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No it's not uncomfortable

My mom got married when she was 19 and my dad was 21, my mom didn't have much idea about physical intimacy and even pregnancy, I laugh at her but she was really naive, she didn't know about the term orgasm, she didn't even know from where she will deliver the child because my grandma didn't tell her anything

The perks of growing up with a brother is you get to know (if you are close) about both body, puberty changes and everything, my brother also told me about sex education and masturbation and I was also a science student like my brother so we had it in our biology syllabus, my mom caught us talking about these and she was really stuck up then and we told her it was normal, she was shocked to know that people openly talk about these things but then she came around, whenever she caught us now she asks us Ooo private talk? 😂😂😂

Now after I have told her about this things she comes to me if she needs to know something (the irony is she is the experienced one and I am the naive in real life, I have theoretical knowledge but no practical knowledge when it comes to intimacy 😂😂😂)(forever single 😂😂)

Originally posted by: serenepeace46

No it's not uncomfortable

My mom got married when she was 19 and my dad was 21, my mom didn't have much idea about physical intimacy and even pregnancy, I laugh at her but she was really naive, she didn't know about the term orgasm, she didn't even know from where she will deliver the child because my grandma didn't tell her anything

The perks of growing up with a brother is you get to know (if you are close) about both body, puberty changes and everything, my brother also told me about sex education and masturbation and I was also a science student like my brother so we had it in our biology syllabus, my mom caught us talking about these and she was really stuck up then and we told her it was normal, she was shocked to know that people openly talk about these things but then she came around, whenever she caught us now she asks us Ooo private talk? 😂😂😂

Now after I have told her about this things she comes to me if she needs to know something (the irony is she is the experienced one and I am the naive in real life, I have theoretical knowledge but no practical knowledge when it comes to intimacy 😂😂😂)(forever single 😂😂)

I totally get it... And that's why I want these topics to be talked about. Bcoz a lot of women still don't know.

Ek toh ye periods ke add par alag gussa aata hai. Like use a pad and you are jumping around, travelling, sleeping ... Bhai matlab kya dikkat hai tumahari

Whenever my mom caught us talking about it, I started asking questions to her regarding the topic... Bas baat khatam phir

Hahahaha. Totally get the last part 😂😂

Noor... Firstly excellent post

Seeing the viewership of yrkkh it's high time they should highlight things we actually face in reality and Abhi is a doctor so I think it would be easier for them to show a track on periods.

You know about me and both my Mom's and honestly both my mom's were too shy to share this with me they never told me about periods but thank god we had friends for educating us. My Badi ma is a school principal and I remember one day we have these sessions organised by brands to educate girls...when I came back from school they gave few sample and I gave it to Badi ma coz I didn't had my periods then and I was waiting to see how she reacts and that was the first time she said something about it and this conversation lasted for hardly 1 min and irony is she educated children at her own school but God knows why she never had a talk about this to her own kid and I was in 7th standard when we did this 1 min conversation.

But now I feel things have changed and finally my grand mother and both my Mummas talk about it and I am the one who keeps sharing new information with them. I am more vocal about periods and 'Hygiene'... I will give special emphasis on hygiene coz I have seen and heard people who do weird thing like not bathing for a whole week.

I never had a talk with my Papas none of them but now that moms faces issues related to it we indirectly talk about it and earlier I was shy to pick a sanitary napkin when I used to go for groceries with Papa but now I feel its natural and he knows about it and whenever I say I'm having stomach pain he let's me sleep which he doesn't likes otherwise.

I have a younger kiddo brother who will get to know about it soon and I'm planning to teach him all these things when the time comes.

It's time to normalise talking about menstruation and intimacy.

Originally posted by: ishqdinoorhai9

But I remember, due to hormonal changes I skipped my periods for two months and I was scared. Like yeah, I really thought I was pregnant (don't laught. I did not know the procedure then. Bas ye pata tha ki pregnancy mein periods nhi aate hai toh 🥲) and ko daant padi thi mere ko before she made me understand.

Ek funny incident share karti hoon , i was in 8th class periods start ho chuke the. Ek baar class ne nikalte time mein ek ladke se bahut zor se takra gayi thi aur uss time mere periods 4-5 days ke liye delay ho gaye by chance i was hell scared ki kahi mein pregnant to nahi hogayi un 4-5 days darr ke maare meri buri haalat thi kisi se share nahi kiya uke baad jab 4-5 days ke baad start hua periiods tab jaan mein jaan aayi , i did not know the whole process at that time .

Originally posted by: ishqdinoorhai9

Okay, so before anyone say to me that it's a family show and they could not show it, let me tell you, I know its a family show and that's why, it's all the way more important for makers to show this.

So I am assuming everyone know that I a 12th PCMB student and that requires us to talk about intercourse/coitus/sex and menstruation/periods.

We were taught, of course the way the teachers here teaches this subject. It was mainly about hormones. 12th really does not have any PG stuff either. But atm, I was asked to do a project. And since menstruation was something easy and I know about it, I chose it. So I did a survey. Boys were not really comfortable talking about it and a lot of girls that I knew does not talk about it to their brothers and fathers.

And I knew it but given that, I really talk about this (in length) with my elder brother, I found it weird that till now too we can't say periods, talk about touch, physical intimacy to our parents... Forget dad's, even not to mother's.

Tbh, it was not the same in my house either. I remember the first time I got my periods, I have just entered 7th and we were travelling the next day and boom. Here you go. I knew about it since one of my friend had already reached puberty in 5th.

So when I told this to Maa, she said don't talk about this in front of papa. I really found it odd but let it slide. Konsa main papa se jaa kar Roz gapiyati thi.

But my father knew this. But I can't talk about periods in front of him. Not to say that the travelling part was like a living hell.

But I remember, due to hormonal changes I skipped my periods for two months and I was scared. Like yeah, I really thought I was pregnant (don't laught. I did not know the procedure then. Bas ye pata tha ki pregnancy mein periods nhi aate hai toh 🥲) and ko daant padi thi mere ko before she made me understand.

And then mujhe meri behen ne bhi gyaan diya. I know I was a clown. But okay. Bacchi thi.

And in 7th, the cramps were literally killing me (it still does 🥲) and I was taking it out on my bro. And he finally got irritated and snapped.

Me: tu nahi samjhega... Bhaag Jaa yahan se varna Aaj maar daalungi tere ko.

Bhaiya: haan duniya mein toh ek tu hi akeli Devi, mahan, intelligent paida Hui hai na.. 'tu nahi smjhega' imitating me. Its a period, get up and go for a run.

I looked him, grunted and yelled for mummy. She ignored me (alag hi dukh hai bhai)

Phir usne mere ko takiye se maara tha. Nd he started talking about it. I was too tired to get up and kill him, so I listened to his blabber. He was just one year elder to me but pata nhi Kahan ka granth tha. Gadhe ko sab pata tha. Nd he later brought me a heating pad and nothing else.

Given that, I have a big family and two of my sisters are married, I saw them talking freely about this with their respective partners and later jija ji did talk to us about it.

Gradually, I started saying periods in front of papa, one day we talked about which pads are better and all. Main ab bhi papa se roz nhi gapiyati hun.

But I got to know one thing, a married women does talk about it to her husband and it's a domestic thing to bring pad, chocolates or whatever helps the lady to find relief.

But when it comes to talk about it to your brother and father, a male friend/colleague, it's suddenly a very very taboo-ed topic.

And that's why I want makers to show this talk between Akshara-Kairav and we may ladies might hate each other, but period pain, we cuss it together. So Akshara Aarohi too. Add Vansh. And the boys pampering their sister.

Of course, I would love to have this conversation between AbhiRa too but I guess, it will also be nice with KaiShu, Aarohi and Vansh.

It will promote a good msg too.

P.S. sorry for the story. I just shared so that you know why it's important for me.

My brother and I have always been very close too although he is pretty annoying sometimes😂. My mama passed away when I was a toddler so me, my sister and my brother were very close,and my sister told me about periods etc but my brother was the one who told me about stuff like pregnancy, sexual intercourse when I was in Year 10. I remember my brother used to get uncomfortable initially when I talked about my periods to him, but slowly he became more comfortable. He started doing little things, like when I had cramps he did the laundry and tiny chores so I could rest, and got me heating pads too without any shyness. In Islam, we don't need to pray when we are on our periods, so he would immediately know without me even saying it 😆

Now I'm glad that my husband is also very open about things like period pain and helps me manage it etc... Blessed to have someone like him in my life, coz when I was getting married I had just turned 18 I was very hesitant but he removed all of my bad thoughts about men and early marriages.

I would love to see something similar between Akshu and Kairav, their bond is precious these days. And seeing a conversation about menstruation between abhi and shy akshu would be a lesson to a lot of people that talking about your cycle to your husband is not wrong🤝.

As abhi is doctor I also want abhi talking about this ti akshu and make her comfortable about menstruation with him.

What is this about 😆 show main kuch hua kya i thought something was discussed in the show and you made a post.

If it was general discussion i agree 😆 i feel we should start thinking that we are humans who were animals than thinking we are highly intelligent animals 😂

This intelligence has ruined mankind where womens are suppressed and she can't openly talk about anything even she kind of hides her inner feelings toh ye toh kaha bathayegi 😄

I really want abhira to talk about sensitive topics. They might not go till extreme end as they are here to earn old granny nanny would not like it but atleast periods and other things which are taboo should be brought into light.

They should make understand that girls are not boj first of all. They should also starts discussing about why girl kids are not given equal importance by using anisha as she seems to be the harrassed by her parents. this way people will learn something from a show. 😆

Oh gosh, I didn't realise how taboo this subject is for many people!😲

What an eye opener. Thanks for posting such an excellent topic.👏

I guess I never thought about it. I'm in the UK, normal for us to talk about 'Auntie flow' visiting us monthly regardless of who is around. Never faced any issues. In my first career, my male colleagues (all older) would make me cups of tea or bring me lunch when I say I'm not feeling well - never really associated it with them being kind as I'm on period, just took it for granted. In one places we had unisex toilets with pad disposals/pad machines in open display and women talking moaning about period pain and guys commiserating. Can't even recall any negativity.. uncomfortableness....or maybe I wasn't looking for it because we talk about so openly to both women and men...

I talk about it openly with my husband, he buys my pads when I need them.

Schools in this country talk about periods, sex, pregnancy and etc very openly. Nowadays they talk about sex and relationship from primary school onward. Though I heard from some people that their partners find it a bit icky to talk about it I personally never encountered it.😔

Kudos to you all for talking and normalising what is a basic biological function.👏 Keep breaking those glass ceilings.🤗

Originally posted by: Zenab78

Noor... Firstly excellent post

Seeing the viewership of yrkkh it's high time they should highlight things we actually face in reality and Abhi is a doctor so I think it would be easier for them to show a track on periods.

You know about me and both my Mom's and honestly both my mom's were too shy to share this with me they never told me about periods but thank god we had friends for educating us. My Badi ma is a school principal and I remember one day we have these sessions organised by brands to educate girls...when I came back from school they gave few sample and I gave it to Badi ma coz I didn't had my periods then and I was waiting to see how she reacts and that was the first time she said something about it and this conversation lasted for hardly 1 min and irony is she educated children at her own school but God knows why she never had a talk about this to her own kid and I was in 7th standard when we did this 1 min conversation.

But now I feel things have changed and finally my grand mother and both my Mummas talk about it and I am the one who keeps sharing new information with them. I am more vocal about periods and 'Hygiene'... I will give special emphasis on hygiene coz I have seen and heard people who do weird thing like not bathing for a whole week.

I never had a talk with my Papas none of them but now that moms faces issues related to it we indirectly talk about it and earlier I was shy to pick a sanitary napkin when I used to go for groceries with Papa but now I feel its natural and he knows about it and whenever I say I'm having stomach pain he let's me sleep which he doesn't likes otherwise.

I have a younger kiddo brother who will get to know about it soon and I'm planning to teach him all these things when the time comes.

It's time to normalise talking about menstruation and intimacy.

Zenuu 🤗

That's the thing. Change is our being our constant. And YRKKH have huge viewership, so it's good that they start showing normal things like this which has been tabooed otherwise.

I have never been shy to talk about it but was advised to not talk about it made me feel weird a little when bhaiya started talking about it. But it was for a moment or two before I started talking too.

We still have a long way to go in ITV but I guess, star Plus having the most viewership, YRKKH (the only show I watch so want it to be here) start showing this.

Originally posted by: magicworld

Ek funny incident share karti hoon , i was in 8th class periods start ho chuke the. Ek baar class ne nikalte time mein ek ladke se bahut zor se takra gayi thi aur uss time mere periods 4-5 days ke liye delay ho gaye by chance i was hell scared ki kahi mein pregnant to nahi hogayi un 4-5 days darr ke maare meri buri haalat thi kisi se share nahi kiya uke baad jab 4-5 days ke baad start hua periiods tab jaan mein jaan aayi , i did not know the whole process at that time .

Nd I can totally relate to that fear of 4 or 5 days. I went through it for a month before I finally opened up to Maa. And actually the friend that I talked about, she did missed her period once and said that she is going to see a doctor for pregnancy. Pata nhi kyu ki thi itni bakwas but :) aur darr lag gya tha .

Its a funny incident now since we know what actually happens but during that time, we were shot scared bcoz people never talked about these things.

And that's the problem. Nd that's why, if they have the chance to explore, they should