Originally posted by: sheet_leher
Noor, thank you for writing this ❤️❤️
@bold : I love these points that you highlighted :')
Avni 🤗🤗
I was conflicted with the whole Manjiri issue too. I mean, I love my Maa and I know what she has done for me, no one can but I know she is human and she have the right to make mistakes. Manjiri is a mom but she is human but calling her names is so not done.
I have always been conflicted about my opinion of Manjiri. A lot of times, I let myself be guided by what was seen on the surface, went by appearance. Got angry for some of the things she did. And failed to see the depth behind the character. I failed to take into consideration the years and years of trauma this character has been through.
Manjiri was introduced as the home-maker. The female who keeps the house together. As Anand said, the two sisters took over the two fronts that define the Birla fam - hospital and home, and managed it gracefully. I always disagreed with Harsh when he used to belittle Manjiri, saying that even after having an army of staff, she's working like there's no tomorrow. That shows how he has absolutely no concept of a home. No matter how many people help you maintain it, it's your home. The main lady/man has to be personally involved in each and every thing. Because, for others, it's just a place of work, for you, it's the house of your family.
Exactly... It's her home. She is going to take care of every nook and corner. And even if she have an army of staff, to make them all do work, have a cordial relation of respect... It requires time and effort. To see that they have all the work to the T needs a keen eye. And to fulfil all the family members wishes, give them breakfast, tea, lunch etc on time requires her to always be on her toes. And to belittle this, someone has lost the sense of consideration which Manjiri have.
A very big reason for the dysfunctional relationship between Abhi and his father is how his mother is treated. Abhi's explosive anger and impulsive nature stems from this deep rooted helplessness, that he can't do anything to make his mother's life better. He wants to protect what's his, what's precious to him. And that's what he did with Akshu, ever since she became precious to him, his life, his impulsive nature took over to make sure she's safe and protected from everything.
And it's this need, to give his mother a better life, a happier life, he agreed to marry Aarohi. I know people say that he went and proposed and noone pointed a gun to his head and stuff. But imagine being in his position and think. We're all from the 21st century, and our first instinct is that no, I am going to take all the decisions by myself and noone can force me against my will. And I agree with it, it's how I think too. But sometimes, in life, we're pushed into corners, and we have to choose, we'll choose family before us. Always. It's how we were brought up. To make sure the family stays together.
Exactly and to see his mother justify his father abuses hurles her way, for a fact I know that my heart would have broken seeing that state because then, all it meant it she is too in acceptance of abuse as love that she has lost the meaning of right and wrong.
Abhi has lost the battle of love with Akshu and a lost man just wanted to give his mother her happiness. Her mother would have been happy with Akshu, he knows that but Akshu is not ready. His marriage is her happiness and he said yes to marry anyone. His father used it for his benefit. It's Harsh who is wrong and the jerk. But people give him a free pass like he was making a rose path for Abhi to walk on.
So, coming back to Abhi, yes, he agreed to marry Aarohi. Why? Because he saw how his mother genuinely believed that Aarohi could bring him out of his heartbreak. Manjiri sees Aarohi as a girl who jumped into the fire to save her son, a girl who convinced the girl who spurned her son's advances to go give a statement in his favour, a girl who always stands by her son and more importantly, a girl her husband approves off. The last line sums up everything. Till now, Manjiri struggles for her husband's approval. And she knows she will never get it. She knows her husband doesn't respect her..but with Aarohi, she sees hope. Hope that her husband might say that she can do things without creating a mess. And Aarohi loves her son. That's enough for her, to think of her as perfect. Aarohi can bring her Abhi out of his sadness and heartbreak. She's the perfect match, something Manjiri could never be.
And I have one more question, is expecting that Aarohi will make her modern wrong? She knows she is not able to help herself. Is asking for help and hoping to find a good friend in your daughter in law wrong? She is not asking or hoping Aarohi to solve her marital problems, she just invision that her presence will make Harsh approves of Her. And there is this stigma that doctor should marry doctor bcoz of their busy schedule (what I heard and have seen) toh it's kinda natural for her to think.
And Abhi can do anything for his mother. Uss halat mein unhe sirf Abhi ki chinta thi, uski khushi. And Abhi's happiness is linked to his mother. So he did what he thought would save her. He's destroying himself for his family, just like Akshu is for her sister.
But Abhi has always been open about it, why he's marrying Aarohi. He's told Aarohi that also. Ki all this is for his mother. Akshu, on the other hand, has been doing it without telling anyone. And for no actual reason except that it's Aarohi's zidd. But this debate is for another day xD
I still remember his dialogue and Aarohi dumbness 😆
And I know it doesn't justify things, but a woman who's been mistreated and gaslighted for years, this is how she'd think.
And it's not like Manjiri doesn't see Abhi's pain. She does. She doubts things too, but then, she convinces herself that Abhi is genuinely trying to move on, nhi toh woh Haan kyun karta? And move on krne ke liye ek pyaar krne wala saathi chahiye, jo woh Aarohi ko samajhti hai.
She is genuinely confused Avni. Till now Abhi has shared everything with her. Now he is faking a smile. Who once shared the smallest of his feelings has putting a mask and she is confused that whether the smile is real and if not, is she right or just another of her mind plays. She has been made to feel that she is wrong toh ab wo apni feelings khud hi samjh nahi paa rahi hai.
She doesn't know how Aarohi is. How will she? Noone knows. Noone except Akshu. And Akshu has been putting a parda on Aarohi's behaviour for years, toh she can't expect ki people will magically see her flaws. Kairav and Goenkas are too be blamed equally for this.
Manjiri has not even spent 12 hours with Aarohi... Goenkas have. They have seen Akshu and Aarohi fighting and Aarohi blaming her everytime for sirat death but still does not know her real intentions. Koi aur kaise samjhega?
Sorry for writing so much Noor :( I just have a lot to say about this :/ May have gone off topic. May not make much sense. Bas basic baat yeh hai, ki iss mess ke liye kaafi log zimmedar hai... And we have to see every aspect of each character to understand ki yeh sab kyun ho rha hai... Humans are all flawed, and we just need to take responsibility of that.
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