko . Aur Rahi bat abhimanyu ki to she knows abhi never loved arohi isiliye humesha ruhi ka vasta deti h .. that is also a kid of emotional blackmailing I feel . Infact kahi na kahi arohi aur ruhi k mind me b ye baat manjari ne hi Dali hai . And now there is no going back . Agar shadi ni Hui to arohi ruhi tandav macha denge .

Originally posted by: Sakshi-deewan

Ye karne k liye bahot bada Dil chahiye .!! My best wishes with your family 💞.

Log samajhte h ki aisi situation me sahi kya hai , lekin apni Bahu k liye aisa sochna n karna bahot himmat ka kam hai , aur jab sath me bacha bhi involved ho .kyuki dusri shadi k baad bacha bhi usk new father ki family ka hissa hoga aur log apne pote/ poti ko , apne khoon ko dur ni bhejna chahte .

Manjari ka bhi yahi scene hai . Jab arohi abort karwana chahti thi .

Tab mahima shefali infact Mimi ne bhi kaha ki akele life guzarna mushkil h , akele bacha palna mushkil h . But manjari was like main hu na .. sab ho jayega . Main palungi n all . She did not thought about arohi ki wo ready ni h is responsible k liye . Infact jab dusri shadi ki baat ayi tab bhi manjari was reluctant . It's very obvious ki manjari ni chahti h ki arohi shadi kark ruhi ko kisi aur family me le jaye .

To isiliye abhimanyu se shadi karwa k ghar me rakhna chahti h dono ko . Aur Rahi bat abhimanyu ki to she knows abhi never loved arohi isiliye humesha ruhi ka vasta deti h .. that is also a kid of emotional blackmailing I feel . Infact kahi na kahi arohi aur ruhi k mind me b ye baat manjari ne hi Dali hai . And now there is no going back . Agar shadi ni Hui to arohi ruhi tandav macha denge .

I totally understand your point ki woh ruhi ko ghar mai he rakhna chahti hai lekin yeh step usko ruhi ke birth ke baad immediately lena chahiye tha jab ruhi 1-2 saal ki toddler thi.

Ab ja kar jab bacchi 5-6 saal ki hui tab Abhimanyu par shaddi ka dabav zor se daalna start kiya ho aisa lagta hai.

Initial 2-3 saal mai he shaddi ho gaya hota toh jab ruhi toddler thi tab he sab kuch settle ho jata .
Waise bhi tab ki hoti yah ab , Abhimanyu ke liye toh sab forcefully he hai.

Abhi toh muje aisa lagta hai ki because akshara ka neil ke death mai bahot bada share hai so abhimanyu uski kimmat chuka raha hai and kandmata apne bade bete se chote bete ki maut ki vasooli kar rahi hai after all chota beta Gaya toh bade bete ki then wife ki wajah se hai so sari vasooli apne bade bete se karo.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

I agree but she knows akshu apne zindagi main aage bad chuki hai and abhi roohi se pyaar kartha hai. Roohi ke bina uska dil nahi lagtha aur woh anxiety pills bhi letha hai. Pichli baar jab akshu gayi thi woh soya nahi tha theek se ek saal. Iss bar bhi waisa hi situation ho aur abhi roohi ke wajah se zinda ho.

Isiliye roohi ka vaastha dekar hi shadi karwayi ja rahi hai.currently she is only considering abhi's happiness which is in roohi.

Woh selfish hai apne bete ke kushi ke liye. Woh kuch bhi kar sakthi hai abhi ke liye main usse support nahi karthi.pagal bhi. But mujhe is scene main kuch galath nahi laga kyunki abhir uska pota hai ye usse patha nahi hai.

Usko patha hai abhir ke wajah se roohi dukhi hai toh woh thoda rude behave kar rahi hai thaki abhir uske wajah se hi distance maintain kar sake.

Nahi ! Kandmata ne ruhi ke bade papa ko poppy banaya kyunki woh chahti thi ki neil ka baccha uske ghar mai he rahe!

Kyon yeh nahi socha ki bade bhai ki apni zindgi ho sakti hai , apna baccha ho sakta hai, chote bhai ka biwi baccha except karne ki koi zarurat kabhi nahi thi.
Bade papa reh kar bhi woh neil se kiya hua promise pura kar sakta tha lekin aarohi and kaandmata ne soch samaj kar bade papa ko poppy banaya iss hope mai ki Aj poppy banate hai and in future papa bana lenge.

Bade papa poppy toh bann gaye lekin papa banne ko razi nahi hai so kitna pressurise kar rahi hai apne bade bete ko chote bete ki beti ka vaasta de kar.

Jo ho raha hai woh kaamdmata and aarohi ki barso ki calculation ke hisab se he j raha hai, isiliye jab bade papa jo poppy bane unhone papa banne se mana kiya toh dono ko mirchi lagi.

Originally posted by: firewings_diya

thank god i am not the only one 🤗😆

Yes of course I am with you