What about Akshara's Pain?

As usual the story has conveniently been shifted in Abhimaniyu's pain. Let me explain. First during the shed sequence, he claimed that he was upset with Akshara not due to the DNA or the file thing, but because people were blaming her for it. Can someone please tell me who blamed her for it except for Abhimaniyu himself and his dearest mata shri? Literally no one. So that dialogue made no sense. He said he is upset that he cannot keep her happy. Dude, maybe if you stop yelling at your newly wedded wife and ignoring her and taunting her she might be happy? And now he is conveniently giving up for this same reason? So not even a month has gone by and he is giving up. No amount of pain or trauma or blah blah blah justifies his treatment of his wife. And anyone who says otherwise really isn't understanding how this behavior must be hurting Akshara. What about HER pain? What about HER trauma? What about HER emotions? She is also human. She also lost 3 parents, was abused her entire life by her sister, was sidelined by her family, and now is being mistreated by her husband. She does not go around pouring out her trauma and hurting people in the name of her feelings. Who is going to support her? Is Abhimaniyu ever going to realize how HIS trauma gives his wife TRAUMA? Why is the word TRAUMA only used in reference to Abhimaniyu? What separates these 2 people is how they respond to their TRAUMA. Abhimaniyu always takes it out on Akshara. Even though he was mad at Manjari yesterday, he still treated her with respect. Why cannot he afford Akshara with that same respect? Akshara on the other hand suppresses her pain. This relationship is not healthy.

Ur psts mke so much sense...... luv rdng ur takes......

Manjari & akshu also hs trauma........dey dnt go arnd hurtng oders...........

If abhi's behvr is jstfd........bcz f hs trauma........den aaru shud also b jstfd......lol.......

Currently abhi is punishing akshu for manjari. But he might soon realize he is doing wrong. I hope he will reach goenka house post realization. Somewhere he should understand he can not take everyone granted. I feel he allowed his trauma to overtake his thought process as a sentence of his comparison with harsh made him so much furious that he blurted nonsense.

I will not judge him for now will wait to see how he apologizes as i believe if he apologize to her with his whole heart i will forgive him 😊

I agree it seemed like they wanted to separate them for ratings and they just pulled out a reason from a hat.

I agree that it wasn’t really clear why the hell Abhi was angry with Ak. As a viewer, the reason for his anger on Day1 was way different from the final reason he gave her on the rainy day confrontation. Seems like they made it up as they were going.

In between the way he treated her was pathetic.

1. Not looking at her - no eye contact

2. No physical contact - no hugs, prying her fingers off of him, removing himself from hugs trips and falls.
3. Sleeping separately, shoving a bench between them

Abhi also encouraged Ak to make decisions based on her own judgments “jo tumhe sahi lage woh karo” - But when she did that by taking a stand for Manjari he regarded that as standing against him even though she explained to him that just because she didn’t support the divorce she wasn’t against him.

So clearly this hasn’t been fully thought out, especially the divorce part- it does seem like they wanted to separate them for ratings so they went ahead and did it.
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Originally posted by: harshadishotttt

As usual the story has conveniently been shifted in Abhimaniyu's pain. Let me explain. First during the shed sequence, he claimed that he was upset with Akshara not due to the DNA or the file thing, but because people were blaming her for it. Can someone please tell me who blamed her for it except for Abhimaniyu himself and his dearest mata shri? Literally no one. So that dialogue made no sense. He said he is upset that he cannot keep her happy. Dude, maybe if you stop yelling at your newly wedded wife and ignoring her and taunting her she might be happy? And now he is conveniently giving up for this same reason? So not even a month has gone by and he is giving up. No amount of pain or trauma or blah blah blah justifies his treatment of his wife. And anyone who says otherwise really isn't understanding how this behavior must be hurting Akshara. What about HER pain? What about HER trauma? What about HER emotions? She is also human. She also lost 3 parents, was abused her entire life by her sister, was sidelined by her family, and now is being mistreated by her husband. She does not go around pouring out her trauma and hurting people in the name of her feelings. Who is going to support her? Is Abhimaniyu ever going to realize how HIS trauma gives his wife TRAUMA? Why is the word TRAUMA only used in reference to Abhimaniyu? What separates these 2 people is how they respond to their TRAUMA. Abhimaniyu always takes it out on Akshara. Even though he was mad at Manjari yesterday, he still treated her with respect. Why cannot he afford Akshara with that same respect? Akshara on the other hand suppresses her pain. This relationship is not healthy.

Ok so I get what you are trying to say, My heart legit breaks for Akshu.💔

The girl always gets into problems with the purest intention.

I also do feel bad for Abhi but all this is due to his blind love for Manjiri which is really wrong, in his mad rush to blame Akshu he has clearly forgotten that someone did purposely leak the news of Neil being Illegitimate, well you know what ask me its AAROHI the fav. saali.

Only if Abhi set aside his anger, which he claims is for not keeping Akshu happy, could easily figure out Aarohi. Anger is his downfall n Manjiri is the trigger point.

N trust me it's funny how ppl want Neirohi to begin r u even srs Aarohi doesn't give a flying shit about Neil n then she'll make her way just to make Akshu's life hell which already is due to her n Birlas raaz ka pitara.

Its sawan n perfect time for Manjiri to go to Kaashi well I can sponsor the trip let her go visit n fix her mind. Ittihaas gava hain whenever Manju went to mandir she got her brain fixed, Ok not when she goes to feed the cattle but actual Mandir.😆

The woman is still up to stir trouble as she claimed that she'll make Akshu understands well it's her synonym for emotional blackmail.

Long point short I'm sponsoring Manjiri to go to Kashi all she needs to do is pack her bags, 🤪

Well I don't think akshu is going through any trauma. She is upset that she can't reach out to abhimanyu and the family might know that therez some issue between them and they might feel sad. Everything about her is connected to her family , not abhimanyu alone. She knows abhimanyu will come to her anyways . She didn't look traumatized to me in the bike scene ?😕 did she not want him to stop her while dropping her and doesn't she wanna go back when he comes to take her ?

Did abhimanyu blame her for DNA or file ? He blamed her for meddling in the family affairs when he asked her not to . It's his mom who blamed akshu for telling Neil ..He only said that truth had to come out one day or the other.so how does it matter who brought it out ?

He cannot keep her happy for the same reason. She won't be happy in the real sense, unless his family is happy..she took vows during their wedding for his family, how can she be happy if only abhimanyu is happy and not harsh manju and Neil ? If abhimanyu acted like nothing happened , she will call him insensitive and she will ask him "how could you be so normal?"

We need to understand this , (and probably abhimanyu also bec only then he will have a better married life ) , akshu is NOT hurt with anything that harsh , manjari , abhi or aru does. Manjari is NOT hurt with anything that harsh does. Both these women are happy in their bubble , they just don't want abhimanyu to react so that their dream of happy family remains intact . Take any situation from s3 , both act in this one direction.

I completely agree with you, abhi is messing up his words..ita like every day he finds a new reason to berate her...I don't get it, she tried to maintain her promise but if you don't trust her then no matter how much she will say tou won't believe her

And the most annoying character Manjari she is the reason for their rift and now she is again portraying herself as bechari...firstly she called akshu akshra then she is again on akshu, today whatever abhi said to her was correct.bcz this lady needs to be called out for her wrong doings bcz she always messed up and then wail like she is the most innocent person.

I get abhi has trauma and is upset for his mother Bcz his mother was cheated but it doesn't gives him the right the to project hia trauma on others..Hear out your wife, listen to her, try to understand her..I get it what akshu said was wrong her but thw comparison was in not that context..but the way he called their love and marriage a mistake is wrong in every context

I badly want him to know the whole truth Bcz we have enough of Arohi's white washing..and i just have a request that akshu should treat abhi the same way he did, ignore him, don't hear him and ignore his touches bc these past week have been a torture..since the day she entered this vulture birla case there wasn't a day she wasn't troubled or didn't cry....Her newly married life didn't have the honeymoo phase where couple are just all lovey dovey with each other but no here they are just staying away from each othet..literally the next day of her marriage she went to her pag phere being all sad and teary eyes and this hasn't stopped yet..idk what kind of love story they are trying to show here

Originally posted by: harshadishotttt

As usual the story has conveniently been shifted in Abhimaniyu's pain. Let me explain. First during the shed sequence, he claimed that he was upset with Akshara not due to the DNA or the file thing, but because people were blaming her for it. Can someone please tell me who blamed her for it except for Abhimaniyu himself and his dearest mata shri? Literally no one. So that dialogue made no sense. He said he is upset that he cannot keep her happy. Dude, maybe if you stop yelling at your newly wedded wife and ignoring her and taunting her she might be happy? And now he is conveniently giving up for this same reason? So not even a month has gone by and he is giving up. No amount of pain or trauma or blah blah blah justifies his treatment of his wife. And anyone who says otherwise really isn't understanding how this behavior must be hurting Akshara. What about HER pain? What about HER trauma? What about HER emotions? She is also human. She also lost 3 parents, was abused her entire life by her sister, was sidelined by her family, and now is being mistreated by her husband. She does not go around pouring out her trauma and hurting people in the name of her feelings. Who is going to support her? Is Abhimaniyu ever going to realize how HIS trauma gives his wife TRAUMA? Why is the word TRAUMA only used in reference to Abhimaniyu? What separates these 2 people is how they respond to their TRAUMA. Abhimaniyu always takes it out on Akshara. Even though he was mad at Manjari yesterday, he still treated her with respect. Why cannot he afford Akshara with that same respect? Akshara on the other hand suppresses her pain. This relationship is not healthy.

abhi is ndeed lke his papa..........2day wen kairav was trying 2 call him......& akshu overhrng it.....rminded me of Manjari..........

Manjri alwys hd 2 b wrrd abt dese thngs.......alwys wrrd abt hw harsh vll react & rspnd in fnctns......& hw he takes it on her......she was alwys on edge thinking.....nythng cn go dwn ny mmnt..........seeng akshu 2day wrryng abt abhi's gussa rminded me.of dat.........

also his bhvior on d jhoola......emtionally threatening.......sounds lke an abusive husbands.....Kartik ws also lik dat..........Bt Kaira HD nuf of an hunymoon phse..........

Here toh, abhi.....fell after deir 3 days of romance episodes.........hu knws hw deep d makrs r gnna mke hm fall........I vsh d sho just ends soonr....dan hang 2.watch harshad in such a role.......

Originally posted by: _charu_

Well I don't think akshu is going through any trauma. She is upset that she can't reach out to abhimanyu and the family might know that therez some issue between them and they might feel sad. Everything about her is connected to her family , not abhimanyu alone. She knows abhimanyu will come to her anyways . She didn't look traumatized to me in the bike scene ?😕 did she not want him to stop her while dropping her and doesn't she wanna go back when he comes to take her ?

Did abhimanyu blame her for DNA or file ? He blamed her for meddling in the family affairs when he asked her not to . It's his mom who blamed akshu for telling Neil ..He only said that truth had to come out one day or the other.so how does it matter who brought it out ?

He cannot keep her happy for the same reason. She won't be happy in the real sense, unless his family is happy..she took vows during their wedding for his family, how can she be happy if only abhimanyu is happy and not harsh manju and Neil ? If abhimanyu acted like nothing happened , she will call him insensitive and she will ask him "how could you be so normal?"

We need to understand this , (and probably abhimanyu also bec only then he will have a better married life ) , akshu is NOT hurt with anything that harsh , manjari , abhi or aru does. Manjari is NOT hurt with anything that harsh does. Both these women are happy in their bubble , they just don't want abhimanyu to react so that their dream of happy family remains intact . Take any situation from s3 , both act in this one direction.

I think that's what the OP is trying to say. The writers aren't exploring her trauma which does exist (i.e. her panic attacks). They're completely sidelining that and focusing on his emotions and what's he going through. Besides, trauma doesn't have to be on display to exist. Trauma is deep rooted and complex.

"akshu is NOT hurt with anything that harsh , manjari , abhi or aru does. Manjari is NOT hurt with anything that harsh does. Both these women are happy in their bubble , they just don't want abhimanyu to react so that their dream of happy family remains intact ." No idea what you mean by that because they do get hurt so......